If your looks are average, you're thin, and have a decent personality you can land most guys right?

[Anonymous]

Like it seems the girl doesn't have to be super pretty, just be thin and have a benevolent personality. Is it safe to say being thinner is kind of your golden ticket with men? Cause I'm fat, basically obese. I've been told I'm pretty, and I have a personality because I've had to develop one, but I never get a good guy. I'm caring, kind, supportive, loyal, super honest, trustworthy, funny, attentive, passionate, artistic, and I love nurturing. I can't get anywhere. It's like men dont care to see me for me. I'm not going after anyone out of my league if I even have one, I don't know.

[skunk3n]

I'm unsure with what you refer to as a "good guy", since you relate it to superficial preferences for us guys, kinda not makes sense.

Anyhow, truth is harsh and it needs to be addressed.

There's two ways. Either you:

• Get your BMI at least within "healthy"-curve. You attract what you are.
• You continue with what you're doing. Your chance to find someone who will love you for who YOU ARE is higher. Than a guy who will look over the shoulder for a thin girl, if you happen to be sloppy for some month and regain weight.

[DishLady]

LAND? They're people...

Thin, no. Slender is a little different because you have some shape/tone. There's something to be said for the slender girls who are on the curvy side. Those are the gals who tend to get a fair amount of male attention.

"I've had to develop" a personality sounds so odd... Pretty girls have personalities too... And in all the things you've listed, CONFIDENT isn't one of the things you've listed as being part of your personality... Guys like a confident girl. (Not obnoxious, but someone who looks comfortable in her own body.)

Not knowing what you ACTUALLY look like -- you say "obese" but that's not a sure measure for everyone. I'd say you need to tone up a bit and get your general optics sorted out. A nice hairstyle, a little spruce here and there, some time at the gym... You'll be ok. You don't need to look like a supermodel to get a guy.

[JustTryingToLife]

Confidence goes a long way. Some men are into bigger girls. I mean it would be better for your health if you did lose the weight but if you lose all the weight and still have no confidence you're just gonna be as confused and upset as you are now just in a different body. You might attract more guys but not the right kind of guys. You called yourself a lot of things but not pretty just said that you've been told you were pretty. So, it doesn't sound like you believe it. Also, "not going for anyone out of my league" so the guys you're going for you don't really want them you just think that they're more likely to like you and that you can get them? Maybe they can sense that and don't want to be viewed that way. But I don't know I think knowing what you want makes it a little easier.

[Anonymous]

I’m saying no. Let’s face it, men look at looks first. That’s what draws him into wanting to get to know her more. So if you don’t have the looks chances are all these men aren’t going to flick to you. Especially the ones you want. Which means you won’t have a chance of letting him get to know your personality. The men who do come to you more than likely you have no interest in, so they will never get to know your personality either.

[BetaBucks]

If you really don't want to get down to a healthy weight, then you could always just date obese dudes that are a bit older than you. I'm sure there are plenty of nice ones. Being kind and peace-oriented obviously helps, yeah.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, if you're a girl and you're interested in attracting a guy the single most important thing is to get yourself as hot as humanly possible. So eat clean, get decent sleep, drink plenty of water and work out. It's not really all that tough. Just do the things you should be doing anyway. Beyond that, having a bright, positive, feminine energy will do WONDERS for attracting a guy. But be as hot as you can first.

[Levin]

Women do have it a lot easier in dating, yes.

Why can't you lose weight?

Health and lifestyle is important for any prospective partner.

[JonCobretti]

Absolutely , because that's what most guys want too

Most guys are average themselves and are not unrealistic and yes most guys love thin girls , screw fat acceptance

[Berethor]

Hard to tell for sure without a picture but yea thin women more popular than fat women.

[jahaims]

Yeah

[war_daddy]

nobody likes whales

[Billlewis]

Speak for yourself;)