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I dated this one girl long ago who originally seemed so nice and I was so into her. So I blew off all my friends for a whole month dating her since I was so into her and, up to that point, she seemed totally sane so far.
After a month or so, I started to feel guilty blowing off my friends all the time so one of my friends had a birthday party and invited me. So I told her while having dinner with her at a restaurant that I want to go to my friend's birthday party and invited her to join me.
Then she went berserk and I saw this new crazy side to her. I forgot exactly what she said but she was saying that if I cared about her, I would not go to the party and just spend the time with her instead. Then I didn't see the big deal because she's welcome to come along and my friends are nice (she hadn't even met them).
After that she made this massive scene in the restaurant and stormed off crying. So I thought, "Geez, she's being totally unreasonable," and got the bill and decided to head to my friend's party. Then on the way there in a taxi, she called me completely hysterical shouting, "WHY DIDN'T YOU CHASE AFTER ME?"
So initially I was still trying to be very gentle but it worked its way to the point where she was pushing me so hard and I ended up being really mean to her and broke up with her so harshly. Felt a bit guilty about it but she was so unreasonable.
After that I never blew off my friends when I started dating. I figure doing that might have made her think I would spend all my time with her and no one else.
I'm not proud to admit this but yes I have. Twice now that I think about it I'm a horrible person. The first time was in grade 8 where this girl liked me but I liked somebody else at the time. She left me a note in my locker and I just pretended not to see it and threw it away. The second time with her we were in like the schools what is it I guess janitor area getting supplies. And she's straight up said I liked you thankfully I was facing away so I just pretended I didn't hear it. The second time was extremely brutal it was last year with somebody else though at school hit me up through Instagram something people should know about me is I'm extremely awkward I'm actually in my first relationship that started the other day with my best friend which is weird to me. But I straight up replied to her confessing sorry I'm gay and immediately closed the computer in the library. 💀 not even gay I just really didn't want to date for some reason. What's the first girl I liked somebody else at the time but we never got together but it would feel weird to be with somebody when I have feelings for somebody else
yesss i have had to be harsh b4 but not becuz i wanted to be harsh😵💫😵💫
with certain guys that seem to think they know who i should date/be attracted to better than i do!!🙄🙄 seems to be a common thing w some guys 💀
Yes, the men who think no means yes or think they're owed a 15 page peer reviewed research paper on why I won't let them fuck me.
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I try to be nice and polite.
Nope not even once I'm always as polite and respectful as I can be because I don't want to hurt their feelings.
Now if one were to ever start acting bitchy or have an attitude or not take no for an answer then I'll be harsh but so far I haven't had to go that far.
I try to reject them as gently as possible.
Nope. Not even when they were asking for it.
To the women on here voting yes. On one end I commend your honesty. I think some of the other women voting B are lying.
However a lot of women go through their lives never experienced real rejection. Some men on here not only have been rejected romantically but literally being rejected as human beings.
Very few women will ever experience that type of visceral rejection in their lives i. e. the feeling of being severed like you are lower then human. Not to say every man has experienced that but I have. And it’s because men are not special just for existing.
Not directly. But this one girl who I just was having a friendly conversation with at a party decided she was after me, and she was my buddy’s girlfriend’s friend, so she was in my general orbit. I literally hid out in my room a few times and instructed my roommates to tell her I wasn’t home. My car was right outside, she must’ve known😂 I felt bad, but she was INTENSE, just started randomly dropping by, so that was too much for me.
I had to once with one of my ex-friends. That guy was so desperate for sex, or to even have a guy to lay in bed with and cuddle (his words, not mine) that he was harrassing and spamming me. He seemed like a great guy in the first months, but I slowly noticed the desperate/toxic side crawling up (and him having feelings for me) when I read back some textmessages and noticed all the times he was flirting with me, asking me out on dates and double/trippletext me with emoijs when I didn't replied fast enough. After that my view on him completely changed and I slowly stopped replying to him. After a while he kept asking to go to a hotel together. I said no. He asked again. I said no. he asked again a lot. After a while I got annoyed and told him to piss off, to stop contacting me and I blocked him.
When my first ex boyfriend tried contacting me not so long ago in Nov, my reply was ''I don't have an ex, bye''. I then proceeded to blocking him.
Then just week later someone tried lovebombing me by saying the hateful words ''love you so much'' (mind you, we never even met in person) and I said something along the lines ''I'm tired of lovebombers, bye''.
Some guys don't understand "no". They sometimes don't even understand "f*ck off". This is when my meanness and abusive language reach their peak.
I’ve never been directly asked out before, so can’t say I have. I have been in situations where a girl was clearly interested in me. But I had zero interest in them so usually I thought of an excuse why I had to leave or would purposefully sabotage myself by simply turning off my filter and just saying the first thing that came to my mind which was usually non-PC
No, I try not to be mean to people. I just say nah and if they hang around I let them but most people get bored and leave on their own. I usually get mean remarks said to me when they leave tho lol.
u never had the need to, kindly does work... has worked so far, anyway
Way too many times, especially as teenager.🙈
Who hasn't. Yet harsh depends on what's harsh. If a chick isn't your type, then there's a way to be politely direct that you're either not interested or you're taken (without lying) lol 😭😆
Well, yes I have rejected but not harshly. In future also I will reject politely.
Being harsh will be my last option
It probably seemed harsh, but there’s not many options to be both clear and gentle when telling someone you’re not interested. And personally I think clarity is far more important
It wasn't supposed to be harsh but I rejected her in front of her friends 💀💀.. it was harsh but what should I do? fake it and then ghost her later? lol I don't know.. but I do hate ghosting !..
No, I feel way too bad to! I usually have to lie so I don’t kill their confidence.
I don’t think so, I try to be kind and respectful to let them down gently.
i've been hit on by gay men at bars and not gay so what can you do but be blunt that your not interested
Yes. She was acting in a very rude and intrusive way. She was actually trying to set me up with her sister who was sitting nearby.
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