Is it wrong to be snobby about internet dating?

[Anonymous]

I don't think it's right or romantic. It seems like you are flicking through an Argos catalogue opposed to finding love. Maybe it's a certain type of person that embraces them and that's not my type of man. Let me know you thoughts.

[Anonymous]

My response to that is the same as always.

It's fine to want to date a guy only over 6 feet tall. Just be advised that is only 14.5% of men

It's fine to want to date a guy who makes 100k. Just be advised that's only 17% of men.

I could keep going, but you get the idea. Now add all the "expectations" together and imagine what percentage of men that is.

The point is with every low percentage expectation you are drastically shrinking your dating options. And even after that's all said and done there's still the matter of, are they even a good person? Or do you have much in common?

I wouldn't tell anyone how to date. I would just tell them to keep their options open. The best match for a person is seldom their first choice.

[Anonymous]

So most girls tend to only swipe yes on the same old 4% of men, these guys then cheat as they literally have the pick of the crops, most normal guys experience of a dating app is hardly anyone ever talks, I'm lucky if I got 1 chat per 3 months, now I'm also picky, most girls my age (37) already have kids and are going through some divorce hating their baby daddies. I would like a family of my own but I'm concerned it's too late for me,

My best advice is stay away from avoidant attachment styles, they will not put in effort but are also a massive waste of time

[Asker]

What's an avoidant attachment, and how to spot them

[Opinion Owner]

Ooof you'll have to do research, down the YouTube and Google rabbit hole, but please don't fall for tricks of giving them any sympathy, they will run the more you try to sustain commitment and connection,

Instead please give your love to a secure or an anxious attachment as they will give you that love and loyalty in return 💗

[Asker]

I think I am anxious attachment but need ask for an external perspective if it is ever misinterpreted as avoid attachment. I'm extremely loyal and want to love a guy but thing the anxiety may be an issue in repelling a guy (not plural I only would like one guy not many)

[Opinion Owner]

I am the same I get you

[Opinion Owner]

I am also a loyal person too who wants to love a girl and settle down, but you're right it's like an Argos catalogue and I think being picky and having a personal preference is very important to who you want to spend your life with

[Levin]

Well you're right. Internet dating can be used to escape putting in some effort in real life, or fixing your own problems.

[ylmzz]

No, I think it is more reliable to meet on the internet because you cannot understand what you are in reality, but you can find out who you are by getting to know you well on the internet.

[Asker]

What about those wasted attempts where the picture is old and they look nothing like that

[ylmzz]

so you haven't researched it well, I'm sorry, get well soon.

[Asker]

That's true, do you think people are different online to in person?

[ylmzz]

some people show themselves differently than they are, this is due to insecurity, but we as the other party need to investigate this well.

[slatyb]

It worked well for my wife and me.

[In_Trance]

whatever works for you