What does it truly mean to go with the flow?

[Justneedtokno]

How to stop overthinking in a situation that is a short term wanting it to be long-term

[Intheclouds00]

Stop trying to decide where you're going and just let the Universe show you where you need to go. You have to learn to let go and just go with the feeling the first feeling not the second or the third if your first feeling is to go right then go right if your first feeling is to cross the street then cross the street if your first feeling is to say something to someone say it don't psych yourself out don't second guess yourself as soon as you don't do what your first instinctual feeling is you are no longer listening to the universe you are no longer going with the flow

[Anonymous]

To me it means this. I live my life by 2 rules.

1. Don't worry about the small stiff in life.

2. Everything in life is small.

I take what life hands me and I just keep rolling. That's what going with the flow means to me. It doesn't mean giving up or not trying. It simply means not wasting your time on unwinnable battles and living in each moment. Because to quote the movie Dogma, that's all life is really. Just a series of moments.

[Opinion Owner]

Stuff* not stiff

[AviatorTom]

Rather than think of the situation that's confounding you, think of something else, maybe a plan you have to travel somewhere.

[abc3643]

It means you are preparing the night before a colonoscopy.

Seriously, think about it like this:

You are floating on a river... floating, not boating with an engine or paddling or whatever. You are moving with the flow of the river and it will take you to wherever it is that you are supposed to go. Doing anything else is extra effort.

Here's a scene from the 1978 cult stoner movie Cheech & Chong's Up In Smoke.

In the movie, police Sgt. Stadanko and his team are trying to make a big bust of weed that is supposed to be smuggled over the border from Mexico.

What he doesn't realize is that the van that is supposed to be carrying the weed, doesn't have the weed, but that the van, itself, _IS_ the weed! It's made from "fiberweed".

So, near the end of the movie, the van is parked outside The Roxy where a battle of the bands is occuring. A small fire occurs in the street because of a guy tosses his spent cigarette and this causes the van to begin burning releasing marijuana smoke.

Stadanko and his team are right next to the van having arrested a couple of guys, but they are all inhaling that smoke and getting high.

Standanko gets really upset and Harry, his #2, gives him the best advice: "Go with it"...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YidpkNXMqaY

"Go with it." is synonymous with "Go with the flow." In other words, don't worry; just let it happen and experience and enjoy what is happening right now.

[Justneedtokno]

Now I truly understand what you’re saying and it does feel a little difficult because just letting somebody be around and may feel as if they’re taking advantage of you is not going to be wonderful at the end for yourself so it’s like other than this there’s gotta be a transactional thing or we’re actually going someplace because as a woman I’m going to think this way as a man I don’t know how you feel. I don’t know what you think. It may not be inflation about stuff but you know.

[ProbablyClueless]

I think that all people really mean when they say "go with the flow" is just that you shouldn't try putting pressure on the situation. Don't try to force the relationship.

That's really common with a lot of women. They tend to get aggressive and push the relationship to be way more than it naturally is. Maybe I'm your future husband, maybe I'm not, but one great way to guarantee that I'm not is to place burdens and commitments on me at point of our relationship where we just don't have that kind of connection.

You can't expect daily good night calls from someone you've had one date with, for example. You'll have a lot of disappointments if you do.

[incorrected]

It sounds like by "situation" you're actually talking about some kind of relationship? Going with the flow in more general terms just means not fighting for for it, and instead letting things unfold effortlessly and accepting the outcome no matter what it is.

[Jamie05rhs]

Shit, I wish I even had a short term situation.

[Justneedtokno]

No, you don’t because the instability of the situation. I don’t know when you’re going to leave a stop talking to me. I don’t like it and you don’t even know how long they’re gonna be here and then you might feel used at the end

[Jamie05rhs]

@Justneedtokno Aww 😟

[legalboxers]

just go with it..

[Justneedtokno]

That is super hard when I’m wanting something long-term I feel bad for the other person

[abc3643]

See? @legalboxers understands, man!