Girls, how do you feel about men who don’t have a heavy presence on social media?

[Kpersaud2]

Are men without social media a red flag? If so, why?

[SueShe]

Men on presence on social media ARE are red flag, just like women that are on social media.

Social media is the gangrene of the 21st. century and to me, those that are on social media have basically nothing else to do in life but to go on it and waste their lives away.

Unfortunately, it is so difficult to find any people that are not on social media and that is also one of the reasons why I don't date, simply because I don't feel like being with someone that looks at his smartphone while having breakfast, while going for a walk and probably even while copulating.

[Kpersaud2]

I agree people are glued to the phones these days more than ever but that’s because social media has become a major influence in society today.

I feel life can be balanced with social media but people struggle to learn how to balance. Use phones but know how to put them down and engage in good conversation with their fully undivided attention, learn to live in moments more because that’s when it will hit more than any video or photo you took can when you watch it later, etc.

[SueShe]

Social media is the main reason why people fail at communicating on a person-to-person basis, that they lose the ability to express themselves correctly and that they don't master grammar anymore.

[Jessica405]

No, they are not a red flag. They are sensible guys that don't have a phone glued to their ears.

[Kpersaud2]

Glad to hear this opinion exists

[Jessica405]

Thanks!

[Jessica405]

Thank you for MHO!

[Minahh]

It depends yes it can be a red flag - guys I've dated who didn't have the picture of their face nowhere turned out to be covert narcissists and heavy manipulators. So I probably wouldn't date again someone who doesn't have a profile pic of themselves. If they don't have social media at all then I'm fine with that but they better not have a stalking account when I find out about that it's over for them.

[Kpersaud2]

Makes sense

[Little_Bumblebee]

Most of the guys I know have a very small presence on social media. So it's normal to me.

I only have one guy friend who posts photos of small rubber ducks on Instagram. And that's about it.

I have a close friend who doesn't even have a profile picture.

[rosemilk]

don't care. i'm assuming teens would care tho.

[Kpersaud2]

Yes but older I get and older women I date, I’m seeing a lot of younger mind sets

[rosemilk]

that's weird because you'd think it would be the opposite. we have things to do other than worry about if a guy is present on social media lol

[Kpersaud2]

Agreed but it’s what I been seeing lately

[laly520]

nothing

my boyfriend barely use any social media n the only account he has is followed by few people whom he knows

[Kpersaud2]

This is me but I have none, how old is your boyfriend? Do you ever have arguments over social media?

[laly520]

he turned 27 yo
we dont argue at all about it
in fact he willingly gave me his social media accs
technically I can take a look whenever I want plus as I said there isn't anything going on there
he barely use it

[Kpersaud2]

If he’s willing to give acc info, he usually has nothing to hide so good for you and him.

[IslaTheWitch]

I have no presence at all, so I don't care :D

[Muthaginge]

It’s great!!! It means they got something better going on than being on a computer or phone. Unless he was in the business… then I would think he should work harder 😂.

[Lowiu]

My boyfriend has almost none

[Kpersaud2]

And are you active on social media?

[Lowiu]

Yes a bit

[Kpersaud2]

And does social media ever cause an issue between you?

[Lowiu]

Like not really I just do t do certain things

[Kpersaud2]

So you both limit activity on social media and do either you ever deviate? What type of ground rules have you applied

[Lowiu]

Like only ground rule is to not give out our socials to anyone

[Lowiu]

I mean everyone

[PeachyPie93]

No I think that is better, but do guys really not have it? I have to doubt that.

[Booklover_90]

No. Not everyone is caught up with social media. Nothing wrong with that. 😊

[Tharithi]

Green flag

[Kpersaud2]

Why do you say that?

[Tharithi]

It’s teenager behaviour when a guy has social media presence. Real men don’t scroll insta

[Kpersaud2]

Like that opinion, thank you.

[Ms_Facesitter]

My boyfriend's like that. And I don't mind at all.