If I am going on a trip to visit a woman and she will be doing all the driving, because it’ll be in her part of the country should I offer this ahead?

[Anonymous]

should I just be like if it’s OK with you I’ll take care of our meals since you are doing all the driving there. Is that something I should offer? But then we might have entry fees for other stuff, so I feel like I should pay for the bulk of it but I know if they’ll add up to being too much. or maybe I should just get there and pay for the first one and see what happens after that.

[Oliverlogan263]

Yeah man, I'd offer to help pay for stuff ahead of time. Not like you expect her to chauffeur you around all weekend and pay for everything. That'd be whack.

I'd message her something like "Yo just wanted to say thanks for showing me around your neck of the woods! Least I can do is grab our meals so you don't gotta worry about that while you're at the wheel. Lmk if there's any other activities or spots you wanna hit up too, I got you covered."

That way she knows you plan to pitch in and doesn't feel used. Girls appreciate that kind of thoughtfulness, my dude.

Paying for the first meal is a smooth move too in case she insists on trading off. Shows you came prepared to hold it down financially since she's doing all the driving.

As long as you aren't counting nickels and dimes the whole time, I'm sure she'll be stoked to kick it and won't mind splitting stuff after you grab that first one. Better to offer up front than have her stressing about money behind the scenes, ya feel me?

Just wanna make a chill weekend about bonding instead of transactions. You got this fam! Hit me up after and let me know how it goes.

[fafylone]

You are nice guy and thoughtful. Ask her for your opinion and she will appreciate your thoughtful behavior. Talk to her and see what she will answer.