What can I do about it tho?

[Anonymous]

I met a police officer online on the 20th of December, we started talking and he wanted to meet but I said I wasn't ready for a relationship because I broke up 2 months ago and I don't wanna experience same things again. He asked me to give him a chance and he seemed like a good guy tho so I still gave a chance just in case if he will turn out to be someone who is really good for me. But then after he acted like he fell in love with me and his eyes only see me I saw him following 2 random girls after making me feel special. Then I asked about it and he immediately unfollowed them and asked for my forgiveness. Anyways we met in the morning and went to his home, on the first date he wanted to have intercourse but I said it's too early and I wasn't expecting this, and that's where I got disappointed already but I already fell in love with him and I was thinking he is already in love or else he wouldn't bother to touch me so I just ignored this red flag. On the second date he asked for it again and I rejected then he got aggresive and offended. I wanted to make up for it on the 3rd date because I was embarrassed... so we did it on the 3rd date then we became like we are dating 10 years like there was no excitement anymore and he never offered to take me to different places, he was always inviting me to his home and I complained about this yesterday and he left me on seen, didn't even tell me good night, and also didn't message me in the morning too but then messaged me around 18:23 saying "what are you doing" then I answered but he didn't answer back in 3 hours so I deleted the messages back cause I was annoyed. After that I saw he blocked me on instagram and whatsapp. Look at what the guy did who asked for a chance from me first. What should I do about it?

[Oliverlogan263]

Yikes girl, that's a whole lot of drama with this cop dude. It seems like he really played you from the start - love bombing you, pressuring you for sex, then pulling away and blocking you once he got what he wanted. What a total jerk!

You're right to feel so frustrated and hurt by his shady behavior. He totally took advantage of your vulnerability after your last breakup, and that's not okay at all. You deserve so much better than that.

I know it's really tempting to try to get answers or closure from him, but honestly, I wouldn't even bother trying to contact him anymore. It's clear he's not interested in having an actual respectful relationship with you. The best thing you can do is just cut your losses and move on.

The most important thing is to take care of yourself right now. Don't beat yourself up over falling for his manipulation - you were just trusting your heart, and there's nothing wrong with that. But now it's time to focus on rebuilding your confidence and self-worth, without this toxic guy in the picture.

Surround yourself with supportive friends and family, do things that make you feel good about yourself, and don't be afraid to lean on a counselor or therapist if you need extra support. You've got this, girl! Just give yourself time and space to heal from this mess.

When you're ready, get back out there and find someone who will truly appreciate you and treat you with the respect and care you deserve. This cop dude ain't it, and you're so much better off without him. Wishing you all the best! You got this.

[Asker]

Thankkkkk you sooo muchhh 😇😇😇

[ohsheeT]

Come on if he's done it once he's going to do it twice he's going to do it three times and four times he's a sweet talker he knows that he can keep trying and keep trying and like you said he has two other three other girls and he's doing the same thing with if you want a broken heart just keep going out with him if you want keep your heart say goodbye

[Changiis07]

He sounds like he is much older than you? Also you did the right thing by not wanting to sleep with him too soon and the fact that he got offended by that is a red flag. No guy should make you feel that way, it sounds like he just wanted sex and seeing who he can get it from. He more than likely has done this before since he is a cop he know women will be attracted to him. I wouldn't waste my time with him unless he shows you with his actions but from my experience he got what he wanted from you which was sex so yes the excitement goes away and that is why it is best to wait at least over 3 months to have sex with a guy so that you know if he wants to get to know you for you and not just use you for sex. Take your time and get to know a guy first before anything else. Make him work and take you out on dates and set boundaries. This guy already blocked you and taking 3 hours to respond? No guy who is interested in you should make you feel like that either

[Asker]

Exactly!! you said what needed to be said thank you so much ❤️ fell in love with your answer

[Asker]

I also asked him in the beginning like "you are young yet I don't think you are really in love with me right now because if you fell in love with me you wouldn't be able to easily flirt with me due to your excitement and so on" but he said "I warmed up to you quickly" and since I am someone with pure intentions I just fell for everything what he said

[Changiis07]

Yeah I've been there so I know how easily it is to like a guy who says "the right things" . You got to keep them on check and set boundaries early on even before an official relationship. With my current boyfriend I let him know early on when we were just on the talking phase that I don't like when guys like other women's picture on social media that I find disrespectful, I let him know of a lot of things that I do not like. I told him that I like to talk on the phone as well, specially when it comes to things that bother me because otherwise things get misinterpreted over text. It takes time but if a guy likes you he will start doing more of the things you set boundaries on. Guys like that you don't let things that bother you slide as long as there is no name calling etc

[Asker]

A man who is right won't even make a girl ask for some respect because he will already know what he should do and that's the most attractive thing ever. Imagine you don't even have to warn about something because they already know

[Asker]

Whoever truly loves you it won't be weigh for them to not be able to like other girl's picture etc because they won't even remember to do that or have thoughts about doing that. For example I didn't feel the need to add random dudes in my social media after I met him, evey other guy suddenly became unattractive to me, that's what it should be already, like I didn't stop myself from adding or something, I didn't even think about adding, that's really something different

[Summeroflove]

Seems like you’re not a good match. If he blocked you leave him the hell alone. “Oh he never offered” you’re not entitled if you want something tell him. Obviously you never offered either.

Avoid dating cops. They have too much going on. Too much trauma to put up with someone’s bullshit and TRUST ME cops have a HUGE bullshit detector. Because they deal with it on a daily basis.

I don’t feel like you’re someone who could support someone with the stresses of their job. I just feel like you would be a NAG and a burden.