My boyfriend has been weird lately?

[Anonymous]

Yesterday I told him how I felt that I feel lonely and miss him and he just said i'm working and I said I know but there were holidays and even with holidays he still decide to work and not do anything with me I also wanted take him somewhere 4 times in a row I tried he reject saying I have work let's do another time but what's worse after telling him yesterday how I felt he just said you a big girl don't behave like that do you see my mother or son act like this when I work? So he seriously compared me to them then today when he knows i'm supposed to work he ask are you traveling now? When he knows i have work he is just been weird lately

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn girl, he sounds like a huge asshole. Comparing you to his mom and kid? That's major disrespect.

Any dude who makes his girl feel lonely and blows her off for "work" constantly clearly doesn't appreciate you. And you told him how you felt and that just shot you down? Fuck that noise.

You deserve way better than some dude who acts like spending time with you is such an inconvenience. Relationships are about making each other a priority, not coming last to a job.

His behavior would be shady AF to me. Maybe he's talking to someone else or has lost interest but doesn't wanna be the one to end it. Either way, don't put up with that garbage treatment girl! You deserve someone who can't wait to see you and makes you feel special.

If I were you, I'd give him one last chance to shape up. And if he keeps half-assing it, show him the door! You're too badass for games. His loss if he don't get his act together. Don't waste your time on dudes who ignore your feelings like that!

[Asker]

Believe me I feel like crying. Just some days ago my ex showed up infront my house at night, he was screaming and hitting against my window and telling me to give him money and threating me. But I refused then he said you will see what I do to you. I hardley recovered from this. And then I started missing my partner and tell him I miss him just for him to tell me i'm grown up and then compare me to his mother and son saying they never complain. Now I don't know what do anymore feel lonely and hurt and scared. I did ignore him then he started blowing my phone saying it's not fair I ignored him and since he act so strange 🥲I dont even know if he love me anymore

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh man, that's absolutely terrifying about your ex showing up like that! No wonder you were feeling extra lonely and wanted some reassurance from your boyfriend.

It's not fair at all that your boyfriend isn't being supportive after you went through something so scary. Comparing you to his mom and son was so uncalled for too. When you're in a relationship, your partner is supposed to be there for you when you're hurting or afraid, not make you feel bad for wanting comfort.

If it was me, I don't think I could trust this guy anymore after the way he acted. Blowing up your phone after ignoring him is just manipulative too. You deserve so much better than someone who makes you feel worse at a time you need support.

I know it's hard, but maybe it's best to end things with him for good before this gets more toxic. You can do better than settling for a guy who makes you feel lonely and unloved. It'll hurt for a while, but in the long run being single is better than dealing with someone who stresses you out even more. And make sure you let people know about your ex threatening you - that's just not okay at all. You've got this, and things will get better once you're rid of them both!

[stratford]

Sounds odd