Why do people get jealous over their good looking partner?

[Finchie40]

I never considered myself hot or very good looking , I have flaws that I don’t like about myself , I don’t think I am ugly , but I don’t think I am this hot ass guy , I just learned to accept myself for who I am , some girls’ I have been with would get jealous by thinking all these other girls’ want me and thinking I am going to leave her for someone else? Just because I talked to another girl it doesn’t mean I want to fuck her , I am just being polite , and yes at times I will see a beautiful girl and be like Damn she is fine but I keep that to myself to not be disrespectful. I realized girls’ that are jealous will tell me about another hot guy , or not keep it to herself , like it’s going to make me mad or upset and jealous that she finds another guy attractive, I do find it disrespectful , because I don’t do that to her. So why do people do this to each other? if they are choosing you the same way you are choosing them? It actually surprises me that she feels that way about me , like she is that worried I am going to cheat on her. I honestly
assume she is going to cheat on me, by the way she talks about other guys’ to me , so why do this to someone you chose to be in a relationship with? Why make your partner feel this way if you truly loved and cared about them?

[texascollegegirl]

The basic point is your words and answers to jealousy don't have anything to do with their perception of reality and whether you are cheating or would cheat. Maybe they have past history of having been cheated on, or maybe they cheat and this is a tell, or maybe they are like you and wonder if the topic comes up, maybe is where there is smoke there is fire. The point is your just saying you wouldn't doesn't affect their reality the way you think.

I'm going to rewrite parts of your paragraph a bit to try tp help you understand. I am considered very hot. The kind of guys my boyfriend always things about, hung Black guys, go crazy for me. It's my looks and body but also they can tell I am a little white slut for them and that I want their big Black dicks. So the big ones act different around me because they know. So that's reality and my boyfriend knows it, but he also hears what I tell him and enjoys being convinced it's all just his paranoia and fetishizing and no me at all. So I tell him he is just being jealous and paranoid thinking all these big dick Blacks want me and would fuck me right away. I tell him I would never, ever cheat on him. I might even say that in front of one of these guys and then go with the Black guy to be alone. I ask him why he thinks I would leave him for someone else when he is the perfect boyfriend. I tell. him just because I enjoy private conversations with athletic Black guys or get curious about their size doesn't mean I would ever fuck one. And I point out how disrespectful and kind of racist it is to think just because a white girl has an all night conversation at a Black guy's place, people assume we fucked. I assure him that I'm strong enough to avoid temptation, that I was raised to never do that. I point out that we were both raised racist and we both want to overcome it, so I am naturally curious to have conversations with Black men, especially those that have really big dicks, because they were the ones so stereotyped or worse. Just talking doesn't mean I would violate my promises and fuck them. Plus I often go with two or three to talk or go on girls nights out to meet Black guys, so I am safe with those other Blacks protecting me or my friends putting a block if I did decide to follow through. I point out that if I were fucking all those big dick Blacks, I would have the respect to lie to him so he wouldn't be hurt... that if I were cheating with big dick Blacks, he'd have more proof of it. Anyway he introduces me to Black guys and somehow he knows they have a really big dick, so I know it's just his thing. I point out that it's his fetish not mine - I'm the one who found *his* porn collection of Big Black Cocks and white girls who looked just like me... plus collages of my cheer pics. I said I got past my anger over that, but it's his fetish and I am okay he has it and I love all of him, maybe even especially that. But it doesn't mean just because I think whites fetishizing and worshiping on huge Black dicks is healthy and the right thing to do that I would ever, every cheat on him. I'm a faithful Christian girl and I would never do that. It's not my fault if some guy sends me a pick of his huge Black dick. He was just giving me an idea but it doesn't mean we would ever fuck. I would just introduce him to my friends. And just because I advise my girlfriends sometimes that it is okay to cheat doesn't mean I ever would. And I tell him I love him so so much and make him feel so special. He needs to know I would respect him enough to keep it to myself and if I did ever fuck Black guys, he would be the last to know.

[Finchie40]

Why your boyfriend has that fetish is beyond me , and sorry to say , but it sounds like you want a big black cock inside you , so it’s probably going to be a matter of time before you do spread your legs for one of them by you being very curious. In a sense you are already cheating on your boyfriend , by being open and curious to this , just because you haven’t fucked one of them yet? Doesn’t mean you still aren’t cheating on your boyfriend , you are cheating on your boyfriend by you spending time with these black guys’ that clearly want to fuck you , especially if they are sending you dick picks , so yes you can sugarcoat this all. You want but sorry to say you are still cheating by allowing all this to occur by being acceptive of it.

[texascollegegirl]

Read again maybe? I do want big black cocks inside me. I get them every day and lie to my boyfriend about it. His fetish is very normal - most white guys have the same fetishes. That's why BBC porn is so popular. A lot of white guys want to replace my boyfriend when they find out I cheat on him with big dick Blacks. I cheat on him every day. My point in saying all that was to say just because you say you aren't cheating doesn't mean your partner should or will believe you. What you and what is real may be the same or it may be different.

We are a perfect fit because we like the same things.

[Finchie40]

I’m sorry , you are so wrong to do that to someone you claim to love and care about , And you call yourself a Christian woman? LOL , the relationship works great for you but not for your boyfriend, if your boyfriend found out you were banging these black guys’ behind his back , he would kick you to the curb where you belong. Just because people have weird fetishes , it doesn’t mean they act on them and betray their partner , so you are better off ending your relationship with your boyfriend and let him go find a girl that actually values and loves him , because sorry to say , You are a very selfish person that only thinks about yourself , you truly don’t love your boyfriend, you just like the convenience of him , because if you truly loved him you wouldn’t be cheating on him period. So do the right thing and end it with him , not only that , you are putting him at risk of catching STD’s by you screwing these black guys’ on top of screwing him , If you care about your boyfriend , you wouldn’t be doing that to him period

[Finchie40]

Also your boyfriend probably has that weird ass fetish because he subconsciously knows you like big black cock , so he is probably fucked up on the head over it by imagining you cheating on him with a big black cock , so I’m sorry to say , You need to set him free because what you are doing is so wrong , you are fucking with his heart and he doesn’t realize you are. He is trusting you and sadly you are betraying him. You shouldn’t be in a relationship with anyone , stay single and stay a slut

[texascollegegirl]

There is nothing wrong with it. His fetish is stronger than mine. He is what they call an oblivious cuckold. He loves being lied to. How is this not Christian? I am loving my neighbors and fighting racism. It works better for my boyfriend than for me. He loves being humiliated and lied to and he loves that everyone knows and plays along. He *introduces* me to big dick Blacks, like athletes he found at the gym. If he didn't want that, he wouldn't put me in all these situations where I am alone with Black men he already told me have huge a huge dick.

I have no idea why you call fetishes weird. Big Black Cock is one of the most popular fetishes there is, and so many white men have it. My boyfriend is brave because he is fine that people know I am slutty for big dick Blacks and cheat on him all the time. He plays the fool but he masturbates about it all the time. There is nothing he likes more than my riding his face after I have been with big dick Blacks.

It's crazy for you to say I don't love my boyfriend. We are a perfect fit. The irony is so many white guys have the same fetish but they aren't as brave as my boyfriend to pursue it. And so many hot girlfriends also really want big dick Blacks. The smart ones do it on the side, but it would be even better if the cuckolding was a bigger part of the relationship.

[texascollegegirl]

He was obsessed with Big Black Cock years before I was. He is the one who had the Big Black Cock porn collection. He is the one who made these digital collages and little short movies when we were in high school in our racist town, showing me in my cheer outfits surrounded by giant Black cocks. He had thousands of videos of little white blondes like me fucking huge dick Blacks. He's the one who got all jealous of this sweet boy who had a crush on me. He is the one who tried to get me to be all racist to that sweet boy and reject him in front of everybody and call him a stupid N for wanting me. Just because we grew up in families saying the n word doesn't mean I would do that to a sweet, beautiful boy just because the boy liked me and my boyfriend saw his giant black dick in the shower. That's when we had the fight and I discovered my boyfriend's BBC porn and the pics of me he made over years, pasted and photoshopped to be surrounded by big Black dicks like in gangbangs. He wanted this from the beginning like most white boys do. That's why most of the white guys who see what a slut I am try to get me from my boyfriend, so I can cheat on them instead or let them watch. He gets off on confronting me then having me force him to apologize. I am going to stay a slut for big Black cock and I would cheat on him even if he didn't want it, but what you are saying is trash you made up.

[spartan55]

@Finchie40
Lol... you didn't she would actually take any accountability here did you? A whole bunch of 'not my fault' with her.

[Finchie40]

The fact that your boyfriend is a cuck changes everything, you made it sound like he doesn’t know you are cheating on him , so I guess you being a slut is ok in his eyes , why a guy wants to be a cuck is beyond me , but for each their own I guess , me personally would t want anything to do with that shit , so if your boyfriend likes the fact you are screwing black guys ‘ so be it I guess

[texascollegegirl]

@spartan55 It isn't my fault. My boyfriend has a stronger big Black cock fetish even than me, and he is the one who got me into it. Anyway, I can't help being born to fuck the biggest Black dicks. It's what our bodies want and need. It's a natural thing and it's unreasonable to expect a girl who has had a real huge one that is great to be able to say no to if the Black dick is big enough. My boyfriend is a perfect match and you're bitching about it like a whiny baby.

[spartan55]

@texascollegegirl
So noting that nothing is ever your fault is 'bitching about it like a whiny baby'? So stupid...

[texascollegegirl]

@spartan55 You ignored what I said. You are being a whiny baby. I'm not sure why guys get so upset that white girls want to be sluts for the biggest Blacks when white guys fetishize the biggest Blacks. Some things are my fault and I take responsibility when I'm responsible. Expecting girls to say no to chances with the biggest Blacks is just stupid and totally unreasonable. If you had our experiences, you would understand.

[spartan55]

@texascollegegirl
Your reading comprehension is terrible because I never whined about anything. You go fuck a panda bear for all I care. I know it's your goal to piss all the white guys off... but no.

[spartan55]

A cheater is still a cheater. Your justification is just a little less common. But you are still a shit person.

[spartan55]

You're right, I did ignore a lot of what you said because it was a bunch of word salad bullshit.

[texascollegegirl]

@spartan55 The whole thing is whining. The original poster asked a question and I answered by giving an example of why just because someone says trust me, it doesn't mean there isn't room for jealousy. That can be a good thing or a bad thing or both. Then just a bunch of shit from whiny white guys who can't actually pay attention long enough to understand the point.

[spartan55]

Wait... there was a point? Thanks for letting me know how I felt when I wrote my response. 👍

[texascollegegirl]

@spartan55 Now you're whining about people actually reading you accurately even though you can't read well.

[spartan55]

Still talkin? Great. Anything else?

[spartan55]

This whole post is fake af anyway. It's certainly not a matter of reading it accurately.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Because he's cute and I know what kind of man he is, and he took a while to open up. So seeing some random girl try to flirt thinking she can win him over. I know it won't work and he'll reject them, but I can't help but think "who do you think you are?"

[lightbulb27]

last sentence hit the nail on the head.

Ask yourself this question... is there any jealousy in love? The Bible says there is no fear in love... so I ask a similar question.

It's not love, it's projection from their broken inside. explore their insecurities and prior traumatic life events and you'll find the source of that persons answer.

dang you can really draw some difficult ones... then again, there's lots of broken hearts out there... but some are cleaned up more than others.

[ManInChains]

I think it's more so men who get jealous because other men want attractive women more so than women wanting attractive men who think he will rape her if she is too forward. This is another reason why I don't want to have a relationship. I know I will be jealous because I know men will be chasing her and in my experience women ALWAYS humor other men. Flirt back. Make them think it'll go somewhere. Etc. Its too infuriating

[Anonymous]

If you have to tell a woman this more than once it's better to just end the relationship. She's either not mature enough to have a commuted relationship or she has deep trust issues. Either way it's not your problem. Tell her to go get healthy and wish her well.

[Oncewildtwiceburned]

I think it’s way easier for normal women to have a guy that’s more attractive than are, these days. They not only handle it, they enjoy it. However, if she’s immature and they’re both young like 18-25 It will wreck the relationship, she will Jealous Insecure and believe he’s cheating.

But there are tons of old rich dudes with hotties today, they could care less.

i’m not sure, but the people here look like they’re about on the same level

[rienna888]

They get jealous because they know girls will fall on their knees for them. Sometimes the guy will subconsciously display actions that make it seem like he will be unfaithful if given the chance. I’m not dating somebody like that. He says he’s not doing it but he gives off fkboy vibes. Like stared at a girl infront of me

[Crazzyyworld]

She is expecting you to listen what she likes and frustration and she wants to hear what you like too, so hopefully she can find someone to have 4 some to release that sexual desire together and keep each other as a domestic partner? Many couple I see at sex club and they invite guys to fuck their wife?

[Crazzyyworld]

Pretty girls tend to commit but then they also have tendency to sell their look to rich guys.

[strateguy632]

Jealousy is natural. That is why we should battle such parts of our nature. And other sin temptation.

instead of succumbing to sins.

Being tempted is not an excuse.

[DrPepper12]

Doesn't have a thing to do with you it's all about their insecurities. Full stop 🛑

[beefcakebradybatson]

I wouldn't because of my GQ cover boy good looks.

[noohair]

You are on a path to realize how fucked up they can be. lol...

[Anonymous]

Because it's kinda in human nature to be jealous of their good looking partners.

[NathanDavis]

immature people do that

[Anonymous]

She has mental issues