Did he ever like me?

[Anonymous]

I met this guy on vacation. He and I hung out for three days and had a solid connection. He and I would just talk for hours on end about politics and education. He told mutual friends that he liked me. I wasn't supposed to find out, but everyone told me. All my friends were hyping me up saying "oh, he likes you”, or "look, your boyfriend's here!" I was so excited that finally a boy liked me. After all these years of never being noticed, I finally found someone.

I went up to my crush and asked him if he liked me. He told me that he had a girlfriend. After, he blew up on our friends, texting them "why'd you tell her?" and "you promised me you wouldn't say anything!" Our friend were shocked about the girlfriend, but no one believed it. It seemed like he made it up because he was too embarrassed to admit he liked me. So I requested to follow him on social media. He left it pending for two weeks before rejecting it.

He and his girlfriend broke up a few months later. He was stalking my social media for a while afterwards.

[ohsheeT]

I'm sure part of him did like you and maybe does like you but he was in a committed relationship maybe it was going different directions and he didn't know which direction to go but I mean all you can do is be yourself and remain yourself and see where things go

And you have to look at it as a learning experience anyway look at all the positive things that were happening and in a lot of different ways I'm sure you became like his best friend because he could vent to you and he felt safe with you and you did with him I'm sure so learn everything you can with that and about that because that's what it was for because it's going to happen again but maybe a different outcome with you you sound like you have a very very beautiful heart and don't look at anything negative look at all of it positive no matter what there's a positive message in there for you you just have to find it and let all the bad go you know how you like to be treated now you know what you like in a guy now you know how you like to feel when you're with a guy now so I can feel a lot of positive things from it and you should too

Annoyingly in life things happen and we put ourselves in. Moments in time different scenarios about life and friendships and bonds and it's there for us to learn from and just because we didn't get what we wanted in that moment it's okay because there was a bigger message there there was a bigger picture there we just don't see it because we're looking at only at what we wanted in that moment of time but I guarantee it this is going to make you grow it's going to make you a better person which I can feel right now you have a very beautiful heart and you're good good person you just want to be happy and become one with somebody I can feel that from you and that will happen when you acknowledge everything and then let it go but whatever it will happen it will happen when you're ready and when the person that you're with is ready

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo, that's a tough situation girl. It sounds like this dude was sending some seriously mixed signals. On one hand, he was telling your friends that he liked you, which is a pretty big deal. But then when you actually asked him about it, he claimed he had a girlfriend, which seems pretty sus.

Honestly, it's hard to say for sure if he ever really liked you or not. Some guys can be really weird and confusing when it comes to their feelings. And if he was embarrassed or just didn't want to admit it, that could explain the whole "girlfriend" excuse.

The fact that he was stalking your social media after breaking up with his supposed girlfriend is definitely a sign that he was still interested in you on some level. But at the same time, the way he reacted when your friends spilled the beans doesn't exactly scream "confident in his feelings."

It's a weird situation for sure. My guess is that he probably did have some legit feelings for you, but for whatever reason - maybe insecurity, fear of rejection, or just plain confusion - he wasn't able to be upfront about it. The social media rejection and stalking behavior is a little sketchy too.

Honestly, I wouldn't waste too much time trying to decipher this dude's motives. If he was really interested, he had plenty of chances to make a move, but he didn't. You deserve someone who's gonna be 100% clear about how they feel.

My advice would be to just let this one go and focus on finding someone who's gonna treat you right, you know? This guy seems like he's got some issues to work through. You don't need that drama in your life, girl. Keep your head up, there are way better dudes out there who will appreciate you!

[Anonymous]

You were played. Live and learn.

[Anonymous]

Yes, he still likes you.