Introverted guys only?

[Anonymous]

What are the things you do if you like a girl?
I found them often don’t show their emotions or communicate enough to let the girl know..

[Anonymous]

Hello, I suppose I qualify for this. I cannot speak for all men, so I'll just give you what's personally going through my mind when I like someone, or I'm crushing on them.

I will likely not be approaching them, making eye contact, or initiating conversation. In fact, sometimes I am searching for a way out of the situation. My nerves get the best of me and I want to make myself scarce and avoid a potential conversation altogether. I will self-sabotage myself.

I avoid my crushes and think of them on a pedestal, tell myself they can do better than me. All of my exes pretty much did the heavy lifting in the early stages of dating.

And, sometimes I'm so focused on not coming across as creepy that it makes me seem uninterested or frankly rude, when in reality nothing could be further from the truth. I am sensitive at heart and do not want to potentially place myself in a way I'll be rejected, so I reject myself for most encounters before they'll even have a chance.

I should reiterate that not all men follow my thought process. But my self esteem is garbage, and that's how I end up holding myself back.

[Asker]

That is crazy. Why do you have such low self esteem? Are you ugly?

[Opinion Owner]

I'm not ugly. I'm between a 5-7 depending on who you ask (although I consider myself a 5). I'm not "fit" but I could be considered to have a dad bod (and it's been awhile since I've been in the gym.)

This has been an issue for me even back in school. I've always been self conscious about my appearance, and on top of that I have no "game" since I simply never try to flirt. The few times I have flirted are after the girl has already made her interest known, and even then I don't go overboard.

[ManInChains]

I think male introverts like myself prefer not to bother with women at all and would rather stay single and happy

[Luckycharms12]

That's why there introverted partly because had to express themselves but most guys have that problem. Just takes time let down there guard

[Anonymous]

Nothing you just chalk it up as a defeat and repeat ad infinitum