What’s his problem?

[Anonymous]

My guy best friend told me I was pretty and cute. I asked him if I could attract my romantic racial preference. He said they don’t want me. He make it seem like I can’t attract what I want. He made by preference sound shallow and he has a preference also. He also mentioned my dating preferences to his other guy friends.
After that, he stopped talking to me. His friends made it seem like the only way he'd talk to me again is if I dated him. Now he ignores me and we don't talk anymore. I first met him I was 16 and he was 24.

[kylee2437]

Well he’s being a typical guy that won’t stop pursing until it happens. He isn’t a real friend, he was a friend with a motive, and arguably so since you were 16, which is disgusting

[Asker]

It really suck how he made it seem like no guys wanted me

[Oliverlogan263]

Wow sis, that "friend" of yours seems super shady and disrespectful. A few red flags here:

- Telling you who you can and can't attract is messed up. He has no right to decide that for you.

- Sharing private conversations with his boys is wrong. Major boundary issue there.

- Cutting you off unless you date him is manipulative and controlling behavior. Not okay!

It seems like he might have had feelings for you for a long time, but couldn't handle it when you weren't interested back. That's on him, not you. This whole thing reeks of immaturity and toxicity. You deserve so much better!

Do not let this clown make you question yourself or what you want. His actions say way more about his character than yours. Please don't waste another second worrying why he's acting up - just be glad the trash took itself out.

You've got your whole life ahead of you still. Don't settle for lame dudes who bring you down, sis! Stay confident and keep doing you. The right one will come along when you least expect it.

[Asker]

He has dated one of my friend girl and dated another girl was friends with.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, that makes it even weirder that he dated some of your other friends. Almost seems like he's got a thing for dating people in your friend group or something. I'd definitely be careful hanging around him now if he's messed with multiple friends like that.

I could maybe understand him catching feelings for you since you've known each other for a while, but it's super wack that after you turned him down he went and started blabbing private stuff to his boys. Now he's giving you the cold shoulder and acting possessive like you owe him a relationship just cause you used to be close? Nahhh dude, that ain't it at all.

I'd say try keeping your distance from this guy for now. He clearly isn't respecting proper friend boundaries anymore. Holding a grudge just cause you don't wanna date him is lame. Plus dating your other friends could make hangouts weird if he's around. Focus on people who genuinely support you and don't pull shady stuff behind your back. You don't need that stress.

Keep doing you and doing what makes you happy. Don't let one guy who's losing it bring your vibe down! Stay positive, you'll get through this no problem.

[Asker]

Thank you

[Oliverlogan263]

No problem boo, hope it helped gain some perspective! It's always good to get an outside male opinion on weird situations with other guys sometimes. Stay solid and surround yourself with real friends who got your back. That fake dude ain't worth stressing over. Keep doin you!

[SotiCoto]

I think he suffers from a chronic case of being a Twat.

[Asker]

😂😂😂