Is it worth the wait?

[Anonymous]

I'm only seeing a guy who wants to be serious with me and wants to consider me his girlfriend. The other day he revealed he has been having sex with other women while he's seeing me but doesn't want to have sex with me just yet because he wants to take me serious.

[ohsheeT]

That is not being serious with you that is called manipulation he wants to try to make you jealous so you will have sex with him he's the wrong guy for you he's trying to prove to you exactly who he is he just doesn't know it by him trying to manipulate you shows you who he is and he's not being serious he's trying to make you jealous because that's all he cares about is having sex with you or at least trying to get into your pants..

If he was being serious with you he would be serious with you and be with you proving to you who he truly is not trying to manipulate you into believing something that's probably not true anyway just because he wants something from you I guarantee it if you were to have sex with him tomorrow the next day he would probably be gone..

Well I take that back I'd give it a few weeks because you're giving it to them so he's going to get it while they're getting good

You don't want a guy that does what he's doing if he's truly doing that to be your boyfriend or to have any type of relationship with him because that's just not right you deserve better than that

[theegloveguy]

Well, knowing nothing else about your relationship, I believe it’s clear that he’s treating you differently, so there’s that. Though, I’m struggling with his way of thinking because if he doesn’t value sex, then it sounds like a possible future excuse he may use if he were to cheat on you if things got tough in your relationship. Meaning, he cheats and then tells you that it meant nothing to him. Of course, this is all hypothetical, and I’m making judgments of this guy and your connection with him.



We all have intrusive thoughts in our relationships from time-to-time, and it’s up to both partners to make sure there’s clear communication and reassurances. But all you can do is what feels right in the moment. If it feels right, then that’s all you can go on. Just understand that he clearly has a need, and it’s quite important to him. He may be waiting now so that he doesn’t ruin it with you, but he’ll want to have that need met at some point. You’ll have to decide if and how you’ll meet that need, when you’re both ready, of course. Just always keep that in mind and I think you’ll be ok.

Hope you can get it all sorted out and are both happy in the end! 🙏

[Berethor]

Totally, a man who have sex with other women while he's seeing you sounds great. :)

https://allthetropes.org/wiki/My_Girl_Is_Not_a_Slut

[sawno]

No lol, "I want to be so serious with you that I am already banging people on the side instead of you". That's not serious at all.

[missindiana93]

Please your naive if you think he's actually serious about you.

[jazzy34]

Oh my goodness. Kick this guy to the curb. 🤦🏾‍♀️