Move on after rejection?

[Jenny2311]

I asked a guy out for a date, he rejected me by silence. I've been try to move on by staying busy, but still feel sad. I will unfriend him to help myself move on easier. Should i tell him how his reaction hurt me or it's better to just leave quietly?

[ohsheeT]

I feel bad for you but I had to smile I remember the times that I walked up to a girl to ask her out and she said no for whatever reasons and I would turn around my face beat red and I would be saying f*** f*** f*** she rejected me..

That's the reason why I smiled because I can laugh at myself now just because you're rejected doesn't mean anything except for it just was not meant to be there's reasons for that whether you believe it or not there are many many reasons he might not have turned you down maybe somebody stepped in to make him look at you in a different way so he would say no..

I know it yet but it could be one of the biggest blessings you've ever had by him saying no..

I can tell you this a couple times that I was turned down after about a month I was so happy that they turned me down because who I found out who they truly were what they really do don't look at things negative like that you have to look at things positive there was a reason for it and you thank God for it it just means you move on to the next choice don't allow yourself to. Stop life and stop communicating and stop being happy you got to understand you're the only person in this world that lives inside of you so you're the only person in this world that can make you happy.

Like I said this is just a moment in time this moment will pass and another one will start be happy be prepared and be waiting for it let that go let him go move on it's time...

You want to date I'll date you send me a message 🙂

[Jenny2311]

Thank you so much for your kind response. I can imagine that if God lets us meet again one day, I will look at him with a smile, a smile for both him and me in the past. Time can heal most pains. If I cut all the ties, I may forget him after 3,5,6... months. I have my self-esteem. I can love myself. I promised to take care of myself too. But for now, all I can do is be sad and regretful. I feel like I'm too childish and so bad at controlling my emotions.

[ohsheeT]

3,5,6, na. .. let's try something..

Will you go out with me?

[Jenny2311]

Maybe only 2 weeks:)) I feel so much better after cutting him out of my life.
Thanks, but I'm fine. I am from South East Asia, not the US. It was an accidental mistake in my profile.

[ohsheeT]

Well I new you say something.. . And you had a reason for rejecting me right.. well really 3 or 4.. butt to ⁵⁵yshould I feel bad.. for 5 to 6 months..

[molonski2]

Leave VERY quietly , I wouldn't even unfriend him , just do not react , he didn't say No , he just didn't answer.. keep it nice and simple.

[Jenny2311]

If he rejected me with an answer, I would respect his decision and stay normal. His silence hurts me. It's been 1 month, and even though I've tried to keep busy with my life, I still find myself wasting time thinking about him and checking if he is online or not. Maybe I'm being weak, but I just want to protect my feelings. That's why I've decided to cut the tie.

[molonski2]

I understand all the difficulty , but this is not about blocking , its about your self control.

[Abbycado]

Just move on. I don't know what telling him will achieve.

[Anonymous]

Just leave quietly. Telling him won't change anything.

[Jenny2311]

Thank you. That's right. If he didn't care that I liked him, he wouldn't care if he hurt me. Love makes me do foolish things :(((

[Opinion Owner]

That's not entirely true. Sometimes people just don't feel what you feel. I once had a woman ask me out when I was younger and reacted much the same way. If the same thing were to happen today I'd hope I'd handle it much better. She was a spectacular woman if there's one thing I wish I could convey to her is how amazing she is. Because I don't think she ever understood that. I just didn't feel towards her the way she felt towards me. And that is MY problem, not hers.

We as people try to make attraction black and white. And it's not!

[Jenny2311]

Yes, I believe that even when someone tries their best to reject someone, the person being rejected still feels sad. For me, I value honesty, clarity, and kindness.
" Sometimes people just don't feel what you feel." that's sad.
Thanks for sharing ur story.

[Opinion Owner]

Np. For what it's worth. That woman I speak of. We're still friends. And she's happily married and has several kids.

[HumbleDragon]

If silence is all you got. Then that’s his answer. I’d say leave it.

[dudegreat91]

Better to leave quietly. Rejection and acceptance are a part of life

[Lonewolf1974]

Do you know if he's single or not

[Jenny2311]

Yes, he is single. We met through a mutual friend.

[Lonewolf1974]

He might be testing you just talk to him as a friend and you might see signs or attitude change

[Awantika03]

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