Why don’t guys like tall black women?

[Anonymous]

I am 5’11”, plus size (size 22/24W) and I’m not telling you my actual weight. Guys I like won’t even look my way and guys I don’t want are shorter or skinnier than me.
Most people are intimidated by me. When I smile, some people say hi and quickly move away from me. As a child, most of my classmates were scared of me, nobody wanted to be my friend. Even some teachers blame me for the stuff they did because I should “know better”. I looked taller than my age so people expect me to mature. I get looks like mean glares because to put it bluntly, it’s because m black. I have dark skin. People would watch me. Even some teachers said they’re watching every move I make because they know how my people are. WTF? My dating life is a living hell., My shorter and petite friends have boyfriends or dates. My last boyfriend cheated on me with a slimmer and shorter woman.

My best friend who is a petite curvy slim girl (5’2) had guys crushing HARD on her. She’s also black but a little lighter than me. Why can’t I have that? No guy had crushes on me. She has a boyfriend and he’s very tall like 6’5. I’m happy for her but I’m so jealous. He treats her so well, and she does the same for him. He picks her up and gives her piggy back rides. No guy would give me a piggy back ride.
Being a big, tall woman sucks.

[Oliverlogan263]

Hey, I'm really sorry to hear about all the struggles you've been dealing with. It sounds like people have unfairly judged and mistreated you because of things like your size, height and race that are completely out of your control. That's really unfair and it must hurt a lot.

I think a lot of guys, especially younger ones, can be intimidated by women who are taller and more physically imposing. But that says way more about their insecurities than it does about you. You deserve to be with someone who sees how amazing you are on the inside - your kindness, personality, humor and heart.

Don't lose hope! There are definitely guys out there who will look past surface things and appreciate you for who you are. In the meantime, try to remember that you're beautiful just the way you are. Focus on surrounding yourself with good friends who love you for you. One day I'm sure you'll meet a great guy who gives you piggyback rides and treats you like the queen you are! Hang in there - high school can be tough but it does get better.

[beefcakebradybatson]

Taller, larger women don't intimidate me;nor would I bully them. They don't interest me as a partner.

[Oliverlogan263]

@beefcakebradybatson I can understand that man. They don’t intimidate me either and it’s really based on insecurities from within. I wouldn’t mind a tall woman as long as she’s sweet, kind, modest, and loves and care about me for me. Sometimes tall women would reject guys who are sweet and I even seen videos of tik tok before that a tall woman said some tall women like her refuse to date a short guy because she wants a man that’s taller than her so she could look up at him and feel like a girly girl something like that knowing a man is taller than her just by an inch or so or a short man can’t protect them like a tall man can which is steeply shallow minded and dumb in excuse not to date a short man in my opinion,

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I don't know I don't not believe you and I definitely feel your pain a little but maybe the answer is to really ask yourself why you want a boyfriend. It sounds like you're taking cheaters and players because you want a certain looking type of guy. Which if that's the case, I'll just point out that in your situation it's a little extra ironic. Seemingly anyway.

I used to work with a guy who was about 5'11 and he exclusively went after the BBW black ladies. And I mean most of these woman were very tall and full bodied. Nice guy, was definitely a womanizer.

But my point is, there are definitely guys who you would have good chemistry and connection with who you're probably overlooking because of qualities you probably won't even care about after talking to the guy for a few weeks.

[Anonymous]

Comparison is the thief of joy, and you can’t be happy for your friend until you’re happy for yourself. There’s nothing you can do about your height or your skin color, so why not empower yourself and own it? It’s better than feeling bad for yourself all the damn time and bashing things out of your control. It is actually so depressing to witness dark skinned women with such a lack of self love and constant internal degradation. I’d cry every day if I hated myself so much, and i am a curvy, darker skin black girl.

[beefcakebradybatson]

Most dudes aren't into, ummmm, plus-sized women (including this older black dude). Perhaps were you slimmer, you'd find that some guys like taller but slender women.

[Asker]

I’ve never been slim. Everytime I try, I just fail. I’ll just have to accept that I’ll never be slim and I just accept being big.

[Anonymous]

“Guys I don’t want are shorter and skinnier than me” ok? And girls the guys you want aren’t fat and tall? The same reason you don’t want short skinny guys is the same reason the guys you want don’t want tall fat women.

[Bricealan]

I like tall, any color women, but would be more comfortable with someone my height or close

[LiamJHayden]

From your subtext is seems like some guys do, just not the ones you want.

[noohair]

I don't think it as much about tall as it is about weight. Sorry.

[In_Trance]

The fact that you left out is most likely the most important part

[Squatting_Slav]

Tall black women are hot

[Anonymous]

Can't speak for them but i do. I like.