When you kiss your s/o do you feel anything?

[Anonymous]

Because I don't. It just feels like kissing and nothing else. I thought by now I would feel something strong for my boyfriend while kissing but I don't.

Am I supposed to feel anything?

[lily_of_the_valley]

Do you feel anything when you guys embrace or look at each other? If not, you might not be in love with him. You might just care about him.

[Asker]

A little. I feel something sometimes when we're intimate (have sex) but not all the time and never when we kiss.

[lily_of_the_valley]

Do you feel connected to him on a deeper level?

[Asker]

I'm not sure. It feels surfaced a lot of the time. Like I'm just with him just because it feels good to have a boyfriend and not because I really truly have a deep connection with him. I'm trying to feel that deeper connection but I struggle with it, I'm ngl.

[lily_of_the_valley]

I think you should maybe break up with him. It doesn't sound like he's the one, ya know?

[Asker]

Yeah perhaps you're right. I just don't know how. He told me today that I made him believe that he would never be left again. His past is very dark and he has abandonment issues.

[lily_of_the_valley]

Oh dear. That's a difficult situation to be in. The real question is would you rather prioritise someone else's happiness or your own?

[Asker]

That's true. I will eventually have to get out of it and maybe say let's just be friends but it's going to be the hardest thing I've ever had to do.

[lily_of_the_valley]

I know. I'm so sorry.

[Asker]

Thank you. I appreciate you for commenting and trying to help.

[lily_of_the_valley]

No problem!!!

[Anonymous]

I do. It’s not always a strong feeling but it’s always there. Even when I’m mad at him I still feel warm on the inside when I hug/kiss him.

[Asker]

Oh ok. Glad that you feel something. I wish I did.

[Opinion Owner]

Have you ever felt anything at all with him? What about when the two of you kissed for the first time?

[Asker]

When we kissed for the first time, I was really drunk. So I honestly can't say how I felt other than this big rush that came over me from being kissed unexpectedly. I feel for him a little when we have sex but that's about it.

[andreasderjuengere]

A curtain will rise. Violins will yowl in their highest tunes. A crowd of pigeons will take to the skies. Angels will drop rose leaves.

Kissing is nice. But yes: that's all about it.

[Asker]

I wish it felt like that.

[Anonymous]

Well in my case, I feel like I'm in heaven and everytime we kiss I melt like ice cream in the sun

[Asker]

Wow I wish it felt like that tbh.

[Opinion Owner]

Well thanks but I wonder why it isn't the case with you..
If I may ask.. are you like not physically attracted to him?

[Asker]

I am. At least I think I am.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh I see.. and.. uh.. is this feeling only in the case of kissing or?

[Asker]

Yes only when we kiss. I feel strongly about him when we are intimate sexually.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh that's better ! 😌