Do you have a character trait, that bothers people who know you?

Question

For me. I am extremely laid back, and very rarely get in my feelings. It can come off as cold.

It can bother my friends and family, sometimes because it comes off, like idc about the situation.

Ex: friend confides a problem to me, and my answer would be either,

oh ok.

Oh wow.

Or

Fashoo, cuhh.

Or they will just get a slow nod.

They don't think igaf, truth is i don't think they need to hear me act all worked up or act shocked, they already upset, why make them feel worse?

And if they don't directly me for advice I'm not giving it.

Which also makes them feel like I'm not interested

WhatTheHeckkkk · Accepted Answer

I have a few that come to my mind lol. I am indecisive, a people pleaser, and anxious. Those are my 3 character traits that bother people. It all stems from anxiety, but it kinda separates into different character traits, if that makes sense.

My anxiety is something that people are not always understanding of, which I totally get because not everyone will understand anxiety if they don’t experience it. My anxiety always makes me avoid situations that I know will make me anxious, which prevents me from doing a lot of things or being somewhat independent and confrontational. People absolutely hate that I just won’t have the gall to do certain things myself or if I avoid situations, and it bothers them.

Since I have anxiety about confrontation, I always try to people please. If something bothers me, I won’t even mention it, I just suck it up and deal with it because I want to make others happy. I will go out of my way to try and help others, and sometimes I won’t say no to things. People have told me that I need to put up boundaries so people don’t walk all over me. It ends up bothering other people because they can’t understand why I don’t stick up for myself or simply do things for myself rather than others.

I am a people pleaser like I said, so making decisions that involve other people makes it 10x more difficult for me to decide because I want to make the other person happy. I am just indecisive as shit. If something is solely my decision and doesn’t involve considering other people, it's easier to decide, but I will consult other people for second opinions on what I should do. This bothers people because some people don’t want me to keep considering other people in such small decisions lol.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Apparently I have one that really bothers my mom. When I'm with family, and they compliment me, I'll jokingly take the compliment to the extreme, like, "oh my gosh, thank you so much, I am rather intelligent, so glad you noticed and were able to adequately praise me for it." The thing is, everyone knows I'm not full of myself like that, and they laugh as part of the ongoing bit, but my mom takes it soooo seriously. She has pulled me aside and been like you just over do this thing and it's not a good look. You shouldn't go overboard when people give you simple compliments. Just say thank you and move on. Well, the fact that this bothers her so much is the source of my absolute amusement, so I have not stopped and she's always texting me later, like, please stop that!!!!

ohshee · Accepted Answer

We are twins I'm the exact same way I would be working a friend of mine would stop by my job introduce me to somebody and I'm working and they're trying to communicate and I'm trying to work cuz I want out of there and they walk away with the impression that I'm just cold Moody stupid guy and then I might run into that person that they introduced me to two weeks a month down the road and I'll start talking and they're kind of cold and as we talked they're just looking deep into my eyes and you're saying you're actually a nice guy and I will say what do you mean and it will say well when I was introduced to you you were just like snobbish you are cold and I will say no I was at work and I'm trying to get my job done I'm on deadlines and my friends know not to bring anybody to my job that's crazy and you know I apologize I didn't take 5 minutes to talk to them but if I could have I would have the most people see me when they first meet me they think I'm a cold-hearted dick but when I'm out of my work clothes and I'm not working they see me as a whole different completed person and I probably m really I'm not but LOL with my job I'm committed I'm in the zone if I'm doing something important I'm committed I'm in the zone sometimes you can you know what I'm doing I will take a break sometimes I can't and if people can't understand that then oh well but I love it when somebody says you're cold hearted are your an asshole cuz my first answer is I am two. Stomp my feet LOL

Sonorous · Accepted Answer

Yeah. I have a tendency to be direct. But not in an unnecessary way. For example, I don't go around calling people fat just because it's true. I'm only blunt when it comes to things that need to be said. And I consider it a 'need' when I believe that telling a lie or avoiding the truth will have a more negative outcome than knowing the truth.

But yeah, people tend to not like truths said plainly to them. They prefer it when things are tailored to their emotions. And I'm just not the type to do that. Which I'll admit, isn't ideal for strengthening social bonds... But because I value the truth more than anything else, it works for me. 🥂

HighlyVolatile · Answer

I'm an extreme extrovert and one who views formalities as barriers rather than aids to getting close to people and breaking down their personal barriers. It makes a lot of people uncomfortable. The ones who don't get uncomfortable with it end up becoming my best lifelong friends but I make the ones who aren't very uncomfortable.

I look at it like boxing. People new to boxing move away when they have jabs thrown at them. I tend to side-step and move inwards. I'm very empathetic though and highly tuned to reading body language; I can take hints better than most and some people even call me psychic.

Yet I like to attempt to break down people's comfort zones and boundaries when I spot a chance, and that's a divisive tactic.

Ez-Bri-Z · Answer

I have a lot of anxiety and I go way above and beyond to get certain people to like me, but by far the one that can annoy people is my sense of humor. I use it to lighten moods, but also as a way to deflect uncomfortable situations so sometimes when things need to be serious if I don't know what to say my auto pilot goes on and I try to lighten the mood.

It isn't always appreciated.

melanieeeB · Answer

I immediately thought about my mom... mostly I know exactly what I want and already have it planned out/pictured in my head and I am stubborn about that.
My mom/aunt will come up with other ideas, that they find better and I'm immediately like No but then they will keep explaining their idea and I'm really going like "yeah, no... no... oke but no... mhmm no" and they're always mad at me for that.

NathanDavis · Answer

yes, lol... when we argue or discuss, even when I am angry, I remain calm, keep my cool... I do not get agitated like some of them would, i do not raise my voice, I do not rant, I surely do not use my body language to impose or intimidate, and this has bothered many of the people close to me... lmao

blissinanarchy1 · Answer

My hypervigilance. It often leads me to not pay attention to someone talking to me. I got PTSD, I've witnessed the murder of my boy Khalif. He was shot in the head right in front of me. Being from a bad neighborhood, I've always been extremely observant. Now even more so.

I don't really speak spontaneously. Conversation doesn't always flow naturally with me because more often than not, I think about what I'm about to say, which'll take a second or two longer than most people are used to, and around this area, as soon as one speaker's mouth is closed, another is opened.

Apulu_Imback · Answer

I laugh when I'm not supposed to LMAO 😂.

Actually my face is mostly blank. Like a stone face. I don't show much expression. When I cry then also my expression doesn't change. Just tears flow from my eyes silently. Only my laughs and smile and very big. And I can roast someone pretty bad. I'm a savage replier so yeah people gotta be careful with their words to me or they get embarrassed and roasted.

TheorionMage · Answer

"Contextual insightfulness"
Being self-servingly curious and observant,
all my life I've tried to NEVER make the SAME bad experience TWICE.

"Those without (insightful) memory are doomed to repeat..."
BEFORE taking action, ask Oneself: "Have I encountered THIS (in a different guise) BEFORE?
'LOOK! BEFORE you leap~"

Lionman95 · Answer

Haha same.
I either have moments where it seems like I don't care at all about a situation or I jump into the other extreme and make people feel like I care too much in a way that I can't leave an unsolved problem until it's solved.
It's a bit frustrating because there is no in between.

ZackBan · Answer

I used to have multiple personality issues that would bother people.
But moving out and living on my own mended most if not all of them.

Basically when you fully own who you are people tend to accept it no matter what it is.
That's not to say be arrogant about it, but simply don't focus on bothering others but rather on living the way you're comfortable.

Birdlegs · Answer

I struggle with empathy and caring about people and sometimes people call me a sociopath cuz I can’t empathize and sometimes I say things that could make me sound crazy, I’ve gotten good at faking it tho. Also I’m very up on keeping my appearance at all times so I’m known for constantly brushing and flossing my teeth and checking them after I eat and I look at myself in the mirror whenever possible mainly because I love looking at myself and people call me a narcissist for it.

Prettygurl12 · Answer

Oh probably but no one has been so kind as to point it out 😂😂😂😂

If I had to guess it'd be that I seeminly lack empathy and I just exist, if that makes sense? Where others might go change a bunch of shit around I'm much more likely to adjust to my environment. Like the other day we got new uniforms at work and I'm not a fan but where others are making adjustments (which would be the logical thing to do) I'm just like, "Guess this is my life now. Gonna make it work." 😂😂😂

lamaguy · Answer

I sometimes wonder if I talk too much about stuff I find interesting

I only do that with my family though not anyone else hardly ever

Also yeah sometimes I don’t know how to react to a person telling me something other than saying cool or wow or whatever and I feel like I have been doing that more lately and I hope it’s not too much

Yucy_Gluttony · Answer

Me wanting to be alone. I can't be around big groups and I just want to go home. I can have fun with you at a bar with many people, but I can't have fun with you and other friends together, my BATTERY DRAINS TOO FAST. I would say no to invitations, and it looks like I don't care about them by saying no. I just hate groups!

Moose304 · Answer

When needed I have the patience of JOB. When I can't see why I have zero patience. I tell things as I see them and won't waste 200 words when 20 will do the job. I am somebody that considers a good date to be some beer and maybe a game of darts. Oh, and I am that guy your Father always warned you about!

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I zone out or give half hearted efforts in social interaction cause I spend so much time occupied with my book ideas.

dustybiker · Answer

I’m a natural helper. If there is a problem or someone struggling I want to fix it. Can care too much if not checking myself.

whereismyjohnny · Answer

I’m sensitive person. I literally grow up with people telling me “you are too sensitive” or “stop being so sensitive” 🥴

Anonymous · Answer

Kind of reminds me of me.
Sounds like you are perceived to lack an alertness of interest
Sounds like you lack the ability to express your words with emotion (any emotion)
Sounds like you are perceived to lack sincerity (in life or through text? I don't know)
There is something more too but I cannot think of it. At least that is what it sounds like. I don't know you though.

I know I was suppose to talk about me but I couldn't help myself.

PortraitOfTerd · Answer

i dont give a fuck bout nothing either, its not a bad thing at all, when so many sensitive little people getting worked up over stupid shit that dont even matter, it jus means ur more intelligent then most people. be proud of it, anyone who dont like it can kiss ur ass

Jltakk · Answer

I am very... adaptive to my environment. My charisma and mood is highly reflective of the harmony of the room. I maintain a photogenic smile the whole time, leading to those who are paying attention to wonder if I am really feeling what I am saying I'm feeling. If I am caught without my mask, I can imagine my blank stare and constant requests to repeat the question annoys others greatly.

Vendela · Answer

I can be a perfectionist at times. I suppose I am too hard on the people I train at work.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Shit I'm a New York people outside of New York hate everything about us so where do I start. They think I'm brash rude and way to outspoken. By the way I love your braids there a good look on you

kinggeorge007 · Answer

I can certainly understand what you say and I'm similar too. I don't think there's a solution to this. I just wish there is a solution. I just want to be a normal person. Guess they're too many normal people in this world so we are the black sheeps.

atiquahbby · Answer

I really have a habit of overthinking. I have to find a conclusion to things, and usually end up overthinking a lot

Apple1996 · Answer

Everyone always says that I'm wayyy to quiet. Not that I don't talk but I'm just not a chatty girl so it's weird to some people.

MCheetah · Answer

Yeah. People tend to say I'm too pessimistic/cynical. I'm working on it.

humanearth · Answer

Yeah, I have no filter when I speak. I don't care about political correctness. If I offend you. Too fucking bad

Agape93 · Answer

I don't always understand why people feel the way they do. Intellectually I do but not emotionally

itsalyssaagain · Answer

Yes I have no patience. I rush into things. Even judgement sometimes. And act impulsively on it.

Uptowngirl88 · Answer

🤣🤣🤣💀 that's me in real life if I'm not interested on what the person is saying or engaging " oh fr?" "Okay" "wow" " that's crazy" " cool story"

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

I always see situations and people for what they are. I always address issues on the spot

Deserter · Answer

Oh yeah, a ton, but those same traits other people love me for. I'm introverted, argumentative, and I don't worry about things

Creampiekarl420 · Answer

I get boners from seeing black girls in basketball shorts @msputiton 😉

Luckycharms12 · Answer

I'm really laid back. So people can think not listening or don't care.

msc545 · Answer

Arrogance. I work very hard to control it and I don't always succeed. I'm sorry.

niftywriter · Answer

Yes. Unfortunately I am smarter than everyone else.

LilMissLaceyLuv · Answer

I am too positive for some peoples tastes and I have been told it can be annoying xD

Anonymous · Answer

I am too nice. But I am really afraid of breaking the Law. America/Canada is full of drug addicts and they occupy spaces everywhere

Waldoe · Answer

My Voice... people are surprised by the sound

andreasderjuengere · Answer

One, I think: I speak my mind without filters.

ImNoOne111 · Answer

Im honest to people I care about, dead honest

OddBeMe · Answer

I think my family enjoys my bipolar.

Cleopatra1980 · Answer

I tend not to hold my tongue.

Intothevoid666 · Answer

I’m a cynical asshole who hates everything so yes

Nahid1707 · Answer

Not that i know of 😊

JesseJayNeak · Answer

Yup. Speaking uncomfortable truths

fireforeffect · Answer

Yes, Incredible Intelligence.

Stoner710 · Answer

Yea I talk to much

eagle1951 · Answer

is talking to loud

UpdateGloomyNights_ · Answer

Yes I'm jealous

ODC2112 · Answer

I am honest

moonpie89 · Answer

I move too much lol.

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

low self confidence

Fuentes · Answer

Im smart

dontknow12 · Answer

I hold grudges.

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