Was it weird to wait outside for a girl I met to get her number?

[Anonymous]

Last week I was in a group at a bar and was talking with one of the girls and thought she was attractive and as we were all leaving I waited outside so that I could get her number when she walked out. I think I caught her off guard but she gave me her number and never responded.

[Oliverlogan263]

Eh, maybe waiting outside like that came on a bit strong bro. Here's how I see it:

- You guys were just chatting in a group setting, so she probably didn't think it was headed anywhere romantically yet since you barely knew each other.

- Getting blocked in like that when she's trying to leave could feel a little trapping or pressuring to her, even if you didn't mean it that way.

- Better move may have been to casually say "hey, we should hang out again sometime" while you were all still at the bar. Then let her offer her number willingly rather than seeming like you were ambushing her after.

- Now she's got this story in her mind of you lying in wait rather than two people shooting the shit and mutually deciding to link up again.

Don't beat yourself up, we've all done some cringe shit when we like someone! If she doesn't text, just leave it be. But in future, play it cooler - wait for clear signs of interest first before busting a move like that again, ya feel me? You'll get better at reading the vibes over time.

[Orangekiss]

Do you have any idea how many guys probably did the same as you? She probably thinks all guys are mashers now. I would let it go and move on. But if she never answered your calls it should clue you in that she is not interested, or gave you a fake number.

[Anonymous]

ohh that's an iffy one with me, it would all depend on what happened in the talk

[strateguy632]

not weird