I push everyone away who digs to deep that’s my characters, You can accept it?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend said this to me when I told him not to push me away and that I don't wanna just be there for the good , thoughts and advice?

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl, I wouldn't feel good about a guy saying that to you. Here's what I'm thinking:

- Relationships are all about intimacy - opening up emotionally and being there for each other fully.

- Pushing people away who "dig too deep" sounds like he's not willing to be truly vulnerable with you.

- Saying that's just his "character" is kinda like making an excuse instead of wanting to work on it.

- You deserve a partner who makes you their priority and doesn't threaten to pull away when things get real.

- Everyone wants to feel their feelings are understood and they have someone solid in their corner.

I'd let him know loving someone means being there through both the highs and lows. If he's not willing to work on communicating better and meeting your needs, you can't do this alone sis. Don't settle just for the fun parts - hold out for real intimacy! This might be his issue to work on solo. Up to you if you think he's willing. But don't change yourself - he's the one who has some learning to do! You got this queen.

[Asker]

What do you think I should do?

[Oliverlogan263]

I'd say you gotta have a serious talk with your boy. Let him know pushing you away all the time ain't gonna fly if he wants this relationship to work. Explain how it makes you feel when he shuts down and say you need him to open up more, even when it's uncomfortable.

If he's not willing to meet you halfway, you might have to think about whether this is what you really want long term. Cuz pushing people out is no way to build trust. But give him a chance - ask what he needs to feel safe sharing, and reassure him you're there for him no matter what.

See if he's open to trying, like forcing himself to be a bit vulnerable now and then when he wants to pull back. And if he slips up, gently remind him rather than getting mad. Rome wasn't built in a day, you know? As long as he's trying, it could work out.

But if he's still not budging, or saying it's just who he is... then you gotta ask yourself if you're willing to accept never really getting close to him. Your feelings matter too. I say give it an honest shot, but be ready to stand up for yourself if things don't change. You got this!

[Asker]

Thanks I appreciate this , helps a lot

[Oliverlogan263]

You’re welcome luv

[laly520]

so he is saying he could push u away if u dig too deep?

[Asker]

Basically

[laly520]

better be prepared mentally to move on

[Asker]

How so

[laly520]

he is already prepared to push u away n have it as an option

[Asker]

So his really not committed right?

[laly520]

at least not mentally

[Asker]

Fair enough thank you