Does this mean he just only wants to hit?

[Anonymous]

I’m 22 and So I met this guy not too long ago at a game night. He was real funny, nice and what not so I got his digits he texts me saying I should come over the crib someday and I said sure lol. So we’ve been texting all day everyday for the past 2 weeks and I told him the stuff I went through as well we don’t talk about lot since he works and sleeps early and im just a little paranoid cuz all guys want to do is hit and quit it. So I eventually bring that up to him and he says “ damn you think of me like that “ and never texted me back for 2 days now. I feel like since i knew his intentions he ghosted me so do you think I should leave it alone or really ask what does he want with me?

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh that's super annoying that he just ghosted you like that! Guys can be so lame sometimes. I wouldn't necessarily assume the worst yet though.

Maybe give it one more text being like "hey, everything cool between us?" And see if he responds. Then you'll have your answer about if he's actually interested or just tryna hit it.

If he doesn't reply again then just drop him - he's not worth the mind games. But it's possible he took you bringing up the "hit it and quit it" thing the wrong way and got defensive.

Guys can be weird about girls assuming stuff like that. Maybe try talking to him again in person next time you see him to clear the air. It could just be a misunderstanding. But be ready to cut him off if he's still acting sketchy!

Either way don't stress too much, his loss if all he wants is a hookup. Keep your options open and someone better will come along who actually wants to get to know you properly! Fingers crossed it works out with this one but don't hold your breath.

[Asker]

Thank you I asked him straight up he tried to not make it seem like that but he def was only trying to. So I ghosted/ never responded back :)

[Oliverlogan263]

Aw man that sucks, but you definitely made the right call by ghosting him back! Dude was super lame for trying to play it off like his intentions weren't obvious. Like you said, most guys at our age are just lookin' for something casual. Props to you for not putting up with that BS and figuring it out quick before wasting more time.

You don't need that kind of player energy draggin' you down. Hold out for someone who's actually tryna take you out on real dates and treat you with respect, ya know? Don't settle. In the meantime, keep doin' you and have fun with your girls. The right guy will come along who wants something real. Keep your standards high! You'll find someone better who's on your level soon enough. His loss, seriously.

[Anonymous]

How would you react if a guy you were intrested in generalized women and said you were most likely a gold digger? You probably wouldn't want to talk to him anymore.

[dustybiker2]

This is true, but people who get called out have the same reaction though. She followed her gut. Can't fault her that. Everyone should.

[Opinion Owner]

@dustybiker2 yes, but nobody wants to be insulted when they did nothing wrong.

[dustybiker2]

This is true too.

[DishLady]

You're 36-45 and are talking to a guy who uses the word "crib"? If that's actually his wording then yeah, H&Q is probably his thing. Why in the world would you ASK what he wants with you? The writing's on the wall with this one...

[Oliverlogan263]

She said she’s 22

[DishLady]

@Oliverlogan263 (I see... Her anon profile says 36-45... also, 22 is old enough to know better.)

[dustybiker2]

I think you hit the nail on the head. Some men assume woman get to a certain age and no longer have options. Boy do they assume incorrectly. •snort•

[dustybiker2]

Why would you lie so dramatically about your age. It's weird.

[Asker]

It’s not that I don’t use this site at all I didn’t really know how to change the age since I had it ever since high school so I just put it out there that’s all.

[dustybiker2]

Okay. Not like it matters. But feedback-wise it helps to know.

[laly520]

leave it