How to get over a guy?

[Anonymous]

I have a guy that I have a crush on for a very long time. It started out as a convenient crush since I do not know and don't have many male friends. I was trying to get over him for many times and I know that he is not good for me because I noticed many red flags but I don't seem to get over him. I have been stuck in an attachment/detachment cycle for almost a year now, it's not that I love him but I feel like his presence and the way he treats me sometimes is comforting. I tried distancing myself and having minimum contact but as soon as we meet in person I get this feelings again and it makes me sad , empty and frustrated. It has been 3 weeks now since our last meeting but I have to meet him again in a few days and it makes me angry and sad at the same time, I really don't want to meet him but I have to. Some of you may suggest to go out there and meet new guys but i tried it and I was not successful in finding someone.

[SweetJoyGirl]

Why do you have to meet him, again?

Oh, girlllll, let me tell you what helped me.

1. Getting closer to God. Literally when I tell you this works, I seriously mean it works. This leads to 2…

2. Learning to love yourself. As you get closer to God, you realize that loving yourself is important. No man should make you feel devalued. Why? Because you have value in God’s eyes.

3. Accept the heartbreak. You know, I feel like as women we definitely have it hard in the beginning when it comes to trying to accept the heartbreak. As the weeks go by, it gets easier.

4. Get your nails done, see your hairstylist etc!!! I can’t stress enough how this helps. Like seriously! It boosts your mood and helps with the process!

5. Block all contact with the guy! It is hard to in the beginning, but as your start feeling better, it is easier!

I hope that helps! 💜

[Asker]

We are celebrating my best friend's birthday and I cannot miss that. I cannot block him because it will look suspicious and we have mutual friends , I can't just block him out of the blue

[SweetJoyGirl]

Oh, yeah, I don't know how to help with that one. I usually drop all mutual friends, if it will help me heal.

[Asker]

Thank you so much for your advice 💜
After this meeting I Will avoid him at all cost , time will make things easier because I am aware that am just sexually frustrated and lonely and he's the only guy that was present that's why I got attached to him

[SweetJoyGirl]

Ooooh, yea, that sounds about right.
Good luck, hun! It will all be ok! 💜

[DishLady]

Don't get UNDER him and you should be fine.

[teamvic]

Hmmm well what's the reason you keep developing feelings everytime

Is it just his looks, or is it his personalty or wuh

[Asker]

I don't know, he's not physically my type , his personality is ok for me but I like the way he makes me feel sometimes and get physically attracted to him

[Static_In_The_Attic]

If you want to get over a guy just get under another one.

[Tomisworthless]

hawk tuah spit on that thang