I don't know why women my age or 10 years older dont find me attractive?

[Anonymous]

Its always the women in their 40s or higher that have visible aging in their face. They say it gets easier in your mid 20s but i turn 30 next year and i still go through the same thing as i did in my early 20s. Not mad maybe this is my fate but more curious.

[NathanDavis]

there could be a million reasons why you're not fairly attractive

[Asker]

A million reasons not to bother anymore if its that kind of reality

[NathanDavis]

maybe you should ask yourself...

what's attractive about you?

why would anyone should be attracted to you in the first place?

[Asker]

We talking just the physical or the internal?

[NathanDavis]

both... physical ones are a thing on first impressions

the internal ones are more of a factor on keeping their interest

[Asker]

Oh the physical is never considered with the girls my age or in their 30s lmao. The ones who were in their 40s hmmm past the physical it was a sense of humor and being a good listener, and sharing common interests beliefs.

[NathanDavis]

- sense of humor
- good listener

I only see two traits... just two are definitely not enough, and a lot of people have a good humor, and can also listen

you need a lot more to stand out

I am sure that, when you think of woman you would like, you would name at least 10 different traits

but you only have two, to offer yourself

[Asker]

I'm sure there is more to say than what i actually show. I just can't label them off the top of my head but care to share? It seems like time wasted if I can't be accepted for the physical.

[NathanDavis]

if you have them, then you can list them, for sure...

if you're not able to bring them up yourself... then others will not notice it, they won't see it, they just won't know about it

you go unnoticed

[Asker]

i feel like most of those 8 traits fall under what I said

[NathanDavis]

you only mentioned two of them...

[Asker]

What honesty compassion?

[NathanDavis]

honesty and compassion are basic human being traits... one should not feel special to be kind

[LiamJHayden]

So what about the aging? We all will have that if we live long enough. Older women can be wonderful and far less drama than women in our age range.

[Asker]

I'm just saying what i've noticed. Its not judging them. Just feels like i'm not taking advantage of my youth how I would like

[LiamJHayden]

Just enjoy the older women.

[Asker]

So you basically logically summed it up like I have for a while now: "just appreciate you get laid with a bitch"

[In_Trance]

You need to ask yourself what you bring to the table. What do you have to offer someone? Why you and not someone else?

[Asker]

Why me? Physically i just dont scale high enough for the women i want and that means i have to lower my standards down. In that case i have to exit from dating alltogether

[In_Trance]

Suit yourself

[Asker]

I like that answer. We have to be honest sometimes and not live in a fantasy where a promise land exists under false disney scenarios