How come my brother didn’t criticize his girlfriend for sleeping with him after a week of knowing him?

[Anonymous]

[ohsheeT]

Because he got what he wanted and he's not going to put her down for it

And if you're talking about he criticized you for doing the same thing well that's what big brothers do

They protect their little sister by all means just because he did it doesn't mean that you can do it is what's going through his head but at the same time.

He could do it a lot different ways and not be a hypocrite either

[Asker]

I’m not his little sister and you’re not understanding the question what makes her so special?

[ohsheeT]

What makes her so special is that it's your brother's girlfriend are you saying that you should have more cloud than she does or more attention than she does

[ohsheeT]

Okay I was going to ask you this in the very beginning but I didn't I just went ahead and I answered

[ohsheeT]

Something happened did he criticize you for something but then didn't criticize her for either the same thing or something close to it

[ohsheeT]

Because it sounds like somehow he criticized you for something and it pissed you off because how come he didn't criticize her for it I just what it sounds like the question is

[Asker]

Yes all of it you just said?

[Asker]

I didn’t mean the question mark

[ohsheeT]

And this time goes on and he learns more about you and what you do you will probably do it even more but he needs to learn how to do it in a better way I mean I understand that he wants to protect you but he also has to understand that you also have a life and that you're smart and that you are paying attention to the things that you do and you have to give him that reinsurance that all the above you are doing so he doesn't have to worry about you too much but it's always going to be in the back of his head.. to be mean about it he thinks he has to be

[ohsheeT]

It sound like a father figure so you're scared LOL

What he doesn't realize is that he would get 10 times further by just communicating to you as a brother as a friend than trying to control you because when he does that what are you going to do the odds are you going to do the opposite

[Anonymous]

Because he wanted it too? How’s that your concern

[Asker]

Because if I do something like that I get judged for it.

[Asker]

Hello are you going to answer.

[Joshua_H_1010011001]

That's the point.

Doing it is negative for your reputation. But it's necessary to tell the guy he is special, as you need and want him.

So you are sacrificing somthing to him as a gesture.

That's why we look down on girls who sleep about, because it's meaningless at that point, the guys not special at that point, just the next one.

It's bad for everyone ells but acceptable for him/me, it's hypocritical but how it works.

Because if you have ever slept with anyone ells quickly, then not him, why is he less special.

The only realy caviate is if your a virgin or have only a couple of body's and they were all slow, in which case a man will understand and respect this, as he is still special to you.

[Asker]

@Joshua_H_1010011001 now all I asked why my brother didn’t criticize her for sleeping with him after a week of knowing my him? I didn’t need people giving me attitudes I mean I can say the same thing to people when they be in my business.

[Asker]

@Joshua_H_1010011001 can you please answer my question why she was special and wasn’t judged because she wasn’t a virgin before she met my brother.

[Joshua_H_1010011001]

Hey,
I'm sorry, please don't take my original answer as attitude, it's just men/women communicating.

I just answered it with logic and facts as I see it.

I hold no judgement or bad feelings. Only love.

I feel I explained this in the original answer.

It's a double edged sword or hypocrite. She was judged by him, but also she was demonstrating that she cared, so it made him feel special.

Please feel free to ask more or explain any bits you don't understand about my point.

I'm being genuin here, not judgy or nasty but is hard to convey over message.

I am trying :)

[Asker]

@Joshua_H_1010011001 I was talking about the people who were telling me that it is none of my business like people don’t be getting in my business. I was just wondering what is so special about her on why she got a pass for having sex too soon.

[Joshua_H_1010011001]

Because it's like Schrödinger's cat.

It was too soon (socially) but also was perfectly fine (relationship)

It's hypocritical.

So she got a pass, because it was your brother.

If it was your brother's mate, he would have criticised.

The reasons for this are explained in the first reply.

[Asker]

@Joshua_H_1010011001 she didn’t cared about him she is a controlling bitch.

[Joshua_H_1010011001]

Oh well that too... She is willing to sacrifice her social standing / reputation to manipulate him by blinding him with the aparantly sacrifice for him, but it's actually to manipulate and blind him.

Yes that happens All the time lol.

The reson he did not judge her is because he is manipulated into thinking he is special... But she is just willing to take the hit because she is arrogant, thinks she will get away with it etc etc.

Hope that helps!

[Wise4myage]

Because he got laid, lol.