Would you date someone with a traumatic past?

[litty736]

Lets say the trauma found that person. In other words they did nothing to bring it up on themselves. Life happened to them.

[Lliam]

Yes. The most wonderful girlfriend I ever had revealed early on in our relationship that she had been sexually molested by her step father for over 10 years from a very young age until she reached puberty.
It really messed her up. She became an alcoholic, got married and had a son when she was 17, got divorced, gave custody of the child to her husband a couple years later, and moved away.
I was 36 and she was 30 when we met. She had been in counseling for years, kicked alcohol, gained a career, and was supporting herself. She had a great relationship with her son and they visited each other often.
She had become a remarkable woman. I wound up loving her with all my heart and she loved me.

[sawno]

Yeah, i'm fine with it and usually a great boyfriend in those cases. Of course I have my own boundaries though so if her trauma causes her to be toxic towards me i'd move on.

[Berethor]

As long as it not rape maybe, I think that my past was not easy as well.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I would be more likely to. I've had a traumatic past too, and I would be more able to connect with someone who could understand my feelings about that.

[AaronKrieger]

Most people do and all my exes have.