Do girls normally do this in relationships or was it to sabotage the relationship?

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Ok so she would frequently do very disgusting things such as fart while eating, when she was eating when I was eating a few times I had to get up and throw my food away because I was completely grossed out. She would sit there and pick her nose while I was eating, she would poop with the door standing wide open. She would leave mountains of clothes laying around where you couldn’t distinguish what was clean or dirty. She wouldn't take her trash to the the garbage and often times I would find empty candy bar wrappers, half eaten ice cream containers with the spoon stuck inside still and plates with dried up food mixed in with the clothes or buried. She also would let stuff sit in the fridge and rot one day I notice a patch of black at the bottom of the fridge and looked closer and it was a section of dead knats she would also sit food in the fridge and just leave it and have no intention of eating it again till it would turn black and moldy and I would have to throw it out. With our dogs she wouldn’t work with me in terms of training our first dog and he wasn’t completely house broken so when we would leave he would poop and pee on the floor. Well she ended up getting a puppy who made the issue larger cause rather then train it she stuck it in a a diaper and the puppy walked around in a soiled diaper with poop falling out and soaking wet with pee the puppy would get up and lay on the furniture and it would be wet and smell really bad of urine. My ex would say that’s just your sweat I would have to change multiple times a day from either stepping in pee or sitting in it with the combination of both dogs. Our apartment quickly became extremely unsanitary and she didn’t seem to care when I wanted to leave the dogs in the crate so this wouldn’t happen she flipped out to her friends and family saying I was trying to get her evicted cause the dogs would bark but that wasn’t it at all I felt that my health was at risk because of the living conditions

Oliverlogan263 · Accepted Answer

Dude, that sounds like some seriously messed up and disgusting behavior from your ex. I can't imagine having to deal with all that nasty stuff on a daily basis - the farting, nose-picking, leaving food and trash everywhere, the dogs constantly pooping and peeing all over. That's just straight-up unsanitary and disrespectful.

I don't think she was necessarily trying to sabotage the relationship, but she was definitely being extremely immature, inconsiderate and unhygienic. Some people just have really poor personal habits and hygiene, and they don't realize how much it can impact their partner. But you're not wrong for wanting to live in a clean, healthy environment.

The way her friends and family attacked you for trying to address the problem is also super messed up. They should have been supporting you in trying to maintain a sanitary living space, not turning on you. That's a huge red flag about the kind of people she had around her.

Honestly, it sounds like this relationship was doomed from the start, through no fault of your own. You deserve someone who values cleanliness and is willing to be a responsible, considerate partner. What your ex was doing was just plain disrespectful.

I'm sorry you had to go through that, dude. But you're better off without her and that toxic situation. Focus on finding people who will treat you and your living space with the respect you deserve. You got this, man.

Chevy1_kb · Accepted Answer

Ah ok I don't pick my nose or fart at dinner time at the table but I have farted in front of my ex or rift because I just like being me if guys get away with this why the fuck can't I holding your farts in causes stomach problems holding your rifts in can cause heartburn am single free a don't gotta listen to no cunt he done it in the relationship so the fuck did I we laughed sometimes no one likes me take a hike then I would only stop all this if I went with Uma thurman but pick my nose fuck that that would make me boke 🤢🤢