Is this girl 24F playing me 30M?

[ARI93]

We have been courting for a monthish. Met at a party and spent a good amount of time with each other. Been on a coffee date. She has been to my place once and we have been intimate (innocent intimate lol). What exactly does figuring out my feelings mean? Her actions with me last time she was here indicate she likes me. But her words indicate confusion or NO and her communication seems to be dying down again.

[kylee2437]

Ask her. A month isn’t long enough to really determine if someone is playing you or not. My now boyfriend probably would’ve felt the same way if he never asked me to be his girlfriend because I’d never mention that idea of asking him to be my boyfriend first.

[ARI93]

Ask her to be my gal? I think at this point, it's nigh impossible if she won't hang out with me because of confused feelings. I literally would ask her out IF she kept reciprocating my energy and that stopped about 48 hours ago. I'll just play it by ear.

[kylee2437]

@ARI93 yeah if someone is that confused to the point of not even wanting to hang, I’d definitely say try to move on

[ARI93]

I appreciate that. Definitely going that route

[Anonymous]

Yeah. Or there could be another guy she's trying on at the moment that she's waiting to see how that plays out. So for the time being you're put on hold while she "figures out her feelings". Which translation means she might like that guy better and if it don't work out then she'll figure out her feelings.

[ARI93]

I feel like the other guy tbh.

[Avicenna]

Well, it sounds like she expected you/wanted you to make a move. You need to be the initiator, and you can't always know for sure what she is thinking.

[ARI93]

I initiated everything. All the hanging out, date plans. Even the intimate bits. I just want more time to figure her out and we'll kinda hard to if we won't hang out 😆

[Avicenna]

Don't spend to long trying to analyze- just make your move

[ARI93]

Eh not worth it. She can't reciprocate properly at all. She's definitely made up her mind.

[Anonymous]

Innocent intimate? Like how?

Who asked you to figure out feelings?

If her communication does it's she is not good at it or is ingoring your calls and texts. Women are always on Thier phones.

Sounds more like your the guy she is cheating on her long time boyfriend with.

[ARI93]

Lol we cuddled, kissed, she dry humped me twice lol. We'll no one did. She just stated she has to figure it out. Her communication is sucking due to response times degrading more and more. Not replying appropriately to questions or simple social hello, good night etc. It sounds like she either has another guy like your saying or is playing the stoopid games with me. Either way it's a bad deal. I'll just ignore her lol no point in investing effort anymore

[Opinion Owner]

Sorry but have to agree! Women always have Thier phones right next to them! Never without being on social media!

If she does not get back she is ignoring you not missing a text!

[ARI93]

Ahhh well I appreciate ya

[Opinion Owner]

Any word yet or silence from the ghost?

[ARI93]

Well we started calling more (new) and communicating a wee bit on why she has been the way she is. But same shit. She came over busted a nut, said she has no connection, wants to keep talking romantically but she's confused and left. So confused pretty sure she's just taking her time (this is the "fastest" she has gone before @50 days now) so probably just get clarification from her if possible. If I don't like the response or get ignored I'm done lol

[Opinion Owner]

Sure go for it

[ARI93]

Went for it went good for like a week. She then threw anxiety brain at me. She again mentioned we should stop talking. I declined and kept communicating but at the end we both need a break from each other and probably end what ever you could call this. She got upset with me which confused and upset me. Not good I have my own issues don't need to add drastically more to my life. I just hope myself and her can feel better after a week or so. But I will also ensure I don't hope for much on my end. She has exhibited too much instability to be reliable in any capacity.

[Opinion Owner]

Well don't stick your dick in crazy! She probably has 2 other boyfriend lined up to get attention from

[ARI93]

I haven't yet. I actually got her to nut by dry humping lol then she fucking bailed on my ass declaring we aren't compatible like wtf. Haha anyways she ended up deciding she liked me but look at my new question. It's been a tough couple weeks.

[Anonymous]

Ask her today