https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/plus-size-women-deserve-to-find-love-on-dating-apps-too--not-be-treated-like-a-dirty-little-secret-150836128.html
Plus-size women deserve to find love on dating apps too — not be treated like a 'dirty little secret'
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Talk to any plus-size woman who dates men about her experience on The Apps™, and you'll likely hear some version of a common refrain. Men will explicitly tell plus-size women that they only want to hook up with them or form a "casual" relationship (even if their dating profile states otherwise). The implication is that women in larger bodies should be grateful for any attention they receive — and that they aren't worthy of being wooed in public.
This phenomenon is ubiquitous enough that it shows up in pop culture, time and time again. In Shrill, for instance, Lindy West shares the story of a college classmate who was happy to sleep with her but refused to take her on dates where they might be seen together. When conventionally attractive men fall for plus-size women, there must be something wrong with them, or so the narrative goes. And those women pay the cost, with many left wondering if that hidden-from-the-public affection is all they deserve.
After ending a decade-long relationship, I created dating profiles on Tinder, Bumble and Hinge in 2021, my first time using the apps. I expected to get messages from trolls telling me I was unhealthy or would never find a partner, but I hadn't expected so much attention from men who didn't want to date me publicly.
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