What’s something you’ve learned from past relationships that has changed how you approach dating now?

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Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

I learned to no longer rush into a relationship with a girl , until she proves I am the only guy for her , I will be drawn to a girl that is honest and respectful , that knows what it actually means to be in a relationship, that knows how to remove selfishness for each other , that knows how to resist temptations for each other , that knows what it means to be loyal and faithful , that knows how to make me her priority the same way I will make her mine. That knows how to be a partner and not a user , that knows intimacy and affection is important for the both of us to keep us closer together , a girl that has my back the same way I have hers. A girl that chooses me the same way she wants me to choose her. It won’t always be perfect but we fix things together not run to someone else

ProbablyClueless · Accepted Answer

If someone doesn't actually want to do something; good fucking luck getting them to do it. If it wasn't their idea, it'll be like pulling teeth every time. Whatever it is. Sending a good morning text, telling you about their day, taking a great job opportunity.

Whatever it is; if it wasn't their idea and it wasn't something they 100% wanted to do, they will make everything as unpleasant as possible.

CorneliaUSA · Accepted Answer

Do not say too much about your ex, especially if he caused lots of pain. If you talk too soon about what you like amd dislike in a guy (or girl) they can just pretend that they are what you want and hide those same bad habits. I have a friend that specializes in mental health and her advice to me (after I fell for the same abusive type) to shut the f up. Just observe. It takes about 90 days to start seeing some truth about the person. If they ask what your likes and dislikes are, tell them you don't want to talk about exes or say what it is what you want. You want to get to know them. So just he yourself.

luvstoned4him · Accepted Answer

I've learnt:

-To stop going in with too many expectations.

- To keep the rose colored glasses off and instead see the person for who they are and not who I want them to be.

- To only give as much as they do so as to avoid being a door mat

- When someone tells you and shows you who they are, believe them especially if they do this over and over again.

- Believe Actions over words especially those that are consistent (watch the patterns)

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

not from past relationships but from failed attempts and friend's & family's experiences: do not ever open up to a girl even if she says you should (will use it as leverage later against you), do not ever let her take advantage and disrespect you, online dating is not your friend and the odds are against you, women will cheat on you if you're not "exciting" enough, their drama makes you go crazy, their emotions towards you change as fast as the weather in the mountains, too many are just gold diggers

thegreenyogi · Answer

To be guarded, to not fall in love with the idea of a relationship and that I can't and will not date guys with mental health issues. I hope in being brutally honest no guy with mental health issues will take offence in reading this but I know it's something that I can't deal with because I tried in the past and it's just too stressful for someone who doesn't have mental health issues.

coolbreeze · Answer

Dating is expensive and costs a lot of money.

worldscolide · Answer

I learned to stop trying so hard to be what she wants. That was 12 years ago though, I haven't dated since I met my wife.

smashleyy · Answer

I don’t chase anymore, but I also don’t attract…I avoid😂

exitseven · Answer

I had a string of bad relationships one year. It soured me on dating I was going to give up on it

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Never get even with someone that is your ex because the wrong thing to do.

DrPepper12 · Answer

That they ALL can end amicably ALL the time if infidelity is not involved.

Jennz6 · Answer

I love girls now 💃

Dongie · Answer

She can take the nicest getting and twist it into the nastiest crack I've ever heard.

OddBeMe · Answer

I learned my wife hates cheating so I canceled my dating life.

noohair · Answer

I know nothing about women and I learn less every day.

Kaizer000 · Answer

Never be friends with girls you are into. Make intentions clear.

Redstang88 · Answer

Don’t bother, get a dog

JoeRob67 · Answer

Not to be treated like you don't matter.

Sevenpointfive · Answer

i'll never learn. so i quit

CubaPirate · Answer

Absolutely nothing

Squatting_Slav · Answer

Be confident, honest, and stick to my word

msc545 · Answer

I learned not to have dating relationships.

negrl4a69 · Answer

Very carefully more picky

DtMe89 · Answer

Nothing

eagle1951 · Answer

beats me

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