What disqualifies a woman from being relationship material?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Depends on the guy. Some are pickier than others.

Here are my top automatic deal breakers:

• She casually admits to past cheating and shows no regret/remorse or worse tried to self justify it given something her ex partner did (other then cheating)
• She’s addicted to drugs or something else serious. Now being a recovering addict myself (gambling) I can have grace for people who take ownership of their addiction and got past it. But there is a fine line between someone who is an active addict vs. someone who is in recovery.
• She’s looking for “a savior” for her life. This is usually financial dependence but can be other issues. This is the most common problem I see.
• She had a history of often calling the police on men and/or using other guys to do her dirty work. Not to say legit incidents happen. But some women literally get a sick power play / adrenaline rush out this heinous bs.
• She’s go no drive to take care of her body (exercise/diet). Even if she is naturally thin this isn’t a good sign.
• If she is actively involved with radical political movements. If she had anything to do with “women’s marches” or any other modern feminist bs then I will want to get away from her as far as possible.

Here are gray zone deal breakers.

• Visible tattoos. I can forgive a stupid decision she made at 18 or something. But an otherwise beautiful woman who is still inking up is like putting bumper stickers on Ferrari. Ruins it.
• Unnaturally colored dyed hair. If she did this when she was younger maybe it’s no big deal. But grown women who do this are usually doing for a political statement.
• If she is recently messing around with other women. Admittedly a younger me would have been turned on by this (I confess the hypocrisy/immaturity on that ). But the older wiser me knows that another woman is even bigger threat to a relationship (cheating, manipulation, etc) than another man could be. I’ve seen horror stories of hatero relationships be destroyed over this. But if she did experimented with this in her teens/early 20 I can overlook that.

[Opinion Owner]

*hetero relationships

[Yannae]

If she is entitled. What do you bring to the table? "Bitch, I am the prize!" "I bring myself!" So nothing. No partner qualities that she brings to the table.

"I ALWAYS get what I want" is a quote I run from. Those people get crazy when you tell them no.

Girls hung up on their ex. She's still living in the past at that point. I am no substitute.

If she can not properly communicate. The little things (what to eat, what she likes) isn't that bad, but during Arguments? Problems? You best tell me honestly what's going on or you'll draw out the problem and make it bigger than it's supposed to be.

A girl who takes. Material girl. "A date isn't a coffee date! I want a restaurant!" I avoid them because they're after a free meal and not the person in front of them. And girls who place too importance on gifts. It should be about the why you give it, not what you give.

Smokers. Alcoholic. Druggy. Violent. Drama. Manipulators.

[Anonymous]

Oh, I know this one!

Being too smart, being too tall, having strong opinions, having a tattoo, having piercings, him not being your first, not being a Christian, being a Christian, being too invested, not being invested enough, not having enough personality, having too much personality, etc...

*All actual reasons I have been dumped by men at one point or another.

[Christian_Cartier]

The tattoo piercing is valid reasoning, everything else you said is negligible.

[Opinion Owner]

@Christian_Cartier Amusing that a tattoo rates higher than status as a Christian or not lol

[Christian_Cartier]

For me, tattoos elicit a noticeable negative emotional response. Some types of guys might not mind them as much. In my experience, someone's religion doesn't dictate their behavior and in many cases it can provide a misleading sense of security. I generally try to look past it and observe a persons actual behavior and choices.

[Apple1996]

When men say they're so easy and women have more requirements for a man lol yet all the men here with their laundry list of high ass standards 🙄

[Christian_Cartier]

1. Be healthy
2. Be happy

[Christian_Cartier]

3. Value men

[Apple1996]

@Christian_Cartier your list is sweet 🥲

[Finchie40]

Untrustworthy and selfish , only cares about what is best for her and doesn’t give the same way she wants to receive

[adventurous-1]

her since of self worth, does she feel and act like she's entitled? Is she genuine or a player? Is she trustworthy? is she abusive? Is she doing you a favor by being with you? Is she easy going or does she like to complain and argue? Does she actually listen to you when you talk and is willing to discuss what concerns you or just blows you off. Is she willing to put in the effort to make a relationship work or is she just looking for a free ride? all these things and more play into the dynamics of a woman being considered worthy enough to pursue a relationship with.

[dragoblack]

Horrid communication skills, lack of hobbies and interests, can't vibe with me, treating me like her ex, lack of giving trust, closed-minded, cult-minded, subtexts/footnotes her words, plays drama causing mind games, assumes guys will always pay for her, gets the ick over majorly insignificant things, can't handle slight inconveniences, argumentative, talks about her ex a lot, racist, very political, lack of effort to take care of her body, slob, lack of hygiene.

[Asker]

Thank you for providing a real and thoughtful answer.

[genericname85]

i can only say my personal opinion. everyone has one and most of them differ. so for me its:

• them having a history of fucking around or more than 15 previous partners.
• larger tattoos or body mods other than ear rings.
• children from previous relationships
• mental health issues
• smoking or vaping
• unemployed
• exclusively male friends circle
• hair color that doesn't exist in nature (cause it points to mental health issues)
• morbidly obese
• being homeless

those are only the first that come to my mind without much thought about it.

[DextroShade]

I have a list:

• Has another man's kid
• Any history of sex work of any kind including sugaring, stripping, and OnlyFans.
• Has a reputation for being promiscuous
• Acts masculine
• Woke/feminist
• Has tattoos, piercings (earlobes are okay), or danger hair
• Stays in contact with dudes who have fucked her in the past
• Has friends who are men or hoes
• Goes out to bars, clubs, or on girls' trips
• Posts thirst-trap pictures of herself online
• Is on her damn phone all the time

[PatKirby]

I can add no more to this accurate list except entitlement, narcissism, arrogance, and manipulation. These all seem to be qualities that come as a given in today's contemporary women. These characteristics are not a bug, they're a feature. Date foreign - they're incredibly feminine, take care of themselves (ahem, not fat), know how to treat a man, are interesting and funny to talk to, and just plain fun to be around.

[DextroShade]

@PatKirby if I wasn't already married to one of the last good American women I would be a passport bro.

[Ariesman81]

@PatKirby It's been my experience as well

[Ariesman81]

Wrong attitude in my opinion

[YevgenyMikhail]

Nothing the only limit for a woman is herself. She picks and chooses, so she can find a partner with no problem. Some men are married to pornstars and only fans models, so nothing is holding them back at all from being relationship material. For other areas in life yes, some things will disqualify them, but that is a different topic.

[Wraith_Cemetery]

A lot of things. I'm very selective.

- Isn't feminine

- Dresses like a slob

- Vocal fry and uptalk

- Uses stupid slang like "yass", "slay" etc

- Sleeps around

- Pro abortion

- Atheist

- Narcissistic behaviour and attention seeking on social media

- Argumentative and always has to be right

[DreamCrescent]

what does “vocal fry and uptalk” mean?

[Wraith_Cemetery]

@DreamCrescent Vocal Fry is a creaky voice caused by speaky lazily and not relaxing the voice to let air through and Uptalk is ending phrases on a high note as if you were asking a question. Both are now super common among young women in the USA and Canada.

[DreamCrescent]

i see what you’re saying when a statement is inflected with a question mark at the end

i didn’t know husky voice was a thing. i seen Sarah Jessica Parker and Alicia Silverstone be annoying that way but i didn’t realize it was a rage

[Anonymous]

A lot of things. Bad personality. Masculine. She’s more of a modern woman that we see in the west. She doesn’t want kids. She’s got mental health issues. She’s too clingy. She’s not loyal. She doesn’t like your family. She’s controlling. There’s a lot of reasons. She’s been passed around the block a few times. She’s a hardcore feminist. She expects a traditional man, well at least as traditional you can get these days but she’s not traditional herself.

[AGAM1]

A woman must respect her man and a man must love a woman and they both must love GOD first! After that all the pieces fall together. If you want relationship advice? Why not ask the creator of relation?

[MisterWack]

Her character isn’t in the right place, her priorities seem to not match mine, our personalities don’t click, etc.

[Radiate143]

That a man's ego isn't asked up enough and she doesn't fit his superficial fantasy requirementa and is gasp a human being with a personality that exists outside of his ego stroking needs.

[PatKirby]

Your selfish and self-centered reply is a clear example of what men here have explained in no uncertain terms represents what they don't want, need, and will no longer put up with. Foreign women have got you, and similar women like you, beat by a mile. What you and yours offer is in decreasing demand. Go back to the factory to be refurbished, or get thee to a nunnery. Whichever comes first.

[Radiate143]

@PatKirby we were done with you first but ok.

[PatKirby]

There you go sweetheart, that medicine didn't taste too bad going down without sugar now did it? You basically have two choices. Become a lesbian or enjoy the cats. Paxil optional.

[Radiate143]

@PatKirby whatever you say dude.

[Ariesman81]

@PatKirby Get her!

[Jamie05rhs]

If she always argues about every little thing. That shit gets old REAL quick!

You're allowed to have an opinion, but you don't have to turn every single conversation into a fight!

[Anonymous]

Selfish, entitled, promiscuous past, smoking, drug use, excessive drinking, woke/feminist views, comes from a broken family, doesn't have a good relationship with both parents, unhealthy views on men and/or marriage, doesn't want children.

[Nikki1989]

Lack of communication, respect, trust, or empathy.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Same ish that disqualifies a man.

Annoying.
Abuse alcohol or drugs.
Argumentative.
Liar.
Disloyal.

And any other insufficient ish trait a human can have.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

* Insufferable

[monkeymanoohaah]

A hoe phase, high body count, rude obnoxious, unwanted sexual approaches, unloyal, independent, smoker, vaper, drinking way too much, any types of illegal drugs, no values, no goals, lazy, unsupportive.

[paledreams]

She has a offspring already, smokes, vapes, drinks, drugs, etc etc,

[bobby_bush_eater]

Materialistic, unintelligent, doesn't want children, not modest, unmotivated, having bad manners, not willing to learn/teach.

[Anonymous]

To be bitchy, to swear, to be a bad person, to be dirty, to be a slut, to be prude, to be nerdy, to not wear makeup, to not dress girly, to be ignorant, to not laugh at jokes, to tell dirty jokes, to refuse blowjobs, to be in onlyfans, etc.

[kaucky1]

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[Christian_Cartier]

• 1. Selfishness / Feminism
• 2. Sexual promiscuity (sex without commitment)
• 3. Kids
• 4. Tattoos

[Anonymous]

Small boobs, ugly, feminist, woke, sjw, leftist, pedo, likes gay male porn, is a gold digger

[TadCurious]

Tattoos and face piercings.

[exitseven]

She is into drugs.

[LiamJHayden]

Being untrustworthy.

[elaphe]

Illegal or immoral activity.

[DerekC321]

She doesn't want to spend time with me

[Sugar100]

It’s the oposite for me, can’t find a guy that wants spend time with me.

[ManInChains]

Everything

[normalice]

Gag reflexes

[Brittanyroseee]

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[Anonymous]

If she is passive/submissive.

[Fireguy17]

married,

[jahaims]

Lack of self respect

[noohair]

Bat crazy.

[Jmmmfi4]

SMOKING

[Tomisworthless]

Being ugly