Do you like when people you find physically attractive see you as a good friend, but don't see you as physically attractive? Why or why not?

[Jammaa]

I'm wondering if you feel bad because you feel friendzoned or maybe you feel good that you have a good friend.

I'm not talking about situations like where a heterosexual woman has a gay best friend. I'm talking about between 2 opposite gender heterosexuals or 2 same gender homosexuals.

I like it. Hot friends that don't find me hot are still friends :)

I dislike it. I want hot people when they find me hot.

I dislike it. I want friends who I am not attracted to.

I dislike it for both of those reasons.

[V_Injector]

The question is like some sort of retarded oxymoron. Do I like if they want to fuck and then don't want to fuck... basically? WTF no. Why would I like that?

It's called wasting your time. You could ditch them and hang out with someone that wants to fuck. Or... hang out with their ass and nothing gets done.

Hanging out with someone that won't even suck my dick is just dumb. I might as well hang out with other dudes and play video games or something. We could talk shit about women that don't want to fuck and then fist bump about how at least they not out there just fucking everyone like most chicks.

I think that both men and women alike look at the beta orbiter simp that hovers around a chick that just uses him as attention when that dude just wants to fuck the entire time but pretends like he's her best friend... can we agree that guy is being fucking stupid?

I mean he's just torturing himself. He just really wants to fuck. The only reason he's still there being her emotional tampon is because he thinks that's getting him closer to fucking. We all see it and know what's going on. She'll suck and fuck me and then complain to him about how I treated her like shit... and he just listens to that shit. That's pretty fucking pathetic.

The difference between me and him... well, I got my dick sucked and I fucked her pussy while he gets to hear about it like some sort of cuck. There is dudes that like that sort of bullshit but if she plays hard to get with me I just start talking to her friends. I'm gonna at least fuck the fat one.

[ohsheeT]

No there's lots of friends that I see physically attractive and same with my friends looking at me but it has something deeper going on than that.

You have to make a choice when you become friends with somebody you make a choice if you try to pick up on them start dating them because you want to have sex with them usually that doesn't work out for a long period of time so now the person who you like and you love being friends with they're going to hate you because whatever reasons but you broke up and now you know more friends so you have to be honest with yourself and say how much do I value this person..

As a friend because if I have sex with her somewhere down the road is not going to work out I already know this because she's not really my type even though she's beautiful and physically attractive I just know that it's not going to work out so I.

I'm just going to be honest with myself and say I'm not going to go for it I'll just going to be your friend and I have a lot of friends like that that we could have had sex and probably broke up and probably never see each other again but because we are both honest with each other and ourselves we have some good friendships it it does have something to do with physical appearance but at the same time it doesn't..

Because when I pick a girl to be with it's more on who she is on the inside anyway than her physical appearance if she's beautiful on the inside the outside of her body is just all an extra bonus

[osmanthus]

I always feel good at the prospect of having a good friend of either sex. My sexuality doesn't factor into all this but I generally get people staring at me so I've dressed down. The reasons for their stares can range from aggressive to sexual attraction but I generally welcome a person intending friendship. If it turns into a romantic attraction, mutually, great, if not, great. Either way, I consider it a win-win unless the person was being deceptive or outright lying to me. Honest and open communication is always helpful.

[osmanthus]

Attractive could mean a range of things to different people, anyway, so I couldn't elaborate on that.

[petitedollbabee]

I don’t stay friends with someone that I’m attracted to unless they’ve hinted that they like me back. It’s too messy otherwise.

[Finchie40]

If I am physically attracted to her and she isn’t physically attracted to me , then yes I could just stay friends with her , but I probably would get a little jealous that I couldn’t have her and I would probably still try to get her lol. So that friendship probably wouldn’t last long , especially if she met someone else. Why opposite sex friends’ are hard to be just friends’ with. This sort of thing happens with both guys’ and girls’ I had a few so called girl friends’ that were attractive but I just considered them friends , when I started dating another girl , they would get jealous and try to convince me to dump her , I would laugh and say why do you care so much about who I am dating? They would finally confess the truth , that they had feelings for me and wanted to be with me. I would be shocked and think then why in the hell haven’t you made a move on me instead of waiting for me to meet someone else? if that’s how you truly feel? I am not a friggin mind reader. Most people have a hard time expressing their true feelings , I know guys’ do this shit as well. It just goes to show people want what they could of had , but they are too shy to open up about it. So I realized opposite sex friends’ that invest a lot of their time into you , want to be more than just friends’ with you don’t think otherwise. I have experienced and witnessed this shit so many times

[Summeroflove]

Okay, not everyone is meant to be so someone liking you as a friend says that you’re a likable person. Because if you weren’t they would not even be your friend.

Yes sometimes opposite friends catch feelings for each other while other times it’s more one sided where one has feelings while the other does not. A mature person will eventually move on as well as value the friendship if it’s genuine.

For some people it makes them feel bad as for me it doesn’t. It just means they aren’t right that’s not to say there isn’t someone else out there who does genuinely like me.

[hahahmm]

Let me translate: "as a woman I like the ego stroke of knowing hot guys find me attractive but I do not like the complication of getting into any kind of relationship" ?

Guys don't think like this. Guys tend to know that they need to make a move/go after what they want or nothing will ever happen. If he is just a friend, that will stay that way for 500 years, meanwhile other dudes will become more than friends to her. Yeah. there's some guys who seem to be okay with being in the friend zone forever but that was never me. A guy's goal is not to be "friends".

Also as a married dude... I'm not into chasing women/flirting/cheating or being friends with women. Doesn't matter if she's the hottest woman on earth & begging me to give her attention (yeah, that has happened) I'm not doing it. And out of respect for other dudes you don't try to get close to their woman either. There's a line you don't cross. We could be friends in the sense we hug each other at gatherings but there's no texting/calling/messaging.

[NathanDavis]

it doesn't matter...

to find someone physically attractive, or not... is a very normal and natural thing, it doesn't have to mean more than that

as for "friend-zoning" that's a different thing to me... I am only friends with people I want to be friends with... and for the rest, I am with my girlfriend in my own relationship, lol

[Billlewis]

Yes, I actually do like that, because it often gives me a better chance of being able to spoil her, and/or do various tasks, errands etc for her, without her feeling guilty about it.

[Bricealan]

I had some of the VERY best sex talk with a girl in my 20's and we were friends and we discussed our sex life and what we liked. We both loved it.

[Anonymous]

You must have a weird concept of what makes good friends.

[Anonymous]

That is rare for me, but it doesn’t bother me. I’m happy to have a good friend.

[Jmmmfi4]

WHY THE FUCK WOULD I LIKE THAT