Is character or appearance important to you?

[red-lipstick-girl]

Everyone should accept that most people do not start a conversation with someone whose appearance they do not like. Sometimes I ask myself why I have dated ugly men and been cheated on every time.

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I've become cold towards men in general and I'm not even in the mood to flirt anymore.

[Zack-Bann]

I will say something harsh but it’s also a visible truth:


Ugly people are very often ugly on the inside as well.


Appearance is nothing more than the reflection of one’s lifestyle:


If you eat right. Sleep right. Take care of your grooming/styling. Pick an appealing wardrobe.
You will be attractive on the outside and inside since you will be someone with a healthy and hopeful outlook on life


When you indulge in vices and let yourself go you will look horrible and be someone horrible to be around as well


So I try to surround myself with people who seek a positive and healthy outlook on life in every aspect because that’s contagious as well and will make me more likely to stick to the journey.


So when you say ugly people cheated on you it’s not a shocker
Give attractive people a chance
And I do mean truly attractive people not pretentious jerks with symmetrical faces

[Chthou95]

The halo effect

[Staximus]

This is the dumbest shit. People don't have control of the way their face looks, genius

[Zack-Bann]

@Staximus

They don’t control the genetic features no

But they do control everything else

Lose/gain weight to be optimal with your size = more jaw and chin definition

Trim, fade, shave your hair depending on what works best = you look dashing and youthful
(Same with facial hair

Wear fitting clothes with colors that match your complexion and blend well with eachother = you appear classier, smarter, and of a higher social value

These things matter, and they make all the difference

Short, tall, eye color, skin color these things are a small part of the larger equation

So yes, you DO control your looks

(The only exception is disability which unfortunately requires different considerations, as in you don’t compare a fully abled person with a disabled one and claim one is better looking)

[Chthou95]

These things don't gurantee anything. Sure you should work and improve your life but just because you work hard doesn't mean you're guranteed success. A lazy person can still be successful and hard working person can still fail

[Zack-Bann]

Doesn’t mean it’s a good idea to be lazy and hope for the best
Because on average hard working has better chances than lazy the exceptions don’t make the rule

[Chthou95]

I never said it was but the universe doesn't grant or punish based on your choices. And even if the odds are better with hardworking, doesn't mean it's guranteed.

[NathanDavis]

both are important... but in my case, to different degrees

personality and character are a priority in my case but I've never been in a relationship in which the physical attraction was not off the charts, so...

however, the true key for me... is the confidence, the confidence when genuine... will have such an impact of the other two things a perceived, whether is looks or persona... the right kind of confidence makes the person attractive AF... it just amplifies them so much, definitely

[IslaTheWitch]

his character... his way of thinking... his personality...

I've never paid much attention to appearance... even if he was the most handsome man in the world... but we couldn't connect, talk, laugh... we simply wouldn't be together...

but clean clothes and personal hygiene are very important to me...

[MK1997]

@IslaTheWitch What about sex, you'd still not do him?

[IslaTheWitch]

@MK1997 sex is in the end, not in the beginning lol

I don't hook up... I need a deep connection to feel comfortable with a man, and I'm not in a hurry :D

[red-lipstick-girl]

I would never even consider having sex with someone I didn't trust.

[alice55]

Both are important but I for sure couldn't date someone I find physically ugly. As for personality I can tolerate a lot of things but not cheating.

And I'm quite shocked ugly people are cheater I thought they would be too happy to date someone attractive and be loyal seem no...

[mandyfire98]

Both. Appearance gets your foot in the door usually. Everything else keeps you there.

With that being said. Looks are subjective.

[beefcakebradybatson]

If looks are subjective, why do I LOVE buxom blondes as do 90-95% of lads?

[mandyfire98]

Any buxom blonde though?

[beefcakebradybatson]

Loni Aderson in her pre-barracuda days, Pam Anderson before Tommy Lee, Rip-Off Robbie Ritchie (Kid C**k, I mean, Kid ROCK) and the four STDs, Donna Douglas, who played buxom blonde farm babe Elly Mae Clampett on the 60's sitcom "The Beverly Hillbillies" and of course, Maureen McCormick or Marcia Brady. (though Maureen/Marcia was too young to have REALLY big boobs).

[mandyfire98]

Those aren't just any blonde women with big boobs though.

You said any lol

[ClassicDropout]

Appearance is more important initially cuz I know y'all are making zero effort to make yourselves emotionally appealing. Why look for something that won't be there. You even said it yourself. y'all intentionally try to be cold and hostile for some weird reason. Sounds like a pointless endeavor to look for character until you really know the girl.

[sawno]

In a relationship both, if I am going to love someone I want to love them inside out. Now merely lust after them because they are attractive neither do I want to get along amazing but be turned off from having sex.

Outside of a relationship I don't care what you look like.

[Tarifa]

Appearance gets your interest going. Character is what will make a relationship worthwile.

Sorry to hear you've become cold towards men in general. Flirting is what gives some spice to your life.

[SunnyRS]

I would be lying luv if I said it doesn't matter at all but looks somewhat matter as it is the first thing we see in someone, but what makes someone good for me is more of their confidence than their looks. re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

[Babygirl_S]

I’ve never dated an ugly guy. I only started chatting with some and they proved why I shouldn’t have done it. First thing that attracts me is his appearance followed by personality

[WhitneySnow]

I might be initially attracted to someone for their appearance but I date them because of their character. And those guys can’t be that ugly if they have two girls (you and someone else) willing to sleep with them at the same time.

[exitseven]

Appearance is important at first but it only gets you so far. If you are lacking in character it will soon show up.

[Desi_Butcher]

It's got to be a mix of both. Appearance matters ofc but so does character. Character holds a little more weight than appearance igl.

[Abbycado]

I definitely have to be attracted appearance wise, but character is make or break.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Both but character is more important cause without character there's really not much left

[Anonymous]

Appearance is what attracts me to a woman initially, but her character, personality, attitudes and world view are what make me stick around (or not).

[Adel50]

Both are. But I'd choose character over appearance.

[LiamJHayden]

Character and personality. Appearance is far more negotiable.

[Emmytexrex]

Both are important but I think character if I am thinking long-term

[msc545]

ok - keep picking men based on appearance, keep getting cheated on.

[IeatChickenandFish]

Character 1,000,000%. I was talking to a complete 10/10 girl and then she opened her mouth about other women judged men on their pp size, and I got turned off almost instantly.

[Delia2005]

Both I believe but character is more type of their character is important.

[Staximus]

You obviously don't know how to pick a good guy

[red-lipstick-girl]

There is no good man but

[Staximus]

There are plenty, you just need to change the way you look for them

[kaucky1]

They gotta drain me use mojo against me even have a Lifesize voodoo granting of me

[justabuddy]

You pick a person based on the whole package. Some people ignore red flags because of certain traits. Dating can be harsh in that way.

[BurbankRob]

I've met a lot of really fine people who would never make the cover of "Vogue" or "GQ."

[Chthou95]

Why'd you date them in the first place? And looks start the process

[slatyb]

Character is far more important than appearance.

[Ironic_Method]

Both? Weird to just pick one.

[Wise4myage]

I think they’re both very important.

[beefcakebradybatson]

C-H-A-R-A-C-T-E-R !!!

[DJB72]

Character every time - for long term...

[Fireguy17]

character/personality is first and foremost to me.

[Cheerfull009]

Both are important

[SmileyLady]

A bit of both.

[Anonymous]

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[4ngelic]

in dating, both

[Raaj4you]

Both

[Alex-Snow]

Character any day

[Sinemm]

Yeapp

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes they both matter