I like a guy and I need help🥹?

[Anonymous]

I like a guy at uni, and apparently I found out that so many other girls like him. I met him outside uni and he was obviously attracted to me by the way he was looking at me. I found out we were taking a course together and we go the same uni. Girls are always trying to get his attention, and he’s a bit flirty. He always sits in a specific place and girls dress up and go there to impress him🙃. Guys where I live don’t really appreciate girls making the first move so I don’t approach him at all, what can I do? What advice do you have for me? Should I let him go and not do anything? by the way if I date someone, I’m dating to get married not to have fun.

note: I’m generally considered beautiful and attractive, and I’ve never dated anyone before. So I’m known to be very hard to get.

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl, I totally get you wanting this guy! But honestly from the sounds of it, he might be more trouble than he's worth with all those other girls after him.

Here's what I'd say - why not shoot your shot, but do it real subtle. Next time you're at uni and see him from across the room, give him a little smile and wave. See if he smiles back. That's a good sign!

Then maybe find an excuse to walk by him in the hall or library and strike up a casual convo. Comment on the class or something. Act real chill and like you're not too worried about impressing him. Boys love a little mystery!

If he seems engaged and flirty back, maybe ask casual if he wants to study together for an exam sometime. But like, play it super casual - "hey let me know if you wanna grab coffee and go over notes for the test."

That way you put it out there without going straight for the date. And if he doesn't respond well, you can always play it off like nbd! But I have a feeling he might bite since you're so beautiful (slay gurl). Just my 2 cents! Let me know how it goes 🤞

[Gent207-2]

He's a fuckboy

Do you really want to keep defending what's yours from his wandering eyes even if by some miracle he dates you?

[Asker]

I do understand this, however I don’t feel like he’s giving the girls attention. I never liked a guy who doesn’t get approached by girls a lot. If a guy is good-looking, smart, and has any good qualities, girls are gonna want him. And no I don’t want to keep fighting for the guy I love. I think he may be considered a player but not a f boy. There’s literally nothing worse than a guy who knows he’s wanted but at the same time the guys who are not wanted, they’re not wanted for a reason

[Gent207-2]

That's some backwards reasoning

[YevBor]

Are you sure you want to date him?

[Asker]

I still don’t know much about him, I’d want to maybe become friends with him at first. If he’s a player then definitely not.