Is it abusive if he says "see why nobody wants you"?

[Anonymous]

[BoopBoopBeep]

Not if that's really why nobody wants you and he's trying to make you self aware.

"You only shower once a quarter, that's why nobody wants you."
"You starved your pets to death because you were on a week-long crystal meth bender"
"You tried to eat the neighbors kids when you were high on LSD, thats' why nobody wants you"

Sometimes we need to hear the unpleasant stuff too.

[Asker]

he didn't give any explanation

[BoopBoopBeep]

Well what was the context. He just opened the door and said it one day? You have no idea what he was talking about because he got out of the shower and said it as he was going to work? You're at dinner and he goes "is this napkin eggshell or light cream, and that's why nobody wants you?"

You're leaving out a lot here.

[bededazzle]

it’s not necessarily abusive but it’s not the best way to be critical

[LazerBean]

Depends on you, tbh. There are lots of people who need to be told that.

[jahaims]

Sounds like someone trying to make you see a flaw so you can correct it

[Anonymous]

Usually, no. A lot of people need to know. Work on yourself and be better.

[The-Stud]

Yes verbally