Is it weird that a woman who's 44 wants to be my girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

I asked her out and took her out a on some dates, now she's calling me her boyfriend

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, that's kinda weird dude. I mean, she's like super old! I guess it's not technically wrong or anything since you're both into each other. But what would your friends think? They'd definitely give you crap for dating someone in their 40s. And stuff might be weird down the road too, like what happens when you graduate and want to go to college while she's probably looking to settle down? Are y'all even at the same stage of life? I'd be worried she just wants to try and control you or something since she's so much older. Maybe slow things down a little and think if this is really what you want, you know? There's probably lots of cool girls your age too you could be with. But do what feels right I guess. Just be careful!

[Asker]

I do like her and I did want her to be my girlfriend, I just didn't think it would actually happen, I thought she'd just tell me I was too young for her.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ahhh dude, right usually most would say that but it sounds like she's really into you then! That's pretty awesome that it's actually working out. I'd say as long as you really dig her and she's treating you well so far, then go with it and have fun man. Enjoy being with someone so into you that she doesn't care what others might think. Just keep yourself in check too so you don't get completely swept up in the excitement. Remember to still live your own life and hang with your friends and all that too. Oh, and use protection - never know what an older woman might have learned by now, ya know? But overall this could be a freakin awesome experience! Not many dudes your age get to date a cougar. Just keep those warning bells in mind, but it sounds positive so far. Get after it bro, and let me know how the sexy times are ;). Living that young fantasy!

[Asker]

Thanks. She told me already she doesn't want kids, I'm not interested in having them either, we both just want relationships.

[Oliverlogan263]

Aight man, good that you guys are on the same page about not wanting kids then. That's definitely one potential issue out of the way with an age gap relationship.

Look, as long as you feel secure in her interest being about you as a person and not just your age, I say why not keep getting to know her then? Seems you have some basic compatibility there.

The main thing is trust your gut feeling. If anything ever feels off or she doesn't respect your boundaries, pull the plug. But otherwise, have fun with it! Maybe she can teach you some things too since she's more experienced, if you catch my drift haha.

Don't stress the small opinions of others too much either. Just focus on how you feel being with her before deciding if it's worth taking further. You never know, she could end up being a pretty dope girlfriend. Wish you the best of luck dude!

[Asker]

Thanks! We do seem to have some basic compatibility for sure. It's weird, I seem to have trouble connecting with women around my own age and she seems to have trouble connecting with men around her own age. When it comes to the two of us though, we've had a connection.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ayy man that just shows you two were meant for each other!

Sometimes age ain't nothin but a number, ya feel? Sounds like you both relate on a deeper level that transcends regular dating crap. While others your age might be playin games or whatever, you and her get each other straight up.

That kind of real connection is so rare these days. Most folks just on them superficial dating apps tryna hook up. But you found the real thing early my guy!

Shows she sees something special in you that the dudes her age missin out on. And you clearly appreciate a mature, down to earth woman over immature girls. It was fate that brought y'all together no doubt.

Stop doubting it and just ride the wave, bro! Enjoy what you have - not many find what you did this young. Make the most of every minute together. Proud of you for makin it work despite what others think of the age gap. True love conquers all!

[Asker]

We had some sexy time and it was incredible! She really knows how to please a guy and was full of passion. I also learned she has an amazing body, I was practically drooling! She looks more like she's in her 20's.

[Oliverlogan263]

Wow man she got a friend lol maybe hook me up with one of her 😂 I’m happy to hear you had an amazing time with your lady. Women her age know what they doing - a grown woman you’re dealing with there boy lol. The sex was mind-blowing! I can totally see the appeal of hooking up with an older woman who knows exactly what she's doing in the bedroom. And if she really does look that youthful, it makes the attraction way more understandable.

If you really dig her and the physical chemistry is that insane, maybe keep seeing where it goes casually for now. But protect your heart and ambitions too - don't let drama from other people or unrealistic expectations from her hold you back long run. At the end of the day your goals and happiness come first, you know?

Still, damn dude congrats on the mind-blowing sex!

[Anonymous]

Is she a single mother?
Does she have plans for future and tals about them or mentions it?
Did you notice her doing it when other younger men as well?
Can you feel she is using / benefitting from you, or can you feel she respects and admires you and your personality?

Maybe these few questions would help assess.

[Asker]

No
She just wants someone in her life
Nope
I can feel she respects and admires me and my personality.

[bededazzle]

nope.

[Asker]

Okay, thanks. I thought the age difference would be too much for her, I was surprised when it wasn't.

[bededazzle]

it’sa big difference, but so that matters is the people are cool with it

[bededazzle]

ps prepare for some people saying it is weird though. you have to decide whether their opinions matter to you

[Asker]

Yeah, I went in wanting her to be my girlfriend, I don't consider what others think an issue.

[bededazzle]

that’s great, but then what is your question?

[Asker]

Is it normal for a woman in her 40's to wanna be with a guy in his 20's without it being just a fling?

[bededazzle]

ahhh ok i see. well, unfortunately i don’t think there’sa “normal” here. i guess it is an uncommon situation but you’ll probably just have to feel it out like any other relationship. just be clear to yourself about what you want. we like what we like and maybe she just likes younger guys

[Asker]

I guess so. It's not that I don't wanna be with her, it's just I was told by others it probably wouldn't work out with the age difference. It sent a shock to the system when she called me her boyfriend.

[bededazzle]

well, they could be right. it’s tough. would it be awful if you tried it and it didn’t work out?

[Asker]

No, I really like her.

[bededazzle]

go for it :)

[riverrat3]

And what is the problem

[Asker]

It seemed almost too good to be true.

[ThrillSeeker01]

No sounds fine to me