How do I get over a guy?

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There is this guy I have liked for a while. Logn story short after a while of talking he rejected me. I found out he likes someone else but I am not over him what should I do

DaySpring · Accepted Answer

Listen to @itsalyssaagain and @pinay_ako  You should work on self-love too. The reason you can't get over him is because you keep reinforcing the neural wiring related to him in your nervous system. If you keep doing it, you'll turn it into a habit and you'll never get over him until you break the habit. That's why those girls gave you great advice. Self-love works the same way. You can build it. Self-love is an activity. You don't have self-love, it is an activity; but that is our way of explaining it on a conscious level. Same with anger. Same with people; you don't love him or her, but instead your love for them is an activity. That's why people can fall out of love. Anyway I highly suggest you listen to those girls @jiffer I know from experience it can become a habit and never go away until you stop reinforcing it. That's why people try to date other people or have sex. They are trying to use something else to replace it. That's one way neural wiring is removed. There are better ways though. Habits or neural wiring never actually die. It just decays from lack of use. That's what allows you to get over someone.  That's enough information for you understand how to get over him now.

caring__1 · Accepted Answer

Ask yourself whether you want to be in a relationship with someone who desires and appreciates you as you are or someone who, at best, tolerates you because you like him. One-way relationships never thrive. If you truly do care about him, be happy he's connected with someone who adds something special to his life and then find someone else with whom both of you can create and nurture something special.

Everyone has preferences. Just like you'd appreciate others to respect your preferences, it's important to respect the preferences of others. A person's preference is not a judgement of you, but what that person has discovered works best for that person. Never assume people you prefer will also prefer you. I'm sure you've rejected others who have preferred you, yet you've not preferred them.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Ugh I’m so sorry I have been in this position 2 times.
There is this idea that guys never reject girls lol which is wrong both men and women get rejected. And it hurts. I noticed you are a teen still 19?
I know is hard but to be honest you will meet so many amazing guys especially through your 20s and 30s and even better handsome men. I’m 32 now and finally I met the men of my dream he is perfect. Men especially people will scare you believing you will find the one in your 20s not really it’s a lie: don’t rush so not be stupid.
This guy who rejected you might someday realized what he lost.. you have so much ahead of you. You can do so much become more and more beautiful healthy and attractive. The best revenge you can get is to become the best version of yourself. Never sell short and date BEST men out there. Don’t rush I know you are sad BUT trust me you are so LUCKY he rejected you. He isn’t lucky …though. Prove that by becoming amazing and happy and healthy.

Don’t worry about him. He is just a young men that thinks with his dick rather than his brain.
You need mature men.

❤️

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

Get over him by cutting all contact pronto. Be hard on yourself by not having to do anything with him so you can forget him fast. Get yourself busy and have a life. Meet someone new. Replace him

coachTanthony · Answer

Best thing to do is tell him you're happy for him and just know yours is coming too. Can't make people like you but you can like yourself enough to know you deserve someone who sees you the way you see them.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

In life if you never try you will never know & in life if you like someone you shouldn’t be afraid to tell them. On the flip side unfortunately from time to time people get rejected & as for me I look at the bright side when it happens. I look at rejection like the other person is doing me a favor & subconsciously they know they aren’t good enough for me & I simply move on. In life the only way to move is forward & forward is the way to go.

Mangospacho · Answer

It’s really hard to do at first but time is key. Plus, once you get over your first guy, it’s easier to get over the next guy and the next guy is even easier after that. I know what it’s like. It took me three years to get over someone like that and then the next person it only took a few months then after that it was only a couple weeks.

StormChaser838 · Answer

Two flying fucks to him, there is your Prince Charming out there who is crying tears of blood, just pining for u. So don’t waste time on cunts, go look for ur true guy and wipe his tears when u meet him.
Faster u get on the block the better, and remember, don’t go into the next relationship that passes by, jumping on the rebound is a dangerous way to start a new relationship. Give ur self time to heal in new surroundings, best of luck goddess, and remember, YOUR NIGHTS ARE ALWAYS YOUNG….

Chelsdope0 · Answer

I know the feeling… I’m 25 and just experienced this. The best answer is : Time. It literally takes time.. depending on situation. Talking to guys online helped and going out. Sometimes talking to someone about it helps

Anonymous · Answer

in a few months you'll be over it and on to someone new. in a few years, it'll be a vague memory. just keep going day by day. out of sight, out of mind. you'll occupy yourself with other things and eventually new problems will replace old ones.

ChillaxingLove · Answer

Give yourself time your heart isn’t a switch you can just turn off. Go through sadness and feel what you’re feeling but don’t stay there. Go out and do stuff hang out with friends, or do what I do when I’m stressed or sad. I go to the gym and workout. I would recommend high intensity workouts if you do.

Anonymous · Answer

My dear we all face rejections at some point of our life even when we are madly in love with someone. I waited for a person for three years and he choose someone else and get married. Please do a favor, leave him, delete his contact number, burn his photos, just remove everything that belongs to him. Focus on your self, work on your self. Find someone who can admire you, love u.

Anonymous · Answer

You’re 19. You could snap your fingers and five guys would want to sleep with you.

You only care because HE rejected YOU. Yoi probably don’t even give a damn about him. Your ego got bruised. You’re 19! Unless you’re fugly there ARE guys interested in you. Move on.

lightbulb27 · Answer

Accept that you liked him, but you really didn't get to know him.  Accept that he's interested in someone else.  Learn what you can from that experience that makes you a better person, and move on.

itsalyssaagain · Answer

Try your best to stay disconnected from him and let time do it’s course. Meet new people too

noohair · Answer

Your life is entirely before you. Remove all photos. Delete his phone number. Don't look at his social media. You can't grow if you are living in the past.

Softlife808 · Answer

You need to move on. I don't get how you could like someone that doesn't even like you let alone rejected you.

CubsterShura · Answer

Cut all contact, stop stalking him online or offline. And surround yourself with friends and loved ones. Those two are the most important.

jshm2 · Answer

By busying yourself with what makes you happy.  You wasted your time, but now know better. So move along.

Sarah2023 · Answer

There will be plenty of good men that will like you, trust me. Do not keep your hopes up on 1 person and never expect anything from anyone.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Acknowledge that you want someone who loves you, and he doesn't, so he's actually a shitty match for you.

HoneyButterCup525 · Answer

It's okay, shit happens. You'll get over it with time.

Reorx · Answer

Find someone better. I congratulate you for putting yourself in a position to be rejected RESPECT.

Bully-O-Frog · Answer

Find peace within yourself or replace him. Whichever works best for you.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

At your age you have your pick of men. Just pick another one.

Greenbins · Answer

Have sex with someone else asap.. that works for me

BCRanger10 · Answer

How long ago did this happen?

boggboss · Answer

All u cam really do is wait

Anonymous · Answer

go out with friends and drink and forget about him

BrookeS · Answer

Find a nice girl

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

My advice is to cut off contact.

Jerre · Answer

Find another guy you would like to date

CandyRat · Answer

Get a new guy

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

Time

Anonymous · Answer

This guy must be tall.

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