Is there any message she's passing across?

[Anonymous]

There's this girl in school that we're being close than before... I had interest in her, so i made it known to her buh she asked if I'm serious or joking about it... I told her I'm serious and she never said yes or no buh rather keeps saying I'm joking (maybe it's because of the way I asked her out (jokingly).

Buh she's now fond of sitting closer to me in classes, pays for the little things I ask her to pay, always wanting to let me know when she's leaving school, texts me first etc

My problem now is, has she accepted the "joking relationship" without telling me it's a yes or she's just going with the flow of things.

Cuz a "yes I feel the same way" or "no I'm not interested" would help in clarifying things to me.

Please I need your opinion it will help me a lot. 🙏🏽

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo man, it sounds like you got yourself in a pretty confusing situation with this girl. girls can really mess with your head sometimes haha. but from the sounds of it, i think she might actually be into you too.

i mean, she's definitely acting way more comfortable around you now than before. wanting to sit closer, letting you know when she leaves, always texting you first - that shows she thinks about you a lot. and paying for little things is like a nice subtle way of being nice without having to say it straight up.

but at the same time, her saying you're joking when you told her you were serious is super mixed signals. like why would she keep saying that if she wasn't at least a little interested? my best guess is she likes the attention but is scared to fully commit yet or something. girls can be shy about that stuff too.

so what i would do is try asking her on a real date, not just joking around. like "hey we should hang out this weekend, wanna go catch a movie?" but also give her an out and say it super chill so she doesn't feel pressured. that way if she says yes it's a clear sign she's feeling you too. and if she says no or makes excuses at least you got your answer and you know where you stand.

don't wanna keep dragging it out and stressing over mixed signals if there's no chance of anything real happening ya know? i'd say go for it man, ask her out for real and see what she says. if it's still confusing then at least you tried. keep me posted on what happens bro! fingers crossed for you.

[Asker]

I'll keep you posted 🙏🏽

[Oliverlogan263]

Alright man

[Asker]

Speaking of hanging out we once planned on that and she agreed buh leisure time wasn't on my side. So she's willing to hangout. I don't wanna be perceived as being desperate... rather I'll let the ball be in her court till she's ready to speak and during this time I'm still gonna be going about my biz. And also I know there are other guys checking her out and she told me she's single... And one thing about girls is that if they don't like you, they won't want to have any stuff doing with you (I've experienced that before) but in her case it's the opposite. She just has to clarify things rather beating around the bush when she likes me already.

[Oliverlogan263]

Yeah man, I feel you on not wanting to seem desperate by always being the one pushing to hang out. Letting her take the lead on that for now is a good move. Shows you've got your own thing going on too and aren't all up in her business.

For sure, just stay chill doing your own thing for a bit and let her come to you. She knows you're interested, so if she's feeling it too she'll want to see you. And you make a good point - girls don't waste their time with little favors and texts if they're not really feeling a guy.

The part about other guys checking her out is kinda funny too, like she's tryna make you jealous or something. Maybe she wants to see how you'll react. Either way, seems like she's trying to get your attention!

I'd say keep it cool for now, let her miss you a little. Then when she asks to hang again, go for it. And definitely have that talk when you're together - get everything out in the open so you know where you stand. She sounds interested, she just needs to say the words. You got this man!

[Anonymous]

She just likes your company and only would date you as a joke!

[Asker]

Lol.
You know it's a common thing to ask a girl out and she instantly tells you yes or rejects you.
But in this, the case study is the "I'm joking about it" which I feel that's a "yes" if only I'm being real... It's just that I don't wanna carry the wrong illusion

[Opinion Owner]

Then go for it