Which matters the most: Looks or Character?

[Usher55]

Someone who's beautiful from outside, but hideous from within.

or

Someone who's ugly from outside, yet with a dazzling personality.

- There's wisdom behind this question.

Looks

Character

[Ozanne]

This is a tricky question because our first impressions are from looks. That's what makes us scan a nightclub and see someone and decide if we want to start chatting with them. Even before someone opens their mouth, good looks (or what we consider good looks, because it's always in the eye of the beholder) is what kicks things off.

But after some time, the character does come into play if we find we're dating a drop dead gorgeous asshole. Suddenly, we realize the looks aren't as great as we thought they were. You might notice this is when people drive their friends nuts by staying with someone awful and complaining about them all the time, but they can't seem to let go of that first attraction they felt when they met.

Then we have the person who has a great personality, but can't get heads to turn. Those people take time because it takes some warming up to how they look for some people to cast that aside and decide that they love how they are, rather than how they look. This usually happens when men and women are friends for a long time.

In the end, it's like a spike on a line graph. The "good looks" get a spike up quickly but can come down fast (if not over time), but the "good character" builds gradually and continues to climb until it's eventual peak is considered just as sexy as someone's looks.

My vote was character, because after some time, good character seems to make someone attractive over time anyway.

[Hawkes_Lady]

Character is by far more important to me. I would like him to be a hot, muscly stud but I need the guy I am with to be beautiful on the inside more. I need the guy to be loving, gentle, helpful, dependable, and trustworthy. He needs to be mature and able to communicate in an open, honest, and fair way.

[LiamSawyer]

I agree and seek the same.

[Hawkes_Lady]

@Usher55 Thanks for the MHO!

[Sonorous]

I chose looks because it's judged the most harshly. You could have a good character but if you're ugly, you won't get the same response that you would if you were more presentable or attractive. People will stay away from you. And keep in mind, I'm not talking about personality. Personality matters more than looks but looks matter more than character.

[Curiosity2006]

I'm sorry, could you elaborate on that last bit?

[Sonorous]

Sure, I believe looks matters more than character because what makes others generally want to be around us isn't just because we're good people or that we have reasonable morals, standards, etc. It would be more likely for people to like the personality the other person has. And ofc, just because someone is attractive doesn't mean they have good character or a good personality. So people it's more important to have those in terms of socializing.

[Curiosity2006]

Thank you.
But could you clarify the difference between 'Character' & 'Personality'?

[Sonorous]

@Curiosity2006 - There's definitely overlap between the two. I could be wrong but I view that character has more to do with someone's moral compass & how they treat & view the world by default. And personality is similar in the way that there can be good, but it's got more to do with our traits brought on by our consciousness & our genome.

[Curiosity2006]

Thanks very much! ❤️

[Sonorous]

Yeah no prob 👌🙏

[BoopBoopBeep]

There are few people so hideous that they can't clean up well with a new wardrobe and some gym time, but hot people with a shite personality are single-use only.

[inhua]

character is what is said on paper. looks is what gets applied in practice

people need to be honest with themselves. they can't romantically love someone with a great personality if they don't find them sexually attractive

sounds politically incorrect? well that's because it is

[Singing_Hollow]

To me they go hand in hand... Even if a guy isn't attractive at first glance, if he has a great personality and seems like a good person, that can alter his physical appearance and make him hot to me.

[MuhammedNada]

Looks are like the first thing that attracts us.

I won't say that looks doesn`t matter cause i would be lying.

But, what do you get when you date / have a crush on a gorgeous / handsome person who has literally nothing good in him / her.

So, I would choose character, cause by time I am gonna spend the time with someone who I find kind, funny and happy to be with.

[KingOfMe1]

Looks are more enjoyable. Character matters more.

A drug addict enjoys Fentanyl more than air but air matters more.

[Sweetsurprize]

You can't change the character of a person.

But I wouldn't date someone I wasn't attracted to. No point. I don't want ugly kids.

[Katebfun]

You're almost too old to have kids...

[KingOfMe1]

A kid can't be ugly.

[Sweetsurprize]

@Katebfun True but so are you. You're older than me at 40 vs. 39. But anyway, it's fine. I took my time and I STUPIDLY believed that I could find Mr. Right. Anyway, whatever, if I don't get them naturally, then I may adopt.

By the way, my AUNT had twins at 48 going on 49 back in 2012. She and her second husband used IVF/IUI however.

[Sweetsurprize]

@KingOfMe1 Yes they can. I've seen some "not so cute" kids. Though, I of course, wouldn't say it to their parent's faces.

[KingOfMe1]

@Sweetsurprize Kids can't be ugly or attractive. Only people who sexual them say they are ugly or attractive.

[Sweetsurprize]

@KingOfMe1 Lol you keep thinking that with your pathetic narrative. Ugly means NOT cute or physically appealing to the eyes you dumb dumb. It has NOTHING to do with sexual attraction you sicko. Get outta here lol.

[ShadowYamihiro]

Appearance captures the attention but personality captures the heart

[KingOfMe1]

What does heart mean to you?

[serious]

Both are important but character and personality is more important.

[FreyaRed]

Looks for attraction, character for keeping.

[sheenagwapa]

i don't date someone i find ugly but personality melts my heart

[shades777]

both matter in dating, would you date a 600lb whale with character? yea i thought so, ans would you date a perfect 10 who steals from you, your a bit too old for this "or" nonsense

[AnusNdaPainus]

Definitely looks it should be character but

Nobody reads and ugly persons bio

it’s just SWIPE LEFT 🙄

[DaBiggestBird]

Looks are like sizzle and character is like steak.

[Sasha0426]

Looks are a bonus. Character is what will make me stay 🥰

[Anonymous]

Character is most important. As long as her character isn't over 225lbs.😆

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Character

[Luopio27]

Looks. Are only thing that turn me on.

[Sparkie460]

They both go hand in hand

[dudeinohio]

Character

[LiamJHayden]

Character.

[whistlingwh0res]

In orgy look only matters

[whistlingwh0res]

You know penis size, women skill for blow job, etc could be matters too