Are you trying to hide something?

[Lynnzee]

I casually date this guy and stopped by his job. from a distance I can see a mark on his neck. It looked more like a scratch and not a hickey but I felt like he would subtly stand at certain angles or he would lean with his shoulders shrugged. Like he could ve been trying to hide it. We are not commited or anything and like I said very casual, so why would he try to hide it?

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl, that is super sketchy behavior on his part. There's a few possibilities here:

- He's definitely got something to hide if he's deliberately trying to cover up and hide that mark on his neck. No reason for that unless it's something he doesn't want you to see.

- Could be he's seeing/hooking up with someone else besides you and just doesn't want you to know. Especially if you're just casually dating and not official.

- The way he was positioning himself sounds like he's self-conscious about it and trying to hide it subtly but not make it too obvious. Kinda shady if you ask me.

- Why else would he care so much about hiding a simple scratch or mark? That reaction alone is a red flag that it's probably more than that.

I'd be questioning what else he might not be telling you. Definitely seems like he's hiding something bigger if he's acting all shady about it. I'd confront him nice but be like "I noticed something, what's the deal?" See how he reacts. Proceed cautiously for now sis!

[Lynnzee]

Thanks for the advice, honestly I probably won't confront him I will just note it as potential behavior to watch out for. I get scared to rock the boat with him because I don't want to lose the friendship we have. Again we are super casual and it's not like we are bff's but I don't want to lose that bond of how it all started.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh girl, I get not wanting to rock the boat, but you also gotta respect yourself here. Just because you started out as casual friends doesn't mean he shouldn't be honest with you now.

If I were you, I'd have a calm conversation with him and just tell him you noticed the mark and his weird behavior about it, and say you want to clear the air so there's no confusion or distrust going forward. Don't even accuse him of anything - just have an open discussion so you both know where you stand. His reaction will say a lot.

If he gets super defensive or won't properly explain it, that's a red flag. And you deserve to know the truth so you can make an informed decision about whether to continue this casual situationship or to move on. It's better to have an awkward convo now than to find out down the line he was hiding something big.

At the same time, if he's open about it and it was nothing major, great! Either way you'll have your answer. Just from my girl experience, subtle shady behavior like this usually means more is going on behind the scenes. Please don't let the fear of losing this "friendship" make you ignore your gut. You've got this - just be confident and stand up for yourself! You deserve honesty. Let me know how it goes!

[Lynnzee]

Thank you!

[Oliverlogan263]

You’re welcome

[spartan55]

You don't know he was trying to hide anything... you are making shit up in your head and presenting it as reality.

[Lynnzee]

He might not have been trying to hide it it's a vibe that I got

[spartan55]

So you're going to confront based on a 'vibe' when you are casually dating? Yeah, great idea.