Are there guys out there who genuinely find an average girl attractive and does not wish or fantasies about better looking women?

[Anonymous]

I have always felt a pressure to look a certain way, to have the whole instagram drop dead gorgeous type of beauty. I’m nothing special. I’m plain. White, skinny, no facial features that stick out except maybe my eyes. I met my ex on tinder, was never noticed before. I finally had hope for once, thinking “maybe not all guys like that type of look then. At least there is one guy that finds me beautiful”. I would get so happy when he would compliment me, finally not feeling invisible. I should’ve known better. He had screenshot several insta models online who have that bombshell type of beauty. If we had sex, it was mostly from behind, which I now can only assume is because he didn’t want to see my face.

It’s been a year since i broke up with him. I have given up now on ever trying again. I don’t have the energy to compete when I will never win. Your constantly told what you need to do to be beautiful and I've done it all. ''Get this makeup product and you will be pretty. Get rid of any acne scars or body hair. Get these dresses and you will be turning heads. And hey, if you are shy and introverted, change it because no guy will find you sexy''. I have spent years trying to be “one of the pretty girls” but always end up feeling like a walmart version of chanel and clearly a guy feels that way too, longing for something better. I no longer believe a guy won't look around wishing for prettier and being grossed out by me.

Are there any guys out there who genuinely prefer a plain average look and does NOT fantasize about better or think ''Looks aren't everything. Personality is important'' but actually fully thinks their girl is the most beautiful to them? I have just become so ruined and damaged by my experiences that my toxic mindset when seeing couples, where perhaps the girl is... normal looking, that the guy is thirsting over other girls, having settled. Can someone please prove me wrong :/

Your average girl

What society tells you to look like

[Finchie40]

I can’t speak for every guy , but yes I am one of those guys’ I am pretty much old school when it comes to relationships , I treat her the same way I want to be treated in return , whether she is considered average or not , all that matters is she is beautiful to my eyes and treats me with honesty and respect the same way I will do for her. Love will not grow between 2 people , that can’t choose each other over everyone else in this world. It will just be a waste of time even considering a relationship with each other. So If I am happy in a relationship with a girl , she becomes my one and only , I am not the type of guy that runs around sticking my dick into random girls’ I think that is dirty and degrading and I wouldn’t stay with a girl that was doing that to me. Sex to me is best when I am with a girl that chooses me like I choose her , that wants me the same way I want her , I feel safe with her , in the sense I feel loved and wanted the same way I want her to feel. I don’t want to stick my dick onto a girl that I have to worry about STD’s and shit like that. I will wear condoms with a girl in the beginning but my intentions is to take them off if she proves she only wants me as well. If she is choosing her friends ‘ over me and making excuses that she can’t see me that often , then I will assume she is more than likely up to no good and being a whore , I might still fuck her but only with a condom on. I don’t have STD’s and I never want to have them period. People that can just sleep around are playing with fire and lack common sense. Body count means absolute shit , I rather be with one girl that I fucked 1000 times compared to body count which to me is dirty and degrading

[Lliam]

I MUCH prefer those "average" girls in the photos.
I always found cute, girl-next-door types to be the most adorably attractive.

My favorite are short, fit girls with cute faces and nice figures. And they often have the best personalities. I never cared for glamor queens with gym bods.

The thing about Instagram and dating sites is, woman can use makeup, lighting, camera angles, Photoshop and filters to look unrealistically attractive, just the way Playboy used airbrushing to make its models look more idealistically perfect than any real women. And Hollywood uses makeup, lighting, soft focus, camera angles, and glamorous persona to make leading ladies look exceptionally attractive and desirable
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But in real life, all those women are normal. If they lived next door and weren't rich, they would be like millions of average girls.

And every girl is unique. It's impossible to pick the most beautiful woman in the world. There is no template or standard. Just because one woman is portrayed as extra beautiful doesn't mean that everyone agrees because different people have different tastes and preferences.

So don't give up. Keep doing the things you were doing to make yourself attractive - cute hair style, tasteful makeup, nice fitting clothes, good posture, self-esteem, cheerful love of life, ...
Some guys will find you adorable. And who cares about the ones who don't.

Lastly, I'll add that I seriously doubt if that guy only fucked you from behind because he didn't want to look at your face. Some guys just really like doggy style.

[Asker]

I appriciate the time you took too answer this, and the input! Thank you!

[Lliam]

You're welcome. I hope it helped. I'll bet you're really cute.

[Sunnysunny123]

The thing is, those girls look average without make up, good lighting and putting effects on the photos, see growing up i was always in the corner that's how i developed scoliosis and bad posture because i was never confident and even when i would put make up i would use a little and it was barely noticable it lasted 23 years, when my friends were shining with confidence going out meeting people i was at home or in the corner again. Then i decided to start "following" more real accounts on insta, the ones where they show the before and after they pose, do make up and how they actually look and i realised even the prettiest girls have low selfesteem sometimes so i started getting into make up and fashion, i do a little bit of make up when i go out but it is something that compliments my face, i wear clothes that fit me well and look good on me, i started taking care of myself, moisturise, work out, eat good food, cook nice meals for myself.
You don't meed to do a lot you just need to find the things that compliment and complete you and make you happy and confident.

[Radiate143]

And you don't fantasize about hotter looking guys? Don't be so insecure. And whater 💩 head guy is negging you by triangulating you with celebrities and insta "models" is even more insecure. Get rid of him.

[BullShark]

See, here's where you're not fully informed; looks don't equal attractiveness for many people. It's just something people like to liken to physical traits to justify what attracts them about a person. Like if you look at the literal definition of the word "attractive", all it says is that it's a strong feeling of interest you feel towards something or someone, romantic or otherwise. And that works the same for people.

I'm sorry if you feel unattractive but trust me, the right guys will NEVER pick looks over everything else, and if they do, you're just looking for the wrong guys. Like if I speak for myself, what attracts me the most is how that person really is at their core, whether or not she's a good person, how our values align, and how well we both connect on an emotional level. I'd happily date and wife up a girl that's a 6/10 but a great person to be around and someone who doesn't want me for my wallet, instead of a 10/10 baddie that's shallow

[ohsheeT]

I love your Question. . Because everything you said is every girl around the world

I mean I love the attitude of it I love the whole thing but what is the one thing that you learned from it all that's the most important thing right there if you can answer that you will totally amaze me I am so curious what your answer is or will be

[morganherrel]

Um, are you for real?

Those pictures in the "average girl" are FAR ABOVE AVERAGE in America (fat ugly America).
They are queens in today's dating market that are out of reach for most men, including good-looking men.
And through dating apps, only a small sample of men will have any chance of dating them.

Asker, you say you are skinny... that ALONE puts you in the elite 20% of women age 20-30.

And your face is plain rather than decidedly ugly? You're a goddess. I don't know what your approach is, but I think you're not doing it right.

Those tinder men you swipe on must be thirsty af.

[DryGermanGuy]

In an astonishing number of cases, those internet pictures of the assumed-to-be hot girl just show another average girl with massive cakeface makeup and ridiculous filters! That's why a lot of them don't meet guys face to face and almost none of them would agree to go swimming in the pool, lake or ocean - their cover would be blown.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely.

I want an average girl who has common sense, motherly kindness, and similar morals to mine.

There has to be some kind of initial attraction naturally but that honestly doesn't take much (if you're skinny or in shape, I'm very into fitness and diet).

I don't need a girl to impress people with the envy of her looks. Chasing beauty burnt me in the past.

I want someone I actually like, someone I will love when she's fat with babies or when she's old and wrinkly. A girl who dresses modest and is light on makeup sounds perfect to me. I would sacrifice a great deal in my life to ensure the comfort of an average woman to raise a family on one income.

[genericname85]

every person always has "fantasies" about other people and maybe more sexy people than their partners. women have it and men have it. it's completely normal and healthy as long as they're still loyal to their partner. and yes most men do find "average" women perfectly fine.

[Anonymous]

A lot of men find average women attractive. But there’s always someone hotter who a man will fantasize about or look at. Even the hottest girl a man will still look at other women, fantasize about them. The average women in your example look more approachable. Plus I don’t like a girl who really wears makeup. If she’s cute naturally, it just means that’s she will be that much hotter w a little makeup that enhances her best facial features. Like her eyes or lips.

[LiamJHayden]

I do not care about looks with one exception: no nmorbid obesity. And even that is because I run and workout six days a week and a voluntary couch potato would not be a good match.

And frankly, out of the eight pictured, I find Daisy the most aesthetically pleasing anyway.

[NamerOfStars]

Yes and no, respectively. Plenty of guys out there are attracted to average-looking girls, but if you insist on being the most beautiful, you might as well not bother.

[Asker]

I don't mean that everyone should find me the most beautiful, because I know I'm not. But I would want the guy I'm with to think that. Because that is what I just did with my ex, for example. Everyone else just... became less

[Ariesman81]

What you show as the "Average" girl is not average. I look at them and see natural, sweet, and feminine.

The "other" girls look expensive, bitchy, and a pain to be around.

Give me the girl next door!

[DrPepper12]

I HATE MAKE UP! Natural looking non plastic women are WAY better looking. Those "pretty" women you pasted aren't. Not even close. The top right and left bottom women are beautiful.

[BCA6010]

Yes. The "average" girls in those photos look better.

[elaphe]

All the average girls you show I find attractive. Besides, personality affects how someone looks, for the better or the worse.

[exitseven]

My wife was beautiful from the first time I saw her.

[Juxtapose]

You know those models only look that way because the filters and makeup, right? Most men understand this.

[dudegreat91]

In all honesty no. I'll get into a relationship with a bombshell, but plain Janes I usually have hookups with

[RedInnocent69]

And not fantasize about other girls? No.

[Danny_dan92]

Probably not

[beefcakebradybatson]

Not this guy.