In INCEL actually a thing? Is it mostly guys?

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And why? I have read this is a growing faction but I don’t know what the stats are. First of all, most people just aren’t right sized in their minds and would be much happier if they were. I have a buddy. Married. Great dude. His wife is like.. a 6 (if I were just being soulless and superficial). No joke. She is not really attractive at all. But he loves her. She is great. I enjoy them. We all get along. They have 2 kids. I think it must be that a lot of people just spend inordinate amounts of time begrudgingly and desperately pursuing the affections from people who simply will not ever return it to them.
And in truth it’s all just that peoples minds have no perspective. Most people are just middle middle middle in terms of looks or money and that’s fine and can have a perfectly great life. But they chase divas (by that I mean the male or female sort). And likely do r succeed often. If they are Incels.

And in our hyper-sexyaluzed society their minds have been warped. You may have to get off dating apps and go speak to a woman actually, but that would be far better than being one of 5,000 dudes in a woman’s page, and being one of 500 likes one every photo.

their lines are full dudes. Pursue others

I think why women aren’t Incels is because when they want to have sex, if they are struggling, they just have sex. He may not be much to write home about but they pursued it

TonyV · Accepted Answer

Yes incels are real, they have no game, no charisma, no wealth, no fashion sende, no social skills aren't fit and probably have poor hygiene... or maybe the judge and sexualize every woman they meet like a piece of meat even if it's their friends wife.

And no matter how many times you tell them that just improving 1 or maybe 2 of those stats would improve there luck with the lady's 100 times over they act likes it's impossible, as if you just told them to hike up mount Himalaya. They won't do anything to attract women or even go where women are, instead they get mad at women for not breaking into their mom's house to come find them in the basement.

Don't want to work out 3 or more times a week to have the hot body? Well you better be funny or a real smooth talker, don't want to step up your comedy or seduction game? Then be the fit hot guy. Don't to do either? Then get your money up and be a sugar daddy but do something.

Women don't want a boring, monotone, blunt, shy guy who's afraid to look them in the eyes when they talk to them, smells like b. o., has no expendable cash, a shitty car or bus pass or any "room mates" he's related too.

normalice · Accepted Answer

"Incels" are an attempt by right wing media to harness normal male sexual frustrations and turn them in to votes for tax cuts for the rich

hanabunny · Accepted Answer

I think incel is a real thing, guys that can't get laid or find love. It can happen for various reasons and I don't think any one group is to blame. I feel bad for guys like that who are legitimately struggling and not hateful towards women.

There is a more niche female incel or "femcel" thing online, but it's more to do with a lack of ability to get a man who actually deeply loves you. They could get sex but they figure what's the point if it's just gonna be some guy using them.