A girl I like used me what should I do next?

[magicturtle]

A girl I liked from work kinda used me. The first time I asked her out she said she is busy and will let me know, and obviously never did. Second time I asked her out she agreed and flaked, but she keep showing me fake signals in order to keep the attraction and get the attention from me. I wanna stop looking at her or thinking about her, but it is tough cause we see each other at work everyday. What should I do next? should I try break her ego and not look at her and cut all communications, or just keep being nice but not show any intention of attraction? she is a player and she used me, so please don't judge me...

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man that really sucks dude, I've been there before too and it's the worst feeling. This girl clearly just wanted the attention and wasn't really interested in you for real.

My advice would be to just cut her off - don't give her any more of your time or mental energy. At work keep things polite and professional, but don't go out of your way to talk to her or make eye contact. Act like she's just another coworker.

Showing her you're not affected will kinda break her ego since she obviously liked having you chase her. Plus it'll help you get over her faster when you're not giving her reactions. I know it's hard cause you'll still see her, but staying indifferent is best.

Maybe try joining a sports team, app, or hang with your buddies more after work to get your mind off her. Over time it'll hurt less, I promise. And who knows, keeping your distance may even make her realize what she lost. But focus on yourself for now - you'll meet someone better who actually appreciates you for real bro.

[spartan55]

Why would you want to keep torturing yourself? I would completely ignore her unless it's an unavoidable work question.

[DishLady]

First of all, “break her” sounds weird. Just ignore her — pretend she’s just part of the wall and nothing noticeable in the office at all.

[Nathanbanks04]

If she really liked you she would want to spend time on you and not flake on you but she may also just be nervous but I don't think so. Since she's a player I would say don't entertain it. Is she flirting with you?

[Loner111]

There r girls that just like being chased as it boosts their ego.

[Jojojojojojojo]

Ask her if she s using u