Do you think life is not worth to be taken seriously?

Question

I have always been the one to worry about things,

When I was in LDR - I was struggling, I had my therapist tell me something very interesting

“You never know if the distance is going to break you up or not. All you know is - you have a man who loves you and invests in having a quality time with you, even thousands of miles away. Yet, you are not enjoying it, with the fear of future, you lose the chance to enjoy present. Why not leave the worry into that day, when it will happen and before then just enjoy what you have?”

It has stayed in me.

I haven’t always been doing it, but I always put fears over my joy and I always feel scared for what the future might bring instead of enjoying my present.

Tomorrow might never come and even if it comes, tomorrow we might not be the same, things happen, we get through some traumatic life events and we realize we have taken our lives for granted in the past.

Instead of taking life so seriously and worrying about the future, why not enjoy what we have today?

MatureSexyClassy · Accepted Answer

While I think your therapist has a great point, there is some nuance to the details that I think are worth pointing out here, based on my life's experience.

First of all, when you have a LDR as a woman you are missing a very important need of most women which is physical contact and the ability to be held and comforted. That is a pretty huge missing piece for most women when it isn't present and can't be, in the case of a LDR. The concept of a relationship is that you are doing life together. That includes concerns or worries. For a woman you want that person to be able to console you and hug you and touch you and tell you it's going to be fine. That is a thousand times harder when that person is not physically present and cannot be for God-knows how long. So I am much more sympathetic to a woman who struggles with worry or concern in that particular situation.

Additionally, I don't think worrying about the future and enjoying the present are mutually exclusive. I think they often happen at the same time. What I think is really important is when you find that you are putting a lot of energy into worrying about the future, at some point it may occur to you that you are wasting that time if you do not put an equal amount of energy into preparing yourself for that future whenever it arrives. In the case of relationships, I think all of us are better off if we really look carefully at ourselves and ask ourselves how we can grow ad become better human beings than we are today. In fact, I think people who aren't working on themselves are holding up a sign that they are not good relationship material anyway, honestly. Part of maturity is being the kind of person who is trying to change and improve yourself for the better in every respect, although it can of course take time to do this, and that's perfectly ok. A relationship doesn't change people into better people. A relationship is only as good as the quality of the individual people that join it. So, it behooves us to make ourselves the best we can be in the case of relationships.

In other matters, the same principle is true. If you are worried about money going into the future, then what energy are you putting into becoming better equipped and knowledgeable about being great with money? That would be a very good use of time.

In a nutshell, if it is worth worrying about, it is also worth preparing for and being ready for when it happens.

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

yes, that is one of the challenges of life... that is, being fully present in the moment and being grateful with thanks for what we have, for it is the only thing we have. And thus, to be able to your greater self, of love, in the moment... secure, and available to give your best.

what you have is some sort of anxiety about the future. who knows what that is really about. I've seen that a few times with girls/women... lol.. it's these big craniums we have that imagine.

Philippians 4:6-76: 6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with Thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

You don't have to be a believer or follower of Christ to see the truth in this... and this from people whom were being persecuted to death. I think science would support the above if challenged. Other wise sages said the same?

Certainly... there is a reason for two to be together. man /woman are not made to be apart, but together. The model established in childhood is likely what you are seeking.

MsBrie · Accepted Answer

Do and dont take it seriously i watched Jurassic world last night and one of the characters said something i thought applies to this!
the key to a happy life is to accept you are never actually in control.
while i dont believe we are never in control we aren't in control of a lot.

EmmaMary · Accepted Answer

You only need to look around to find someone worse off than yourself.

Unit1 · Answer

If i didn't take my life seriously, i'd still be stuck in a country from which people are massively fleeing from in order to pursue a much better life with basic human rights. I'm not settling for that and i sure as hell don't want any business with junkies and degenerates.

In times of battle i pick up on hard solutions, not stupid ass memes or religion.

exitseven · Answer

I am working on doing just that but as the time gets closer I am thinking of chickening out.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Yes I love that. Enjoy life and the time that you have. Live everyday like it may be you last. When God calls you home you don't want to have any regrets

NathanDavis · Answer

I always take the people in my life seriously... they are the ones that make my life worth...

zagor · Answer

Good point. I knew a guy who had all kinds of plans for a great retirement, building on a nice lot in the mountains and traveling, but he didn't control his weight and dropped dead before he got there.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Life is too short not to take it seriously. Make the most of it because it will be all over before you know it.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

A lot of life is not worth taking seriously, no. But there are definitely moments when you need to be able to be serious.

NewgodOmega · Answer

You take life as you want  Life and this universe don't give a shit

LiamJHayden · Answer

Life itself, yes. Most things that we encounter, no.

DagonbroughtMehere · Answer

Wasting time worrying about life is not enjoying it.

moneymagnet24 · Answer

For me life means you  So I take life seriously ❤️

katiesmuff · Answer

Sounds like very good advice!

Enginn · Answer

Of course not. If you dont take your life seriously then people will not take you seriously either.

DJB72 · Answer

Nobody's getting out alive anyway...

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