Do you freak out or get worried whenever 'awkward' silences happen on dates?

[Still-alive]

I'm sure anyone who has been on dates before can relate that there are times where neither one of you are talking. I know people who freak out the moment they happen and try to fill it in with something quickly... are you one of those? are silences on dates actually 'awkward' for you? or do you just allow them to happen?

Yes awkward silences always make me feel uncomfortable. i try to avoid them whenever possible

If too many happen i may be reluctant to go on a second date

It's ok sometimes silences just happen. i don't think its something to freak out over.

It depends on why the silence happened (like maybe something weird was said by either one of you or if it just naturally happened)

[ChillNsweet32]

Nah... like the scene in the movie Pulp Fiction

"That's when you know you've found someone really special, when you can just shut the fuck up for a minute and comfortably share a silence"

I 100% agree with that one... in fact, I find too much talking to be a bit much.

[Damaged00]

Sometimes people just don't have anything worth saying. I'd rather have silence than someone who is just talking to fill the silence.

[paledreams]

I have too much to say 😅 and I ain't saying I am unhappy about having much to say 😛

[Summeroflove]

It can happen sometimes that’s why it’s really best to start a first date like a coffee shop. You can focus on eating or sipping coffee while talking. If things start getting awkward it’s not hard to ditch. That sets it up so that you’re not stuck.

For instance if you’re at a restaurant eating spaghetti and things get weird, it’s harder to just leave. Because you have to pay for your food wait on the waiter/waitress. It’s just a lot harder…. Then going for coffee.

At the end of the day it’s not the biggest deal it can happen. I think making a genuine connection can take time for people to be more open around one another. So sometimes silence can happen.

[electromagnetic]

The dates I go with my husband are never awkward. He always says some shit and I say some shit, and before we know it, both our ears and mouths are filled with shit. The only awkward moment is when the server comes around and realizes we are talking shit and catches 3 hard embarrassment.

[Still-alive]

do you ever have moments where no ones talking though?

[electromagnetic]

Yeah, we do but they’re not too awkward. When we first started dating it happened a lot and he’d always ask if everything is okay. So one day I told him before he asked that everything was okay and that the silence just means I’ve run out of verbal diarrhea of the mind and that’s why I’m quiet.

[electromagnetic]

But I think it’s because I’m the chatty one and he’s a gateway listen and I never run out of things to say.

As you can see 🥹🤣

[Hurtandconfused7777]

I freak out at dating let alone in awkward silence I'm 46 and I haven't been on a date in a long time but I'm working up the courage to get out there again but it would take a viking of a man that was patient to put up with me I'm just telling the truth but I'm getting the help I need and hopefully one day I will find me a husband it only has eyes for me!

[EzraIsShy76028]

For me it's literally no big deal at all.

It's probably unrealistic to expect the person you're with to be talking constantly the whole time, or vice versa for you.

However if there was barely any talking throughout the whole date in general, then I'd be pretty turned off.

Silences sometimes happening is normal. Not talking the whole time though is not.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Since I know very well why silence can be embarrassing for someone, and why someone will fill up silence with wrong interpretations, my option is to talk about silence itself, it's a very effective method to defuse the bomb, try it 😎

[morganherrel]

I was on a date today, and there were moments of silence that I was perfectly fine with. But each time, I glanced at her face to check her reaction: she was clearly uncomfortable lol. So I thought of something to say to end the silence. This happened several times. Honestly not sure if I handled it well enough. I imagine it's different for everyone.

[lexie_xo]

used to when i was really shy but after therapy idc anymore but it depends if the person is compatible i like humour n both having a laugh or keeping a subject going

[lexie_xo]

therapy was an awkward silence lol

[Ms_Facesitter]

No. I am an introvert, so silences can happen I don't panic. But with him, our silences were good and cute ones. It was never awkward or boring.

[Wiredone]

I think it only happened once when I was dating. I apologized and said I couldn't help it but I was overwhelmed by her beauty. It got the conversation going again

[Hurtandconfused7777]

This is why men and women are intimidated by physically gorgeous women women are intimidated for the simple fact that if they aren't as pretty as that woman they're usually ignored I noticed that most men also like slender women for some reason and younger so I have a couple points against me already I just wish guys wouldn't look at the physical beauty so much but you know men will be men LOL

[Wiredone]

@Hurtandconfused7777 nobody should be intimidated by anyone. We all put one shoe on at a time. What is beautiful or handsome to one person may not be appealing to someone else. Looks aren't everything if they don't have the personality to match.

[Hurtandconfused7777]

Yes you're preaching to the choir this is exactly what I say unfortunately for the most part 90% of gentlemen don't have opinions like this until they're much older and wiser let me guess you are no spring chicken now this is not an insult to you what I'm trying to say is you and I being older both know that inner beauty is all that matters I want real love I want somebody that loves me no matter how fat I get no matter if I have my legs chopped off or if my face gets burned off in a fire that has my back doesn't believe anybody else that only has eyes for me I only have eyes for him he's my best friend I always wanted to stay single but the older I get I always say hey God if my guy is out there still send them my way because you know what I don't want to grow old and be lonely but yes I agree with you it has nothing to do with physical beauty physical beauty is nice but it fades we all get older we all get sick and die it's a part of life I couldn't have said it better thank you sir

[Wiredone]

@Hurtandconfused7777 there is a special someone for everyone. Don't go out looking for your soul mate, let him find you. Go out to coffee shops , book stores or even the library. You are bound to meet someone who has the same interests as you. The guys in clubs and most dating sites are only looking for sex. Once they get it, they move on to the next woman.
I've given this advice to several women who said I was nuts but tried it. Over half of them are now happily married.
You're right, I am no spring chicken but my way of looking at life hasn't changed since I was a teenager. I care about and respect women for who they are, not what they can do for me.

[Hurtandconfused7777]

No honestly I don't believe that I used to believe like you but have you ever met anybody in your entire life & this is not to make you dislike me or feel sorry for me or to be a shocking story but since the day I was born I have not been wanted by anyone not by my birth mother not by my four foster homes not by my parents that adopted me not by the guy who got me pregnant at 17 not by my own children I don't look at it as a curse, I look at it as I have a higher purpose to serve & that's God. I do laugh sometimes and tell him that even jobe got to keep his wife! for any guy that does happen to fall in love with me will be a Viking of a man that's extremely patient and he will not be disappointed he will always be provided for he will have a 100% loyal wife that will show him a new amazing love he's never known all because he was the one that took a chance on me. I can't help I get envious of the women that I see have a man that loves them and they don't love him back it's not fair... men have always taken my kindness for weakness it really makes me chuckle sometimes because I see all these men that are wrapped around a girl's finger but don't they realize I could do the same thing I could play all these psychology mind tricks to get a guy wrapped around my finger but then it wouldn't be real love and I don't want that what good is that I knew since the day I was born I was different but I don't think there is a man alive out there who could handle me and I mean not in a good way but if there is I promise he will be one happy man and I will be one happy woman but it would have to be Hercules mixed with Superman mixed with definitely Deadpool I have such a crush on well not the actor but the whole character Deadpool I love everything about him... Well that was sure off left stage but anyway I hope it gave you a laugh yes I have more than anything a guy that takes his shoes off while we're hanging out and that doesn't leave me to go home to someone else

[LiamJHayden]

I'm too much of a blabber for an awkward silence to occur. Awkward conversation maybe, but not silence.

[ProbablyClueless]

No, not at all. Being able to be comfortably silent with someone is incredibly important.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes, I freak out and get worked up.

[GOLDFISH_smile]

Yes I don't like them lol.

[Still-alive]

do you take it as a sign that its not going well?

[GOLDFISH_smile]

Usually. I had to kinda get used to it with my husband cuz he just doesn't talk sometimes, & I can't talk all the time lol. I always get a little worried at first though whether I've said something wrong or they've lost interest. Have to remind myself some people just don't care about silence..

[Still-alive]

have you ever not gone on a second date because the silences were too awkward for you?

[GOLDFISH_smile]

No. I do worry they didn't like me, but if at the end they say they had a good time & when I contact them again they reply & like for a 2nd date, then I think I was probably too worried & rlly they don't hate me after all..

[paledreams]

Hell I'd feel "the date is dooemd" is me 👑

[paledreams]

Doomed for added emphasis bad spelling me hahahahaha 😆😂😆😂😆

[karlainsd]

I never really had that yet

[MemeSupreme]

kinda