I don’t know what to do because I already invested so much, what advice do you have for me?

[Anonymous]

A few months ago I found out that my boyfriend of four years and who I have been living with for three years was cheating on me with a woman he was working with. He got fired from that job but that didn’t stop him from keeping in touch with her. He was doing more than just sleeping with her. Even after he was fired I still caught her in our home on our bed (They weren’t having sex in that moment) but I’m sure they had. I was destroyed and didn’t know what to do. That was a few weeks ago and since then he and I have been like roommates trying to figure out what we’re gonna do as far as repairing our relationship. He’s been in another room. We haven’t slept together, kissed or anything. He got hired for another job today and it’s weird that this new job is not far from the job he was working with this woman at and he’s working the same hours. I could be overthinking it but at the same time I really can’t call it that because he did have her in my home. It’s no telling what he’ll do to keep in touch with her and that’s if he has stopped talking to her at all.

[petitedollbabee]

I have very very obvious advice: leave him. Why would you want to stay with a cheater, let alone one so disrespectful as to have another woman in your bed? Disgusting. I understand that you two are living together so that makes it tricky, but if it is your house or only your name is on the rental lease, then kick him out. Or if it’s the other way around, you need to leave and find somewhere else to live away from him. Let him do whatever he wants with his coworker, who cares anymore, he’s not your problem to deal with.

[DishLady]

He's a massive a-hole. Why are you still with this guy? Pull yourself together and leave -- or if he's staying at your place, toss the jerk out on his ass. Let his little chippy take him in and deal with him. They deserve each other and whatever they get.

[Enes38]

It seems really strange to me, maybe because I'm Turkish. You catch your boyfriend and a woman in bed, but you still stay in the same house.
I really don't understand why you live with someone who doesn't love you or respect you.
Nobody cheats by mistake, nobody kisses by mistake, nobody undresses by mistake.

[LiamJHayden]

Time spent with a cheater should be viewed as a "sunk cost." That which is invested is unrecoverable and should not impact your decision of whether to dump the cheater or not.

[SirBearon]

This can't be real. Either you open up to an open relationship or you leave him. He doesn't love you.

[Anonymous]

Cheat back. Hook up with a black guy. That will really bother him >:)