Is it fair to say some people that you have dated, you can't give anyone reasons, as to why you were attracted to them, you just inexplicably were?

[Extraterrestrial1999]

Yes

No, I had a lot of reasons, as to why I was attracted to everyone that I've dated

[Anonymous]

I once decided to make a guy fall in love with me because he would make girls fall in love with him and then he would drop them/ leave them all broken-hearted.. so I made it my mission to do that to him.

i want to say I wholeheartedly regret I ever did that. Nobody should ever play with someone else’s feelings.

anyway. He had the most perfect body but I wasn’t attracted to him because he’s a tad bit shorter than what I’m naturally attracted to and his face… well his face I always thought was super ugly.

i tried to see what type of girls he was attracted to and I tried my best to be just that! But extra! And sweet and lovable in my own way.

in the process i had to lie about a few things to become his perfect attraction..

so after some time.. I actually fell in love with this man.. and it was horrible because I had lied so much I couldn’t say the truth and still expect him to see me the same or to want to stay with me..

he begged me a lot to stay with him and to think rationally and not throw this away but I couldn’t because I myself was almost an entire lie. And he told me he knew when he first met me that I would be the one that would make him pay for everything he’s ever done and how he had tested girls in the past..

i felt awful.. even now remembering it makes me feel sad and I want to cry..

he told me it felt like if I were sticking a knife 🔪 in his heart ♥️ and turning it 🩸.. while he cried.. omg I’m gonna cry..

i wish I never did that..

i couldn’t stay because I was a liar to be what he wanted.. to make him fall in love so try me and because when I decided I was gonna do that I didn’t feel any attraction toward him at all, I didn’t think it would be difficult or sad and him being sad was my target because that’s what he did to others but once you fall in love you don’t want that person to cry or feel sad..

i am a horrible person..

we should not do destiny’s job.. it’s not our job to do that.. I hurt myself in doing this and I hurt the person I fell in love with..

I saw on his social media he is with someone now after 4 years.. I hope he is happy and in love but I also saw he posted a letter I wrote to him and my photo and he never deleted it.. I wish he would delete it so I can feel he’s finally over what I did

:(((

the point of this all.. yes I was attracted to someone that I wasn’t ever attracted to and I became in love with every inch of him physically and emotionally.

[DizzyDesii]

Looks are the initial attraction for me but there is often something more keeping me. That usually centers around their personality. I have no problem letting someone know what that is/was and that if it ever goes away, i likely will too

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

They could be inaccurate but, being a type prone to over-analyze everything (especially my own psyche), I always had reasons I could articulate. Whether they were accurate or whether I missed something in my subconscious I'm not 100% sure about, but I had articulated reasons in my mind.

I'm one of those types that can write you a book on why I enjoy pizza breaking down each ingredient, the macro ratios, the micronutrients, how they all individually relate to my childhood, etc. I over-analyze all my tastes and desires.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Even if I just liked a woman's looks, I can break it down to her skeletal structure, body language, general style of clothing, the visual composition from various angles/poses, etc (and do in my mind).

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

Main reason I over-analyze things like this is to search for patterns. I'm thoroughly dissatisfied with the inexplicable since then I can't find patterns to be able to more easily find things that hold a similar appeal.

For example, I didn't like many candies as a child except gummies. Initially it was inexplicable to me until I realized gummies contain protein from gelatin. All my favorite foods had non-trivial amounts of protein. I also loved chewy foods very much like beef jerky, so gummies have that chewy texture in common. By spotting these patterns, I know what sort of new foods to try which have the highest probability of appealing to my tastes.

[CozyCoffin]

No. Out of the four I dated, three (who actually just wanted a free meal) were pretty, good conversationalists that generally seemed interested, and were in the same courses I was. The fourth was a set up and she wanted me to change everything about me including join her religion (she revealed that on the first date, she could have waited until we declared exclusivity or desire for marriage).

[NathanDavis]

nope...

I've always known exactly and very well... why and how I am interested and attracted on them/by them

[exitseven]

Yes, I was attracted to somebody who was just average looking. It took a while but the more I got to know her the more attracted that I was.

[Kaamraj]

Sexual attraction is non-negotiable. We dont choose whom we're attracted to.

[Alex-Snow]

I have always had a reason besides a boner.