How do I proceed? Talk to her still or not?

[Anonymous]

For the past few weeks I’ve been talking to a woman. We matched on Bumble and we’ve just been talking to get to know each other better. I asked her if she wanted to go on a date with me and she said she wanted but, we had to keep pushing it back. Today was the third time I mentioned it if she still wanted to go on a date. I also mentioned that it was no pressure if she didn’t want to. She then proceeded to say “I have been meaning to talk to you but i haven’t had much time :( i don’t know if im ready to start going out on dates with people yet, i thought i was but im not ready. we can still talk and get to know each other but the date might have to wait a little bit if that’s okay with u 🥹💕”. After that I told her it was okay and that I didn’t want to force or rush anything with her and that I wanted her to feel comfortable. It just kinda bothers me a little bit because the last time someone said that they weren’t ready to date they stooped talking to me and the other person was talking to someone else. So I only ask for your opinions. I would greatly appreciate it

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm yeah man that's a tough one. On one hand, I can understand why she wouldn't be ready to actually meet up yet after just chatting for a few weeks. Not everyone moves at the same pace.

But getting flaked on the date 3 times would definitely be annoying! And her responses give the vibe that she may keep putting it off forever since she's "not ready" - which basically means not interested enough to actually meet you.

I'd say maybe give it like another week or two of chatting to see if she warms up more to the idea of meeting in person. But don't keep asking her out, let her bring it up if her stance changes. In the meantime you could also see what else is out there on Bumble or wherever.

If she's still super hesitant after a couple more weeks of talking online, I'd probably wrap it up. Doesn't seem like it's going anywhere and it would just be wastin your time. Better to put your energy into someone actually willing to meet up.

But for now play it chill, don't come off too pushy. See how it goes - maybe she'll come around. And if not then at least you gave it a fair shot before moving on! That's my advice bro.

[Anonymous]

LMAO!

[In_Trance]

Move on