Is it normal to feel weird about dating for people who've never dated before?

[Monalisa77]

Like i got freaked out just cos a random guy stroked my hand, i was literally left in shock😂is it normal or am i just weird

And i know re my age, but im mentally 21 so i feel im on the right path, im doing open uni now so im at the same level as other 21s starting out to explore life including romance i guess😂

[serious]

Yes that would be normal for someone who has never dated before.

[serious]

Thanks for the MHO

[LiamJHayden]

Yes, it is normal to feel weird during new experiences.

[Rei13]

I mean you’ve never experienced it before so I think that is normal, I felt that way when I was a teenager prior to experiencing my first relationship too

[Monalisa77]

Thanks, i mean I've kissed guys on the cheek so i at least know what face touching feels like😂

[Rei13]

Spicy 😂 that stills counts for sure

[Amara_09]

I have never dated.


I am actually the worst when it comes to dating because the way I am wired, my dirty mind has control over my mouth sometimes.


A guy once told me that he thought I was so experienced in dating and I probably dated around so much……….. I give off that playful rough feeling vibe yet I have not being used a hole if you know what I am saying

[Monalisa77]

Maybe y guys might think i have then😂

[Amara_09]

In your case the guy stroked your hand,

If I was in your shoes, I would have stroked his thigh

[Amara_09]

This usually happens with me, I like touching thighs and their neck

[Monalisa77]

😂I was in shock. That happened in aug n I've not seen him since September! (there's more on my profile)

[Amara_09]

You probably wasn’t expecting him to stroke your hand , that’s a nice guy right there

[Amara_09]

Wait……did you not like it?

[Amara_09]

Where else did you want him to stroke you?

[Monalisa77]

No i did was just in shocl, its half 4am here the rest I've posted qs about it

[Amara_09]

In shock? Lol, you think a guy touching you like that is shocking? Wanna hear something shocking?

The other my friend and I were hanging out. We have a habit of being touchy with each other like in a playful way. My friend dared me to give her a hickey…….. so I looked down and start giving her a hickey on her hand. This guy friend of ours , he stroked my head and pulled my sports bra lightly till I felt the rubber part hit my back and he pulls my head and bit my cheek…since I was sitting with my legs wide open, he gave me a one light pat on my Vagina……oh I was shocked

[Amara_09]

You know what I did after? I was too shocked and my friends were laughing at me because of how I reacted. Inside my brain, I was shocked by that but my face, they told me that I really looked like I was happy.

[Monalisa77]

It never happened to me before, im not that pretty dont wear make up n people generally don't bother with me, even my mum thought it didn't happen "oh maybe he just slipped gis hand" 😳

[Anonymous]

As long as you spend time around people who aren't real or their true selves, then you will feel weird. We live in a fallen world so the chances of meeting the 'fallen' are high. If you meet a true man of God, it's likely you will not feel weird about any of that.

[Monalisa77]

How can u tell that😂

[Opinion Owner]

You tell me... think how you would feel being around a man that was of God, honest, calm, wise, gentle, strong, accepting and trustworthy. Most strange feelings come from picking up on a person being the opposite.

[Monalisa77]

True, i dont want anyone horrible but we don't know who s genuinely nice when were out in public

[Dr_CEI]

I would say it's perfectly normal to feel weird each time you experience a new situation. A first touch of a body part. Your brain needs to work out how you feel each time. Experiment and try new things, test the water and take your time

[Monalisa77]

Ye it was similar to when a guy brushed against my arm but not as intense

[Dr_CEI]

Is that the most you have felt with someone? How did it make you feel? Did you want to experience it again?

[Monalisa77]

N the stroking my hand yesh (2 diff guys) one was like go away i wasn't feeling well,(even tho i liked him, i didn't know it was him and i didn't mean that literally) the 2nd time i was in shock n felt really intense that i neeeded water😂😂

[Monalisa77]

Well the next time i seen that guy after he did it, he pointed his hands out to me together and was doing weird mouth/eye contact things, i think he wanted me to do it to him but i had no clue and im too shy

[Dr_CEI]

Oh wow ok that's interesting. So the second time you wanted to feel that again? Did it give you any sensations in other parts of your body?

[Monalisa77]

**the 1 who stroked my hand

[Dr_CEI]

Yes, did you want to feel him touch you again?

[Monalisa77]

Yeh like my whole body felt weird, i couldnt move for like a few seconds i just kept staring at my hand, i mean i noticed he was alright looking when i first met him but i wasn't fussed, yet when he did that i was constantly check3him out😂(i think he was doing the same to me too but I've not seen him since then)

[Monalisa77]

The rest is on my page about it if u haven't seen

[Monalisa77]

Well the next time i seen that guy after he did it, he pointed his hands out to me together and was doing weird mouth/eye contact things, i think he wanted me to do it to him but i had no clue and im too shy i put this up there but u may have missed it

[Dr_CEI]

I will explore your page to further my inquisitive mind

[Monalisa77]

😂Its half 3 here I've just took sleeping meds so hence y i can't type too much atm

[Dr_CEI]

Yes I'm from the UK myself

[Monalisa77]

There r pictures of me after he did it and im smiling like a chesire cat😂😂where as he was concentrating on what he's doing n doesn't seem to have much reaction, bc tbats why i was in shock he was actually checking me out the next time

[Dr_CEI]

OK that's great that you felt that way! Is it someone you know do you see him often?

[Monalisa77]

haven't seen him since then, he's actually on my fam tree but were not related im just obsessed with it, I've tried everything to figure it out or to reach out to him but with no luck, i keep hoping ill see him again i could next Friday but it depends if he goes and or if he's stilll interested n doesn't thinkk im a weirdo now

[Dr_CEI]

Well I wish you all the very best! At the risk of being to forward, have you touched yourself? Did him brushing against you give you a similar tingle?

[Monalisa77]

Haha no and that was a different guy from two years ago who did the arm thing, no not the same as the stroking. Its difficult to explain, stroking felt more sexual

[Dr_CEI]

OK. I appreciate your honesty. And think I might understand to some extent

[Monalisa77]

Do u think guys probably like me if these things r happening to me? Cos i read about them flirting with girls who r ugly but those things are way more natural and unexpected to be using

[Monalisa77]

There was 1 time i was walking thro dublin in the summer and i was roasting hot, i waa taking off my coat and put it on my suitcase thing (wasn't staying over it was just easier to pull than carry a bag) and this guy walked past n nearly walked into me i think and he looked back and we had a sort of weird eye contact n he smiled, i thought at the time it was well weird but the more these things happrn im like wtf? Maybe not as bad as i think i am😂

[Dr_CEI]

I'm sure guys like you. And yes a gentle stroke would definitely be considered flirting. Men flirt all the time with everyone

[Monalisa77]

True but the guy who stroked my hand was staring too and defo checking me out, it sjust annoying y theyre not asking me out:(

[Dr_CEI]

Nothing unusual about checking you out and making eye contact. I'm sure you are perfectly lovely

[Monalisa77]

N my cousin said he wasn't like that with her n i didn't see him like that with anyone else, despite my other cousin insisting but the staring wasn't like i was looking at him

[Monalisa77]

Its my teeth that wea rme down im ggonna try better at doing them when my sleep improves hopefully after London

[Dr_CEI]

It's OK for us as humans to look at one another

[Monalisa77]

True it just never happened like that be4, i get comments like r u sure it actually happened and every person i tell im trying to find a boyfriend they come out with crap that makes ir seem like theyre telling me im too ugly to find a boyfriend

[Dr_CEI]

I do hope no one tells you that you are too ugly for a boyfriend! Their is someone out there for all of us. I myself married an amputee

[Monalisa77]

They dont say it directly but they tell me there's no pt trying to find one. So pretty much saying noone is gonna date u

[Monalisa77]

I've yet to find someone i meet who is encouraging me to find one. Maybe apart from my brother and sis in law to be

[Monalisa77]

But my bro lives in Scotland n sil too far away sbes tried to help when she's around

[Dr_CEI]

That's awful

[Monalisa77]

Its like people can't tell im miserable lol

[Dr_CEI]

They should encourage you more everyone deserves love, happiness and to fulfil their desires

[Monalisa77]

Exactly i keep telling mum. About my thoughts being so intense i daydream about being close to a guy it won't go away unlesss i experience it

[Dr_CEI]

And that's the right thing to do! Absolutely keep pushing for it. The right guy might be just around the corner. I can tell that you so need to feel like that again

[Monalisa77]

I've craved affection my whole life. Im defo a guy girl even get more along with guys than girls. I've had a lot of close platonic stuff with guys

[Monalisa77]

And I've had more besties with guys, at a diff venue (same thing as the guy staring etc) i get along with one of the guys there n he's 1 i talk to the most but its not as mutual as id like but u can't force people to talk

[Dr_CEI]

I get it. Even if you never go beyond caressing and cuddles that is still intimacy to you and we all need that

[Monalisa77]

I wonder if its daddy issues bc of y i crave mens affection so much

[Dr_CEI]

I agree it has to come naturally

[Dr_CEI]

Your a woman, you want a relationship with a man that's pure instinct. Only you will know if you have daddy issues I can't comment on that

[Monalisa77]

he's not v nice just does the stuff cos he has to kinda way, wouldve been better off if he had no kids

[Monalisa77]

Probs y im so picky with men too, if i find 1 he be the opposite

[DarkWinterNights]

I haven’t dated in a long time and it’s getting weird to even think. Fostering a relationship is one thing, but I wouldn’t know how to start anymore.. Especially with how complicated and messy dating has become.

[Carguy92]

Yes it is something new for you. Think of It as you have to stumble and fall before you can walk.

[Anonymous]

If you’ve never done it then yeah it’s normal, you’ll get used to it eventually. Physical touch can be awkward and intense sometimes

[Danny_dan92]

I’ve had relationships and it feels weird

[Monalisa77]

Like meeting someone new?

[Danny_dan92]

Dating.

[laly520]

its fine by time one gets used to it

[Francesca1994_]

A bit awkward take but take it slow.