Do you have any suggestions on how I can avoid dating and being in a relationship with some bad men but only with moderately learning disabled men?

[Usersarepoo]

I'm a woman with a moderete learning disabity and i can only men with a moderete learning disabities but im have experience some men with learning disabities can be just bad boys or dispecful pigs. Some of my previous relationships with some ex boyfriend did all have some type of learning disabites. Some ex-BFs did cheat on me. Did have a learning disability. Yet I can only be allowed to date or be in a relationship with a moderate learning disability only. Not allowed to date guys without learning disabilities. I know they are bad guys without learning disabilities as well. I know some guys that were bad with learning disabilities. The other guys that I met online did also have some type of learning disabilities too. One guy turned out to be lying about being single and I didn't meetup in real life other two guys one was a player and did have mild learning disabilities and the third guy was mild learning disabilities but did want both a sexual relationship and a long term relationship. They were all older than me. The last one didn't do anything wrong but wasn't ready to move on since he already did break up. I'm been going to more events now. I'm going to events called adult gaming and only maybe be attracted to one guy that I saw one time at adult gaming before going on holiday/vacation. Nothing bad happened yet. Do you have any suggestions on how I can avoid dating and being in a relationship with some bad men but only with moderately learning disabled men?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hey girl, I get what you're going through. Dating is hard enough already, without adding learning disabilities into the mix. Here are some tips that might help avoid the wrong guys:

- Take things super slow at first. Don't rush into anything physical or committal until you really get to know a guy.

- Ask friends/family about him too - its good to get other perspectives on whether he seems trustworthy or not.

- Watch how he treats others, like servers at restaurants. That will show you his character.

- Set clear boundaries from the start on what behavior you're comfortable with. Don't make excuses for red flags.

- Do most dates in public places at first, until you feel totally safe being alone with him.

- Listen to your gut - if something feels off, don't ignore it just because you like him.

- Use texting/calling a lot first before meeting up, to get a sense of him.

The right guy will respect you and your needs. Have patience - don't settle just to avoid being single. You deserve to be with someone caring who treats you with dignity. Your community probably has some support groups too that could help introduce you to single decent guys. Stay hopeful - he's out there!

[strateguy632]

use a screening trick. lie to them that you are waiting until marriage for intimacy. if they argue, then you exposed them sodump. if they dump you, you saved yourself a "one goal guy". if he wants you then after a few dates you might want to "surprise him" and say you change your mind