What attracts you to people?

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Physically, emotionally,... let me know 🤗

BobbieBoy666 · Accepted Answer

Several factors contribute to attraction, encompassing both physical and personality traits, as well as social and psychological elements.
Key Factors in Attraction:
Physical Attractiveness:
While not the sole determinant, physical appearance plays a role in initial attraction. This is often linked to perceived health and reproductive fitness, with individuals tending to find symmetrical features and "average" faces appealing.
Similarity:
People are often drawn to those who share similar values, interests, backgrounds, and even physical traits. This creates a sense of understanding, comfort, and validation.
Reciprocity:
We tend to be more attracted to those who show interest in us. The feeling of being liked and accepted strengthens the connection and fosters attraction.
Personality Traits:
Certain personality traits like kindness, humor, intelligence, and emotional warmth are highly attractive. Agreeableness, extraversion, and a sense of humor are consistently cited as desirable qualities.
Shared Values and Beliefs:
Having similar moral and ethical standards, life goals, and religious or political views can create a strong foundation for attraction and long-term compatibility.
Familiarity:
The mere exposure effect suggests that repeated exposure to someone can increase liking and attraction. This explains why we might be drawn to colleagues, neighbors, or classmates.
Social Status and Resources:
In some cases, social status, wealth, or perceived resources can be attractive factors. This might be rooted in evolutionary drives for security and survival.
Trust and Dependability:
Being able to trust and rely on someone is crucial for building strong relationships. Trustworthiness, reliability, and emotional stability are highly attractive qualities.
Kindness and Empathy:
Individuals who demonstrate genuine kindness, empathy, and compassion are often seen as attractive and desirable partners or friends.
Confidence and Self-Esteem:
While not necessarily arrogance, healthy confidence and self-esteem can be attractive. It suggests a sense of security, self-assuredness, and the ability to handle life's challenges.
Types of Attraction:
Physical Attraction:
This is the most basic form, focusing on physical appearance, body language, and perceived aesthetic appeal.
Social Attraction:
This type of attraction is based on liking someone's personality, sense of humor, and social skills. You enjoy spending time with them and find them enjoyable to be around.
Task Attraction:
This involves being drawn to someone's skills, abilities, or talents. You might admire their intelligence, expertise, or competence in a particular area.
Emotional Attraction:
This involves a deep connection and emotional bond. You feel comfortable and safe sharing your feelings and thoughts with this person.
Romantic Attraction:
This is characterized by a strong desire for a romantic relationship, including intimacy, love, and commitment.
Sexual Attraction:
This involves physical desire and a strong sexual interest in someone.
In essence, attraction is a complex interplay of various factors, including physical characteristics, personality traits, shared values, and social dynamics. While initial attraction might be sparked by physical appearance or a shared interest, long-lasting connections are often built on deeper compatibility, trust, and mutual respect.

Zack-Bann · Accepted Answer

I think it’s a culmination of influence from fictional and real life people that had an impact on us growing up

Effectively developing our “type”

Here’s a direct example:
I looked at your profile picture before answering and I actually had a to do a double take because you’re an identical twin to my biggest high school crush (before she got married and felt pressured to get cosmetic surgery)
So even though I know nothing about you and you can be the devil incarnate all I can think is “attractive”

Malriarch1990 · Accepted Answer

Intelligence, the ability to have a mature and rational conversation even when opinions differ strongly, a tenor or baritone voice, a gentle giant (have always liked my men 6’1 or more), not pushy about sex (see the 80s song “One Night in Bangkok” with the line “I get my kicks above the waistline, Sunshine.”), honest, communicative, empathic, trustworthy can sing or play an instrument, can cook, and is willing to learn if not already able to do car maintenance and house repairs (I can teach those things.) Someone who believes the relationship is exclusive and won’t sexually wander. Also NOT into sport hunting, violence, pornography, any kind of animal cruelty. Someone who embodies all the good characteristics of a good, faithful, Newfoundland dog.

Beckybooboo · Accepted Answer

Emotionally, I'm attracted to a guy that has close a close bond with his family and a small group of friends, seems friendly and approachable (mainly a friendly smile) and I'm a sucker for a good sense of humor. Physically, I like darker hair and eyes, a friendly smile and someone that's in relatively good shape.

ohsheeT · Answer

They're. Quietness their wisdom their strengths their heart who they are as a person they're laughter their smile their happiness their touch their touch with their eyes the way they speak and the way they speak with their eyes there's a beauty that comes from the inside that you can feel as you communicate with them and it's beautiful. And that makes me curious and want more I don't like loud people at all are people that create drama

HawkPerception · Answer

A girl that dresses feminine always catches my attention

Also similarities. If a girl loves the same things I do, has the same views as me, same sense of humor, same sexual desires, I'm likely falling for her.

If it's just friends we're talking about, then kind people that have good energy are good enough.

Finchie40 · Answer

Her beauty and personality and the way she presents herself , if she is beautiful to my eyes and has a great personality that makes me smile and she is down to earth and has good morals , I will be very attracted to her. I love submissive girls’ that like to dress up sexy for me and I love the way she looks at me as well. A girl that knows how to treat a man , is a huge turn on to me.

AviatorTom · Answer

Pheromones, those subtle things that most of us don't notice.

DishLady · Answer

Depends. I get vibes off folks so I just trust that.

Valdemort · Answer

Usually I first notice their sense of humor. I'm very blunt and live for puns, so someone who matches those will always grab my attention. Especially when roasting gets involved.
After that, it's respect towards others (as this isn't always noticeable at first); openness to different outlooks and opinions; comfort in silence. Sometimes I like to be in someone's presence without having to talk. I really found my people with that one.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

I like cute guys on the average side since I am average, tho I don't really have a type. Then I like personality, finding a guy with emotional maturity is so refreshing to me. I love a guy who always knows what to say and can calm my insecurities with one sentence. Instead of a guy who makes me feel worse about myself if I say something. I like a good sense of humour and just someone laid back who I can feel comfortable with.

Nightmoon23 · Answer

When I was single and I was looking for a woman the first thing that attracted me to them was there smile I knew if they had a good smile it would be nice when I made them laugh a lot.

I would say the next thing is connecting on an emotional level I like talking and communicating how I feel and if they are there listening and paying attention that means a lot to me.

lastly physicality is important to me I love hugging and hold and kissing whoever I’m with so if they don’t like it that’s fine but that’s how I show my love.

NathanDavis · Answer

more than anything... genuine confidence, which can look in a few different ways

more than that, I do like the smart, the interesting and the funny people as well

when someone likes and can be their authentic selves, I will always find that attractive and interesting, and intriguing as well...

Tarifa · Answer

Their generosity. Not just with material things, but being generous with their feelings, true to themselves. Wanting to share special moments with you.

Not being afraid to show their own vulnerable side. Not trying to be perfect, but trying to be as close as they can get, admitting their own little quirks that make them truly unique.

lilBigPotato · Answer

Intelligence and humour are most important. Also love when a guy manages to get my to think... Just stimulate me mentally.

Physically, nothing too crazy... Of course tall and fit is nice, got a weakness for nice eyes and large hands. Prefer dark hair but not too important

virtualwasp · Answer

Loyalty, being a decent person. Sounds simple and easy but it's like finding a needle in a hay stack these days. I posted a question of similar people stick together, wondering if the good keep do.

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

Looks wise-rugged but still clean, colored eyes, tattoos, wavy hair, clear skin, nice teeth, beards, and someone tall.

personality- someone kind, great sense of humor, a bit sarcastic, golden retriever energy, loves kids, is family/friend oriented, silly, and most importantly is religious.

RHK36 · Answer

Initially just how I feel when I look at her. It's usually a combination of features and mannerisms like her voice, how she carries herself, how she looks, her smile etc. After that how she is as a person, her laugh and how she thinks. If she's trash personality wise the initial attraction wears off quick, but if her personality is way better I'm probably falling hard even if it's one sided unfortunately lol.

itsannalee · Answer

First sight, of course physically. Then emotionally, if I don’t attract to the physically, I won’t bother to try to know their emotionally.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

their minds... different perspectives... unique traits... great things about them... and those that still need to be worked on...

BenBomm · Answer

Physically
How much she makes me laugh
No druggies
The way her eyes sparkle when she looks at me
Great in bed
A good job.
Cooking, cleaning etc can be done by other people.
I just want to make her happy & be my soul mate. Yes TMI but hey

Kaneki05 · Answer

Her voice, scent, looks (Long hair, breasts bigger the better, gothic are thy preferences, happily date outside of that though), humour, affectionate and having similar interests.

Still-alive · Answer

Yeah looks at first... but the big ones for me are sense of humor, empathy and at least decent communication skills (being able to say what exactly is upsetting you for instance instead of hoping i get it)

HungTexan · Answer

It’s usually physical attraction to begin with, but it’s also mannerisms, sound of her voice, etc.

whereismyjohnny · Answer

Genuine kindness, manners, intelligence, quirks.

Jennz6 · Answer

I’m attracted to men that are full of knowledge, and a sense of humor. Plus physical attributes.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

Sexual attraction first, emotional intelligence second, and we drive and grow each other to be better third.

Twalli · Answer

Physically is slim or athletic body with small boobs. Preferably not extremely tall, although I don't care that much about height. Emotionally is externally happy or joyous.

Staximus · Answer

When as woman is at ease around me, makes me laugh, is not deceptive, is affectionate, likes old stuff

Circushowcowboy · Answer

Fun personality, being a genuine good person, intelligence. Physically I am attracted to a lot of looks, pretty is pretty

PrinceWalnut · Answer

Not being a boring person. I swear I've met walls more interesting than half the people on dating apps

Anonymous · Answer

Kind people , you don’t find that much in today’s world , I just want a guy who’s genuinely kind and not fake.

Yellovv · Answer

I like big black eyes on girls, they are looking pretty, also I like well groomed feet on girls if I need to be honest, specially polished toes..

Brucewayne123 · Answer

Hey @lisia it’s loverofbooty… it’s been too long! Can you message me so we can catch up?

Coden7 · Answer

Physical attraction to get my attention. Personality to keep me around

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

What you have.  Super sweet, super smart, super amazing, super awesome, super wonderful and super pretty.

Knightwatch27 · Answer

I find a peverse amount of irony for someone saying they're "moneysexual" on their profile to tell others to "dig deep".

nudeNhorny · Answer

Physically I like soft skin and fit bodt, it turns me on. Emotionally I like a warm, loving, caring person.

Iron_Man · Answer

Beauty, strong character, loyalty, charm, wisdom, great strength having the eye of the Tiger

Goahead76 · Answer

Personality. As Samuel L Jackson said in Pulp Fiction, "personality goes a long way.

Darkest-Knight · Answer

She has to be breathing. After that anything goes.

AmeerX · Answer

If they show interest in what I do I get attracted to them

TallAnon · Answer

I feel like describing this would be akin to writing a novel 🤣

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Honesty, decency, trustworthiness. Character, bluntly.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Kindness, femininity, purity, intelligence, a great smile...

Jerre · Answer

Their overall looks, face, personality, breasts, intelligence

FenixG45 · Answer

Intelligence, humor, honesty, loyalty, caring. NOT money.

MikeTheGreek1979 · Answer

Her Legs. But personally someone who can be silly. And can be real.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Intelligence a good personality and a great sense of humor and im a sucker for a nice smile

Anonymous · Answer

I like dominant girls, combination of looks and assertive personality.

sage2021 · Answer

Their sense of humor 😉

Billlewis · Answer

How confident she is.

Wise4myage · Answer

Looks, interest and personality

clampfan101 · Answer

More things that I can simply list.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Interesting (to me) ideas and hobbies.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Both plus their personality and character!

Eros91 · Answer

My legs i’m told and out going personality.

GAGsucksballs89170 · Answer

Not you, that's for sure

MikeRJ · Answer

To a crush, or to people in general?

Cheerfull009 · Answer

Phyisic and attitude

jjj101010 · Answer

Depends on the girl

jamesgoldman · Answer

Their gold

Anonymous · Answer

Kindness.

Anonymous · Answer

Her Ass

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