Looks or personality?

[cat_guyy]

What is more important to you

[Potteplante]

I don't know. Neither and both. I want to be attracted to my partner - to their personality and appearance.

I've overlooked both aspects and regretted it each time.

[cat_guyy]

Thank you. Finally someone gets it. Men who are good looking know they have to have a good personality. We don’t get flooded on hinge to where we have to shut off our notifications. Sometimes we go years without intimacy or affection. It’s a hard thankless job to be a man, even if you’re good looking. Because you have to be perfect in this world to have a chance with a woman. I was married six years to a beautiful woman because I value good looking women, but I had to work on so so much about myself to be able to have the time of day. You girls have no idea how hard it is for men. The least you can do is give us a compliment and make us feel like ugly guys deserve better when all we want to do is try for you

[cat_guyy]

*not make us feel. The truth is we have to be great in every way. The leverage you have as a woman in the modern era of instagram and tinder is unfathomable. Wanna know why marriages don’t last and no one’s having kids anymore? Because you can always choose someone else. No one tries anymore. So us guys have to be good at all areas of our love. I assure you

[Nikki1989]

Personality. Looks matter for maybe 30 seconds on a good day.

[cat_guyy]

Right. You what’s funny? Men know we aren’t judged by our looks, so we all work on personality. So to all the women that say an ugly guy is a better choice because of that, the better looking guy is the better choice. All men know the work on that

[ChicoFromThe305]

Personality over looks but in reality looks play a part for both genders, we can't pretend it doesn't

[BarryLiverstone]

Looks initially. Any girl who said that looks don’t matter in the beginning isn’t being truthful.

[cat_guyy]

Right. It gets you in the door. But here’s the thing. I DON’T talk to ugly girls. Only the pretty girls who are nice

[12karen]

Personality

[12karen]

@BarryLiverstone look don't matter in the beginning

[cat_guyy]

Yeah it’s really lame when a girl dates an ugly guy. All men have good personalities because we know we have to. So the question really is what’s the real reason why you don’t choose better look men, especially when they look better than you

[Apple1996]

I only care about personality

[cat_guyy]

All men have good personalities. We’re all funny and interesting. And holistically, because we work on our style we are MORE likely to be nicer. Because we have to work harder for you than you do for us.

[Apple1996]

I've met a lot of men with terrible personalities lol

[cat_guyy]

I bet they didn’t have nice teeth and hair.

[Apple1996]

Nice teeth and hair isn't something I care about. Having some teeth imperfections is acutally kind of cute in my opinion

[cat_guyy]

Yes this is what I want to know. Why do women choose uglier men men both know they need to work on themsevles

[Apple1996]

There is the concept of ugly hot men. Where they are so ugly that they are hot. Pete Davidson for example

[cat_guyy]

Pete Davidson is hot because other hot women dated him. I wouldn’t even be his friend as a guy. I’d ask him to go cliff diving and he’d probably talk about wet and wild or something stupid and not even jump. What a bozo. He’s not sexy. Not in a bromantic way or with the ladies. Girls choose ugly guys because they don’t want the man to steal the thunder.

[Apple1996]

He's hot because his looks are ugly. Has nothing to do with the women he's been with

[ab2shifty]

Personally